Dumped by boyfriend after he invited me to spend Easter holiday with him at his parents’s house

[lovewarandroses]

Hey guys I was dumped yesterday by my boyfriend that I have been since January. Honestly he and I have been together since January and everything was going well until yesterday. So he invited me to go to his parents house for Easter holidays and I did ( his parents are not around they are in Spain ) so it was just me and him . I got to his parents house on Friday morning and we had a really good day and we became intimate in the evening and it was really good. We were intimate again yesterday morning but about 3 hours after he just switched on me quickly ( he started saying that we were moving too fast and he said he would like to take me to the train station so that I can go back to London) his parents lives in Kent. I was quite devastated and hurt to be honest as I had put so much effort in this relationship and not only that I was excited to spend Easter holiday with him ( we had so many things planned ahead) now I feel hurt, confused, devastated and upset at the same time. I feel like I have been treated unkindly ( he said he realised that we were just different and that me and him were not going to work in the long run) he was just all over me a few minutes before saying this. The whole thing was so bizarre and strange to me, how do I move forward from this ? ( why can’t I just find someone to like me for me, my self esteem has been hit by this) I really liked this guy so this is very difficult for me to process… I just feel like crying …. When i got home he called and messaged me apologising to me for hurting me and ruining my Easter holiday but unfortunately I still feel very hurt and I do miss him terribly ….

Oh my word why wouldn’t you be dumping HIM after aa weekend like that?!

Reply to his last text, “apology just about accepted, have a nice life”. Then block him.

I keep pushing good people away from me. Wah wah wah.

Like a poster says up there...hoovering, head-fucking, self pitying bullshit.

I had spoken out for the guy's honesty and straightforwardness earlier in the thread...but with your anal sex update (no fucking thanks) and that message, I can see he's just a common garden worm after all.

I find this thread quite disturbing, the sex is described as 'really good' in the OP, when it obviously wasn't.

He sounds like a predator to me, getting her alone, away from home, before pressuring her into sex she didn't want. He planned it.

Block and move on. He clearly has issues and you deserve better.

how awful that you have been through a weekend like that . How dare he treat you with such disrespect the first time you have sex ! Get rid . His problems Are not your problems. You deserve so much better.

Is this a thing women have to put up with now? Being pressured in to anal sex? What a turn off.
I'd rather be single.

That’s the least of it.
Many men demand very violent and degrading sex these days.
And mist of them cheat anyway..,
It’s awful out here!
I’ve chosen to stay single, safer that way.

Her message is pretty clear to be fair

OP. You have nothing to feel ashamed of or concerned about with regards to you or the way you approached the relationship.

Run.

He is not worth your time, thoughts or concern.

Keep busy and you'll soon forget him and meet someone worthy of you x

Listen to @winkybean

Thise are wise words.

I wouldn’t have waited for him to finish things - I would have left on Friday

I do think he’s gay but he’s also not a gentleman and he’s a user

Thank you all so much for your words of encouragement and support ( it means so much to me) I didn’t respond to his message but he did sent me another message after that and here is the message “I have been feeling raw about it today as we have been close for a long time and you were a big part of my life of the last few months” I went for a run earlier today and just had sushi so I do feel way better even though I’m still not totally over what happened ( I know with time I will be fine )… I think I’m just going to stay single for a while and focus on myself (once again thank you all) …

Don't answer.

Why does he mention that HE is feeling better? No one did anything to him. He should ask how you are.

His behaviour is something to worry about. I think he has issues and believes himself to be the center of the universe. Just leave it and don't answer him.

Don’t answer. I don’t think this is salvageable. Look after yourself.

God he’s self absorbed isn’t he

Not a single word about how you might be feeling. That tells you all you need to know about him.

I think it was the op who said she was feeling better not him.

But otherwise very self centered from him.

In what way was my well meaning advice and life experience "A BiT DRamATic"?

Or do you just like trying to feel clever on mumsnet?

Is all you do here on mumsnet come on here to rubbish other peoples advice and opinions?

You are very rude.

Bit dramatic.

Telling s

Telling someone it’s lame to retort they were shit in bed anyway when the whole point of the thread is that he has sexual issues and is sexually incompatible with the op isn’t rude.

The rest of my advice to op wasn’t rude either.

Temperamental phone 🤨. The quote was meant to be in response to the crazyshitzulady.

Lol 😁

The naval gazing is string with this one.

Fk, I don't think I'd have been able to resist replying that my arse was feeling raw too, and if he ever becomes capable of having normal vaginal intercourse with a woman to look me up sometime; or actually... Don't. Cause I'd rather not be dumped again and told to leave half way through a weekend after sex, and then sent self indulgent, hoovering, self pitying, self obsessed, zero empathy messages afterwards (when I'm the victim of such shitty behaviour).

Fucked up does not describe this guy.

He's also a absolute porn addled mess, or closer something, fk knows. The only person he'd be any use to is a psychiatrist as an interesting study.

*closet