What would happen if I didn’t collect DS from after school club?

[Confusedandtired21]

Just that really? Due to be collected before 6pm
I feel beyond able to cope with life at the moment. I have Adhd, asd and bipolar. No one can help so that’s that! So if I didn’t collect him what would happen to him. Would children’s services just get involved? I don’t want this for him but I feel like I don’t have much options left. He’s not hard work or anything, he’s a lovely boy which makes this even harder. I just think he’s he would better off in a different situation with someone other than me

OP you've done so well to get through today. In the morning make an appointment with your GP and show them this thread

Thinking if you tonight x

Please ring them back. Please take the help. You said they released you too early in September - you know what needs to happen deep down. Do it for your children- even though it’ll be hard for a short while now. It’ll be worth it if you get to stay for them.

I would show them this thread if I could send it to them but I can’t read it out, I’m not good with words lol

It depends where you live. They call the police first who will then try to get in contact with you while your DS stays somewhere else (usually a police station where I am) with another police officer and a social worker if you’re lucky. If you aren’t then their will be frantic calls to social services to get them there. If you are very lucky a foster carer or childrens home will be availble for emergency care. In not then they will have no choice but to take a child to a hotel but they would need 2 social workers and that can sometimes take hours. In the meantime your child stays at the police station and it can be very, very frightening. The best thing you can do for your DS is call social services in the morning and let them know you’re struggling - your son will get the best possible care in that instance.

Yes, you can go to hospital. Even if you have kids. Do you know who just rang you and asked? Call her back and say yes, you do need to go and you'll need emergency care for the children.

You should be able to text or email the crisis team! For people like me lol

@Confusedandtired21 I had really bad PND when my DD was 4 months old and genuinely believed that she would be better without me. I was planning either suicide or to have her adopted so that she could have a better life. She was EBF and I loved her so much that I wouldn't leave her hungry so I had to move her to a bottle before I did anything. I posted on here about the possibility of having her adopted and the responses to that post saved my life. I'm in a much better place now. Not every day is perfect but I'm generally much happier.
I just want to share with you coz you seem to be in a similar place to where I was.
I believe in you and know that you can get through this x

I don’t know the name of the woman who called me but I have a number

Is it a mobile number you have for her OP?
If so, you can text her if its easier. Or even text her a link to this thread?

Can you call the crisis team and ask if you can email them? I'm sure you wouldn't be the first person to not be able to explain things over the phone.

@Confusedandtired21

I don’t know the name of the woman who called me but I have a number

Please don't worry, you won't need to remember anyone's name. Just call them and ask them to read this thread. Thinking of you.

Just had a call, they’ve contacted my son (to look after the younger kids) who doesn’t live here anymore, hasn’t at all for the last year, and asked him to come round and he said ok after work. I’m quite annoyed as I didn’t need him to know about any of this

How are you doing?

Have you managed to call the lady back?

You aren't alone.

You need to stay for yourself and your kids. Please reach out for help OP. There's a you in the future that will be so proud that you survived this. xxx

I can understand why you would be annoyed but that does sound like it may be a good thing. Could you go to hospital when he arrives maybe?

If your son is an adult, OP, they probably thought he’d be a familiar person to take care of of his younger siblings.

I know it’s hard, but people close to you need to know that you need help, because then they can do something. I’m sure your DS will just want to support you.💐

But he has to go to work and isn’t responsible for me

The woman who came round earlier is it a mobile number? If so text her how you feel, I've done this before with the MH nurses, it's easier to write then do it.

It just makes me feel like it’s another child I’m affecting!!

Dear Confusedandired, just to say no I don't think any of the negative terms you've used to describe your thoughts are fair - you're not self-centred etc, you're just at your limit.

Thinking about getting drunk and then sitting down in the cold sounds like a pretty concrete suicide plan to me. Pls tell it to whatever team or case worker you can get on the phone. It's outrageous how you have been abandoned by the services that should be concerned with your conditions.

Please, please for the sake of your little one and your own, and all your children, and other people somewhere out there who care even if they don't
show it enough, stay alive. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts.

I’m not doing this with my son coming round. Duck that

I would ring my mental health team
But how would I start the conversation?

I'm not suggesting ringing, text or email's good enough too.

I often have to email or text mine as it's easier than talking.

Hi op. I know you're feeling awful but this feeling will be temporary. What you decide now will be permanent. Your kids love and need you.

I'm autistic too and hardly leave the house.

Just getting the kids tea and uniform sorted wears me out. It's your MH issues it's not your fault.

Ask for help.

@Confusedandtired21

I would ring my mental health team But how would I start the conversation?

You could say "I'm not coping. I need help"

You are not weak or failing or anything of those things. You're poorly abd you need someone to lean on, just for a little while.