AIBU to say he can’t extend his holiday?

[Youarelreadyenough]

We have moved to a lovely location in the South West, our dream place with land, no neighbours etc. almost a holiday destination!

In the last year we have had a few visitors, all for a week except 1 who is now bordering on 4 months here over 3 visits. We love him but it’s very very hard having someone else in your personal space for such an extended period of time and this time around I am really struggling with it and it’s affecting my mental health. He hasn’t done anything wrong and is a lovely helpful guest but it’s just the fact he is there.

He owns and lives in a holiday chalet where he cannot live for 2 months of the year and I think he just assumed he could live here during that time and does not have a back up plan.

He is currently dropping hints about extending his current stay which is due to be up next week and I think he’s hoping to stay until the end of February. I absolutely cannot cope with this but feel terrible that he has nowhere else to go.

AIBU to say no?

That’s a terrific update, OP! Well done you.

Massive pat on the back! Well done! The sky's the limit!!!

Well done!!!

Well done OP, this is great news!

ANOTHER UPDATE

AND MASSIVE THANKS TO YOU LOVELY LOT.

Couldn’t have done it without the support. He went this morning. I’ve spent the day breathing sighs of relief and just telling my dogs how how happy I am. He tried yesterday the ‘I haven’t got anywhere to go’ (as in everyone he tried said no) so I booked him two nights in a hotel and left him to it.

All my budding plants and veg have died because I haven’t been mentally fit to take care of them but starting over is a small price to pay!

Thank you again, so so much you’ve helped this random internet stranger more than you know.

Great news OP!
And everyone said no because he's a pain who won't move on and takes the piss.
You can start again with the plants and so on.
Enjoy the springtime in the garden and with the dogs.

Well done, you are so strong and amazing.

Tell him you've moved and give him a fake address!

Ah I've only just found this. Just wanted to say yay op. go you!

Have a wonderful weekend. Give your dogs a big old cuddle and enjoy your lovely home

@Youarelreadyenough 💐glad he's away , plz concentrate on yourself, ur amazing 💐

Whoop!
Practice your reply to the next request.
If he rings you, say I'm not sure I'll get back to you.
Hang up.
Text him back 5 min later 'hi, my mental health took a big hit last time I had visitors so I've drawn a hard line and am saying no visitors. I hope you get sorted soon'

I'm so happy for you (and the dogs). Just enjoy the peace and your lovely quiet space.

By any chance does/did he have a key to your place? If he does/did you may want to consider changing the lock barrels if you think he'd be the type to let himself back in.

I just came back to this thread to see if there were any developments and was very sad to hear how things were going with him announcing he'd stay to end Feb and your reaction to that. I hope you're better now. Then I read on.....

Well done for finally getting rid of him. I'd love to know what actually was said so he saw fit to clear out at long last but it's none of my business. Bravado, booze and the joined ranks of MN support got you there. Yay!!

Now stay firm on him only coming back for an agreed short visit (if ever) and change locks if you need to. He bought property that can't be lived in all year round so has to sort himself out without imposing on you., simple as that.

What an ass he is! Having nowhere to go. He has everywhere to go. You are a hero! Good for you.

Fantastic news!!

WELL DONE!!!

Just seen this update - well done OP!!!!