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What would happen if I didn’t collect DS from after school club?

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Confusedandtired21 · 24/11/2021 17:15

Just that really? Due to be collected before 6pm
I feel beyond able to cope with life at the moment. I have Adhd, asd and bipolar. No one can help so that’s that! So if I didn’t collect him what would happen to him. Would children’s services just get involved? I don’t want this for him but I feel like I don’t have much options left. He’s not hard work or anything, he’s a lovely boy which makes this even harder. I just think he’s he would better off in a different situation with someone other than me

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Confusedandtired21 · 26/11/2021 21:06

They just deserve so much more

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Confusedandtired21 · 26/11/2021 21:09

I dont want to be a parent anymore, but I can’t tell them that can I

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Missmissmiiiiiiiiisss · 26/11/2021 21:11

I think texting the social worker is a good idea, but please also contact the crisis team too.

Confusedandtired21 · 26/11/2021 21:11

And not because I don’t like them, I love them , I just feel like I’m not capable

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Confusedandtired21 · 26/11/2021 21:11

Crisis team will probably just tell me to have a cup of tea and a bath lol

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Embracelife · 26/11/2021 21:14

@Confusedandtired21

I dont want to be a parent anymore, but I can’t tell them that can I
Yes you need to tell them So they can see how to support you and your dc
WildStallyn · 26/11/2021 21:15

Send her a text message, be totally honest about how you're feeling and say that you find it hard to talk about, and that if you tell her face to face that you're fine, it isn't true.

Confusedandtired21 · 26/11/2021 21:17

wildStallyn ok. I will do

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Confusedandtired21 · 26/11/2021 21:28

When the social worker rang today saying she was outside my house. I said “I’m glad I’m not in, it’s like chaos in there, it’s messy” and she just said that she doesn’t care about that and if I’m struggling it’s going to be and that’s ok

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Confusedandtired21 · 26/11/2021 21:32

I wish I knew objectively how bad the mess actually is! Lol. I could post photos but dint know if that’s advisable. I’m trying to clean now, so it will improve a bit. I don’t want them in if it really is that bad. Can I post photos on here about this? Or is that not a good idea. I just wanna know how bad it is to other people. You know I’m usually the complete opposite and an absolute clean freak, when I had home treatment team in feb and then June they always said how I clean to much, how times change! So weird

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Confusedandtired21 · 26/11/2021 21:35

I don’t even know where to start!

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Confusedandtired21 · 26/11/2021 21:38

Well I’m going to post anyway and then shortly ask for them to be deleted. Maybe someone knows where I should start! Lol. And yes I know this may be identifying but I can ask for them to be deleted and tbh I’m past caring

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Confusedandtired21 · 26/11/2021 21:42

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Confusedandtired21 · 26/11/2021 21:43

So seriously, where do I start?

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Sirzy · 26/11/2021 21:45

Just focus on one bit at a time. Which room/area is annoying you most at the moment? Do that first. Baby steps.

Having the photos is great as when you think you haven’t made progress you can look at see the difference

Confusedandtired21 · 26/11/2021 21:52

The kitchen is annoying me most I think

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Confusedandtired21 · 26/11/2021 21:52

But it’s just everything and it’s ridiculous!

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EllieLucy · 26/11/2021 21:54

Mess isn't the end of the world but if you want o start tackling it I would do

Black sack and collect up rubbish. Don't worry about recycling just bin it.

Collect up dirty clothes and put the washing machine on. Don't worry about colours, most clothes don't leak colour and even if they do, you'll still all have clean clothes to wear.

Pick up children's toys and put them all in a box or a corner of a room

Collect dirty dishes and do the washing up or put the dishwasher on.

That'll do for starters. Smile

Get your oldest so to come, take yourself to the nearest A&E and say you need to see a psychiatrist because you can't keep yourself safe. Just that. Take your phone with you and show them this thread. If your oldest son has to call in sick to work the next day because you're still not home, that's fine and the world won't end.

Yes text whatever contacts you have for MH. Write them letters or notes. Write notes to the hospital staff while you're there. Writing is fine if you can't speak it. Just try your best to tell people how you feel somehow.

EllieLucy · 26/11/2021 22:04

There's a lot of boxes, is this all the presents you bought? Is there a cupboard or spare room to put them in? That would make it look instantly tidier.

I can see a few coats. Is there a place where you store them?

If you take everything off the sofa that isn't a cushion, then you can sit down with a cup of hot chocolate and try to relax a bit.

Confusedandtired21 · 26/11/2021 22:25

I’ve just put a wash on (a white wash) … for the third time this week, the same wash, but this time I’m going to actually dry it! Lol.
The boxes… yes Xmas presents and also ridiculous stuff I’ve spent money on, the boxes… no bin space to get rid of them, I could put the boxes outside though I suppose.

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Confusedandtired21 · 26/11/2021 22:26

No spare room and don’t know where I could put all the coats! Lol

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Confusedandtired21 · 26/11/2021 22:27

Part of the problem is no bin space actually, both normal rubbish and also recycling.
I text the social worker, omg

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EllieLucy · 26/11/2021 22:33

When you're upto shopping, buy this in the photo. It's hooks to go over a door. No DIY you just put them there. You can fit lots of coats on.

For now you can put coats in the porch, if there is one.

Or the banister at the bottom of the stairs, if there's not too many coats to fit.

Or maybe there's already a hook on your kitchen door? But they might not all fit if it's a small one.

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EllieLucy · 26/11/2021 22:37

It's getting a bit late now so if you have a clothes airer I would set that up ready to put the clothes on when the washing machine is done.

Then put another lot of clothes into the machine with powder, so all you have to do in the morning is press the start button.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 26/11/2021 22:38

Ah, that's not bad at all.

Clear the extra stuff off your bed and make it. That way, you've got a comfortable place to sleep tonight. It'll take five minutes, maybe ten at a pinch.

In the morning, you'll need a couple of rolls of binbags.

First, break up the boxes, lay them flat and put into bin bags, then take them outside for recycling. Come back inside, have a cuppa.

Do the same with the paper bags, putting stuff in one place where it won't get trashed.

Come back in and do ten minutes in the kitchen: Take another bin bag and chuck the kitchen rubbish into it, take the bag you've already got on the kitchen floor out with you as well.

Come back in, make sure the sink is clear and clean so you can have drinks and you're done.

That'll take you probably three batches of twenty minutes, so an hour spread out over two, most likely (as breaks are important).

It looks like a lovely home that just needs a few minutes here and there to get it back how you'd like it.