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Dumped by boyfriend after he invited me to spend Easter holiday with him at his parents’s house

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lovewarandroses · 09/04/2023 06:13

Hey guys I was dumped yesterday by my boyfriend that I have been since January. Honestly he and I have been together since January and everything was going well until yesterday. So he invited me to go to his parents house for Easter holidays and I did ( his parents are not around they are in Spain ) so it was just me and him . I got to his parents house on Friday morning and we had a really good day and we became intimate in the evening and it was really good. We were intimate again yesterday morning but about 3 hours after he just switched on me quickly ( he started saying that we were moving too fast and he said he would like to take me to the train station so that I can go back to London) his parents lives in Kent. I was quite devastated and hurt to be honest as I had put so much effort in this relationship and not only that I was excited to spend Easter holiday with him ( we had so many things planned ahead) now I feel hurt, confused, devastated and upset at the same time. I feel like I have been treated unkindly ( he said he realised that we were just different and that me and him were not going to work in the long run) he was just all over me a few minutes before saying this. The whole thing was so bizarre and strange to me, how do I move forward from this ? ( why can’t I just find someone to like me for me, my self esteem has been hit by this) I really liked this guy so this is very difficult for me to process… I just feel like crying …. When i got home he called and messaged me apologising to me for hurting me and ruining my Easter holiday but unfortunately I still feel very hurt and I do miss him terribly ….

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Oblomov23 · 15/04/2023 08:15

Poor you. This is all odd. The sex. Not having had sex for 4 months is even more odd, and then having it on a weekend away at his parents house, before him dumping you, is very peculiar.

strategichearts · 15/04/2023 08:48

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lovewarandroses · 28/05/2023 13:21

Wow OP here I was just reading this thread - it’s been a while cutting the story short I found out why he behaved the way he did ( at the time I felt something was off but I couldn’t pin point what it was exactly) Anyway I have been through a lot since this day and my life has been a disaster since then….. It feel surreal that I was hurt by this because this is nothing to how my has been since this day! Horrific is putting it mildly, I’m going to miss being on this forum with strong women who supports other women…..

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solice84 · 28/05/2023 14:36

@lovewarandroses what did you find out ?

module · 28/05/2023 15:01

That's a very ambiguous post OP, why can't you carry on being on this forum?

Is the weird bloke still in the picture? You sound in a bad place.

ImaniMumsnet · 28/05/2023 15:55

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lovewarandroses · 28/05/2023 16:03

I found out later that this guy that was an enemy disguised as a friend had reached out to him and they had been speaking since March ( this former friend had been saying some really terrible things about me behind my back) and no he is not in the picture anymore …. When reading this thread I realised I was hurt then by his behaviour but that was just the beginning of the mess that I’m in right now. Tbh he even invited me to his parents’s house whilst speaking to this guy behind my back ( I felt betrayed and hurt when I first found out ) He should have just left me alone rather than inviting me and smiling at me whilst talking to someone that was slandering my name…. If I had known what was happening then there is no way I would have gone to his family house!! … I have a lot of resentment and anger towards the whole situation tbh and you were right all along!!! When me and him started dating I thought he was the sweetest guy ever and tbh people are allowed to end relationships when they don’t want to anymore but it’s the way he deceived me that didn’t sit right with me…. My life has been such a disaster (that’s even putting it mildly) I have my own reasons why I won’t be posting here anymore in the future…. Tbh life has been very hard for me lately and my mental health has really deteriorated massively because of this whole mess that I’m in ….. Tbh I thought I should give an update on why his behaviour was so erratic that weekend and sorry for coming back and giving an update now (I had really big issues to worry about)

I hope this post makes things a bit more clearer now and if you have any questions you can ask me and I will be able to answer them .

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module · 28/05/2023 16:19

Sorry to hear things aren't great OP, sounds like a horrible experience.

Look after yourself, hopefully life will be kinder soon. Flowers

lovewarandroses · 28/05/2023 16:32

Thank you!

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KatherineJaneway · 29/05/2023 07:21

Take care of yourself OP, things will get better Flowers

lovewarandroses · 29/05/2023 11:23

KatherineJaneway · 29/05/2023 07:21

Take care of yourself OP, things will get better Flowers

Thank you!

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