What would happen if I didn’t collect DS from after school club?

[Confusedandtired21]

Just that really? Due to be collected before 6pm
I feel beyond able to cope with life at the moment. I have Adhd, asd and bipolar. No one can help so that’s that! So if I didn’t collect him what would happen to him. Would children’s services just get involved? I don’t want this for him but I feel like I don’t have much options left. He’s not hard work or anything, he’s a lovely boy which makes this even harder. I just think he’s he would better off in a different situation with someone other than me

Sending you love this morning x

How are you this morning?

It's a shame your older son didn't stay a few more hours to get the younger ones in to school. I'm assuming they won't have made it in today. Today is going to be a difficult day for you but you can get through it. Do you find that your depression is cyclical or all the time? I ask because PMDD is more common with women who have ADHD and ASD. It can cause you to be suicidal but then be depression free for the first half of the month. If this is the case there are some hormonal treatments you can try, and just knowing and recognising the cycle helps enormously.

Are you okay OP xx

Thinking of you with love, OP xx

Been thinking about you, hope you're having a better day. Keep talking here if it helps x

Thinking of you OP

How are you today?

How are you doing now? I'm still thinking of you x

Confused,
Please come back to us. We are all here for you.
Please ring the crisis team. Maybe you could write down what you need to tell them and then just read the script.

You and your kids will be ok.I know you can’t believe that at the moment.
But please believe that even though you have such awful difficulties, things can improve. They can.

Please come back and let us know how you doing.
We’re all very worried and want you to get the help you deserve.

@Confusedandtired21

Just nothing seems to help so I’m still here feeling the same. Which is ridiculous I know. I’m just tired of it all. Got stuff with my 15 year old and trying to get him an ehcp and taking hi to cbt therapy at camhs etc (he’s autistic too) and then things to sort with my 10 year old and I’m just not the person to do it. I just feel like walking away and never coming back or just ending everything so I never have to think of it again (can’t get this of my mind ) which I know is so selfish and self centred but it’s the only way I can see out if it. Then someone else can deal with it all better than I can. And they would! Without a doubt! And I can’t stop thinking that I gave my kids my problems genetically. If I knew then what I know now I would never have had them, which sounds horrible doesn’t it. I just know they’ll end up like me. God help them

Are you getting DLA and can you maybe claim if not? Get a cleaner in to help out.

Also Bolton SENDIAS is reputedly wonderful. They will help you with all the EHCP stuff. Things like that can be very stressful and overwhelming even when you are well.

Take care of yourself

Hi, I’m sorry I’ve only just come back. I just couldn’t face it earlier.
I think my depression is definitely cyclical, got a lot worse over the last few years.
I do get dla for the kids and I get PIP too at the standard rate. But I’m sure that will all end soon!
I did get the kids to school. Although slightly late.
A social worker left me a voicemail this morning, I rang him back and they said he’d get back to me but he didn’t today, maybe tomorrow.
I still feel very very low.

And I can’t get an emergency prescription for the Adhd meds if that’s what is meant, I can’t have them at all now that the clinic has closed, GP can’t prescribe unless I’m under a consultant that has told the GP to prescribe.

Here are the contact details for the Bolton IAS

They can advise & support on the EHCP and maybe look at respite too

You can email us at [email protected], message us on Facebook or Instagram, use our webchat facility, or send us a text on 07467943495

How are you feeling today? I feel for you OP. I really hope you get the help you need and deserve. You sound like you have a lot on your plate. You can do this x

Hello Confused,
We’re still all here for you. You can just ramble or rant or ask questions. You don’t even need to reply to anyone, you can just talk.
I really hope you have contacted the crisis team and you and your children are being cared for. You all deserve it. Life, I know, is very, very hard at times and it sounds like for you, it’s hard all the fucking time.
I know you can’t believe me at the moment, but there’s the vet real possibility that things will improve for you. You could even find happiness.
I’m thinking of you.

Hi OP. How did you manage and how are you now?
Did you manage to get help? Thinking of you xx

Still thinking of you, please let us know how you're doing, when you can.

No I didn’t contact the crisis team cos I just feel ridiculous and wouldn’t know how to start the conversation, same with the mental health team
. A social worked turned up today at mine and rang me saying she was outside but I wasn’t here cos my 19 year old had dragged me and my youngest out for food and Xmas markets, I go to drive myself to go! Was horrible, but I’m glad I went.
They said they’ll contact me next week. I know…just know I’ll just downplay things though and say things are ok. And they’re really not, I’m struggling and feel like I can’t cope at the moment. I have her mobile number (that she rang me off) so I was thinking a possibility is messaging her and telling her how things are so I don’t have to say it face to face, but that might be weird? She won’t see it till Monday so that might be a bit better cos won’t be worrying about a reply till Monday.
I dunno what to do really.
The social worker said she’d got some info from nspcc and the duty social worker and had spoke to my 19 year old who said he had some concerns but supported me and I was a good mum, the social worker told me I have a good boy here lol.

I had to force myself to go that should say, not drive myself

Nevercloser that’s exactly it, it is hard allll the time. And I really can’t see it improving, I can just see things getting harder.

When I went out today with my kids. I just felt so blank. You know when your going through the motions and you know that things are supposed to be nice etc? I faked it and said all the right things but felt nothing, at all. Just wanted to get home. I shouldn’t feel this way, it’s not good for them

And I’ve just been online and spent an absolute ridiculous amount of money on Xmas presents for the kids which is probably guilt spending, but doesn’t really make up for it does it