What would happen if I didn’t collect DS from after school club?

[Confusedandtired21]

Just that really? Due to be collected before 6pm
I feel beyond able to cope with life at the moment. I have Adhd, asd and bipolar. No one can help so that’s that! So if I didn’t collect him what would happen to him. Would children’s services just get involved? I don’t want this for him but I feel like I don’t have much options left. He’s not hard work or anything, he’s a lovely boy which makes this even harder. I just think he’s he would better off in a different situation with someone other than me

Are you worried about social services taking your children op? The way you are feeling, it would not be a bad thing if they look after the kids while you are feeling like this. Far far better than you trying to end your life, please don't do that. No matter how bad you think things are, your children love you and need you. You can get through this.

Hi OP. I am so sorry you are feeling like this. Please, please keep talking on here.

Wish I lived closer to you so I could help.

Why don't you ring police and ask them for help? Please tell them ot show them this thread xxxx

@Confusedandtired21

No he has no anther parent he can go to. I’ll get him. I just feel like it may be better if if I didn’t! My auntie killed her self and her kids think it was the best thing that ever happened to them

None of us know the circumstances regarding your aunt, but if that is true it is very, very unusual.

Your little lad needs you. Nobody can love him like you do.

I hope you manage to get some help

I don't really have any advice just want to say hang in there, the world is not a better place without you. Your kids want and need you. Big hugs x

Please just take it one minute to the next. Nothing matters other than you just get through tonight. Takeaways, telly , going to bed, none of it matters. Your kids will be alright. You will be alright.
You don’t need to do anything right now. Tomorrow will take care of itself, just do what you need to do now. Why not give the kids the takeaway, put some shit on telly (or whatever your kids like) and have an early night.
I feel your anguish and pain, I really do. But giving up is not the solution.
I used to cut myself and it temporarily worked. It was fucking great, briefly. But it wasn’t the solution .
You don’t think that things can get better, but they can. Give it a go.
All my love and strength.
X

I am not completely stupid. I emphasise and wonder if my son would think I didn’t love him and if he wasn’t enough for me to stay. I’ve just gone past caring about anything. Which I know makes me horrible!

Please OP can you call the police and tell them or show them this thread...

I am so sorry you are feeling like this. Maybe with the right meds and support you can get through this. Your kids love you and need you.

Social services will be able to help and support you and give you some respite.

Sending love and hugs to you xxx

Oh lovely, I'm so sorry that you're feeling so terrible, keep going and hopefully help will be along very soon

@Confusedandtired21 I'm so sorry you feel like you need to end it all, please don't.

I know how awful anxiety is, some days I can't focus either (see my thread about eating) but you are doing everything you can to help yourself and your boys.

School will help, I sent a subtle email to my DDs headteacher about struggling and she arranged some support for DD, I am also a single parent so know how hard it is.

Well done for asking for help, and I hope it gets better for you and be kind to yourself, especially if no-one else will. I'm only a message away if you want a chat.

I’m just not enough right now for either of them. I can’t help when I feel even worse about the diagnosis. I can deal with the Adhd and bipolar diagnosis but not the asd diagnosis. I sound ridiculous I know

Please see what you have suggested ( hypothermia death) as part of your illness and not what you really should do.
As a previous poster suggested, maybe call the police.

Having to try to function in a life I didn’t ask for. That’s what my kids probably feel

@Confusedandtired21

I am not completely stupid. I emphasise and wonder if my son would think I didn’t love him and if he wasn’t enough for me to stay. I’ve just gone past caring about anything. Which I know makes me horrible!

You don't sound stupid at all. Or horrible.

You sound like somebody who is struggling and needs a bit of help XxX

Sweetheart you sound so low. I really feel for you. The not being able to tell people how bad things have got is masking behaviour because of the ADHD. I’m so sorry they closed the clinic and withdrew medication- you must feel so alone and abandoned with no way back. This world is a better place for having you in it- you’re very unwell right now and need to use the last little bit of strength I can see in you to make them realise that you need someone to help you. That’s all you need to do. Ask for help. Stay.

Just had someone ring me who asked how I was and asked if I needed an ambulance and I said no cos I’ve got kids here. She said ok but left her number. I can’t go to the hospital if I have kids can I.

@Confusedandtired21

Just had someone ring me who asked how I was and asked if I needed an ambulance and I said no cos I’ve got kids here. She said ok but left her number. I can’t go to the hospital if I have kids can I.

You can, social services can help arrange some care for them while you receive the treatment you clearly need.

I hope you find some support tonight.

Be sure to tell any professionals involved about the circumstances around your adhd medicine too- it’s easy to forget the times you could cope better when all you feel is numb and emotionless, but you can get there OP. Try writing everything down on paper, everything you have told us on here, and give it/read it to the teams who will be there to help you. You’re so strong OP, you’ll get through this xx

I won’t but that’s expected. Lol

Yes you can they will provide temporary foster carers for the children. You need to get help.

Chronicallymothering
Thank you x

Sorry just seen your update- you can go to hospital, social services can help to accommodate your children. It sounds scary, but long term you will look back and realize how bad you need this help. Phone her back OP xx

I have not read entire thread. OP you are in a bad way TODAY. I've been there, its so hard you don't know how to keep going on because it seems insurmountable every little task & the negative thoughts streaming through your head on a loop, it's a very dark lonely place. Maybe there are people out there who could try to give your kids a better life, maybe better finances, better routines & hobbies, less illness to deal with. But they are not you. You are priceless and the whole world to your children. You are in a dark hole & it's time to start reaching out for real world help. You can be humble & make yourself do what's necessary to help YOU. You don't just deserve to be well for them, you deserve to be well for you. Please hold on, this will pass, you are so important and YOU MUST LIVE. I wish I could come & make you tea & give you a hug & help you make a plan. You need to find out what services can help, what family support services are in your area, it won't be easy but it is better than the alternative.

I'm sorry you are feeling so low, it happens to alot of people cause life can be brutal & hard, but you can just keep putting one foot in front of the other & keep knocking on doors until you get the help you need & deserve.

Please ring her back and tell her everything you’ve told us, OP. They can’t support you (and your kids) if they don’t know.

I really want to ring mental health team out of hours but I know I can’t because I’ll
Just not explain things properly and will play things down.
Stupid

@Confusedandtired21

I really want to ring mental health team out of hours but I know I can’t because I’ll Just not explain things properly and will play things down. Stupid

Ring them and tell them to read this thread. Or just read out your posts to them