people telling me Dd needs to be sectioned

[BananaJam11]

Dd is 15 and I can't say she's a saint but I'm fed up with people telling me she needs to be sectioned.

We've been through and unsuccessful camhs referral and various other unsuccessful referrals.

She refused to talk about how she feels to anyone but I know she's hurting. She self harms,shares posts about suicide.

She's ran out the house at silly hours of the day/night which caused a neighbour to say 'that girl of yours needs to be put in hospital'. She's attacked family members who then tell me she needs to be sectioned. Even friends have said she's 'crazy'.
She has these breakdowns where she will cry,shake,scream,harm herself ,I've tried different gp and speaking to the school who aren't very supportive. I know it's not alright but these people are in no position to tell me my Dd is crazy. It's exhausting for me too.
She needs counselling not a section.

I'm sorry for the long post . I just needed to vent

It sounds like a lot of work ahead for you, dd and the health professionals. So glad that you are getting help and I do hope you get to the bottom of the cause. How is the weekend going?

Had a lovely day with dd yesterday,we ended up spending the evening horse riding through the countryside together . She finds it easier to talk whilst doing something. Today has been difficult,a bit like the day I had to call the police on her.I was supposed to drop her back for 6 but I'm just getting ready to take her back now.

Oh Banana it must be upsetting I'm sorry. I think what you take away from the weekend must be the one wonderful day and evening you had with her. You're still one step forward...

Although it's really disappointing to have to take her back early, if she's struggling it's the right thing for both of you.
You have made progress, and that's down to you pushing until she's got what she's needed which is the treatment.
Maybe a day and a night and go back next morning would help her cope better? Instead of the full weekend and build up to that.
Keep focussed on knowing she's safe .

Thank you both x I just want my little girl back enjoying the half term like everyone else but I am so grateful that she is in treatment.
The unit suggested a day visit home next time as the full weekend was a bit too overwhelming.

I've got DD for the day tomorrow. Hopeful it will go well for her x

Best of luck for tomorrow

thank you x

Oh best of luck Banana I"ll be thinking of you two. Let us know how it goes xxx

that's great banana. I hope it goes well for you both, best of luck x

I had such a lovely day with dd. She went to her dance class this morning and they were all so glad to see her. Then went for a ride on the ponies and had dinner before i took her back. There was a glimpse of the happy little girl she used to be ( and hopefully will be) today. Thank you all x

Oh that's so lovely! So good for her to have a taste of 'normality'. How do you feel about it all banana? Do you feel she is more even-keeled? I think dipping your toe back slowly is great. How long do they think she will be in hospital for?

Oh I'm so so glad. Were things very calm all day then? Is she being a bit more loving towards you? So so happy for you two. She will definitely get fully there! Just two years ago I was in Springfield with PTSD and I have the calmest and fullest most lovely little life now.

I'm just so happy she's making progress. Spending the day was a lot less overwhelming than the whole weekend. They think by august she should be discharged and become an outpatient,enjoy the summer and slowly get back into her school,ready for year 11.
She's starting to understand why I had to call the police and why she needed help so she's being a bit more loving though there are some moments where she 'hates' me for it. The medication she's on has started to kick in. we've got a definite diagnosis of depression,anxiety and ptsd . I've been told there might be a few big steps back as going over traumatic events gets worse before it gets better,I'm heartbroken I had no idea what was going on and that dd didn't tell me but she's been so brave opening up to the amazing people working with her. The fact that you're enjoying life now really does give me hope for dd Jess .

It sounds as if doing one day of leave was about right BananaJam11. Your DD has a difficult road ahead, and so do you. It is good that you have the support of the hospital. It sounds as if your DD is being courageous, and so are you. If she is on a section, she is entitled to support around her discharge and you may find that you need to push for that to make sure that it is in place. Good luck with the coming days, weeks and months.

So glad you had a lovely day and that your dd is making progress. It'll be a while of ups and downs for a time but worth it when she's better.

thank you x

Banana, I'm so glad your DD is getting the help she needs, at last. {{{hugs}}}

Is she on any medication? I was around 13 when i was prescribed tegretol (mood stablizer) which helped be able to actually cope with talking about my feelings. Just remember after she turns 16 youll have to start the whole process of a referral again as it will move to the "transition team" which means another counseller which will put her back to square one. Ask about medication but no i dont believe sectioning will help, probably traumatize the poor kid for life to be fair.

Sorry i missed a page of the comments as you can tell I had a very bad experience of mental health services but i hope it results in more of a positive outcome for you and your dd.
I also have mild aspergers along with generalize anxiety and PTSD.

I wanted to thank you all for your help. DD is now home and back to school and all her usual activities. There are still some bad days but I have my dd back and she's happy.