people telling me Dd needs to be sectioned

[BananaJam11]

Dd is 15 and I can't say she's a saint but I'm fed up with people telling me she needs to be sectioned.

We've been through and unsuccessful camhs referral and various other unsuccessful referrals.

She refused to talk about how she feels to anyone but I know she's hurting. She self harms,shares posts about suicide.

She's ran out the house at silly hours of the day/night which caused a neighbour to say 'that girl of yours needs to be put in hospital'. She's attacked family members who then tell me she needs to be sectioned. Even friends have said she's 'crazy'.
She has these breakdowns where she will cry,shake,scream,harm herself ,I've tried different gp and speaking to the school who aren't very supportive. I know it's not alright but these people are in no position to tell me my Dd is crazy. It's exhausting for me too.
She needs counselling not a section.

I'm sorry for the long post . I just needed to vent

[whoisA]

At least she's now on there waiting list.
Here it can take a while to get an appointment so chase up regularly and see how long you will be waiting.
Once she's in there system they are very good- here at least!

If she has any episodes of self harm or attempting/threatening to kill her self or her mental health problems increase then ring an ambulance, take her to the hospital or see a gp then she might get seen sooner.

If you google your local camhs they might have a crisis number you can ring

[BananaJam11]

Thank you . It's a wait for an assessment and then another one after that I've been told. Hoping things work out

[BananaJam11]

Anyone around ? Need a handhold

[imip]

I'm around intermittently - everything ok?

[BananaJam11]

I've literally just got of the phone. I've called the police on Dd. Hardest thing I've had to do. Smashed a window and attacked a friend that came to stay over,cut her arms and is now threatening to kill herself

[Lottielottie42]

I think you've done the right thing hopefully they will call an ambulance.

[imip]

Yes, you've done the right thing. How much longer could you have tolerated this? I really understand . Have the police arrived?

[JustAnotherSilentOldNumber]

[BananaJam11]

Police and ambulance arrived . Dd is lucky her friend who she hit doesn't want to take it any further and that the girls mother is understanding.

Trip to a&e to get her arm stitched up and then we've got to see two doctors and a physchistrist.

Thank you all. I really appreciate the support xx

[BananaJam11]

Police and ambulance arrived . Dd is lucky her friend who she hit doesn't want to take it any further and that the girls mother is understanding.

Trip to a&e to get her arm stitched up and then we've got to see two doctors and a physchistrist.

Thank you all. I really appreciate the support xx

[Gabilan]

That sounds awful for both of you OP. But hopefully this crisis might help your DD acknowledge that she needs help and that help is actually there for her.

[HeyCat]

I hope she gets the help she needs. Don't forget to get support for yourself as well, this must be really tough.

[IloveBanff]

I know this has been really terrible and shocking for all involved, but it may be a blessing in disguise in that she'll get seen sooner by someone who can help her. I'm so sorry you're going through this hell.

[imip]

I suppose the silver lining is that your dd will actually engage with the dr and psych (hopefully), it will be much harder to refuse when she's a patient.

Let us know how you get on op xxx

[whoisA]

Sorry to hear that, hopefully she will be pushed up the camhs list and see them sooner rather than later
Do you know what pushed her over the edge?

[phoenix1973]

I know someone who was sectioned many times. She was not crazy, but her emotions severely overwhelmed her and she couldn't control herself. She was a danger to herself more than anything. She was highly sensitive, hugely academic.

She got the help and meds she needed and after a time she was released. She was then able to return to work.

She had one autistic son who probably will never leave home. One nt at uni. Elderly parents with needs.plus an intense job.

Some folk are vulnerable to all these elements. Doesn't mean they're crazy!

Please discuss your DD with mental health professionals. She may need sectioning. 💐

[BananaJam11]

DDs friend asked her about all the cuts on her and what she's going to do to get out of pe this week then Dd got uspset. I came upstairs to hear what all the noise was just as Dd punched her friend in the face and her friend then shouted back ,your dad would be so ashamed of you.

This made Dd kick off again so she's gone into the garden and got a brick to smash the conservatory whilst I was speaking to her friend.

Dd is speaking to a doctor alone so I'm just waiting

[erinaceus]

BananaJam11 sending

In my opinion, you have taken appropriate action. There can be a lot of waiting in these circumstances. Have you eaten or drunk anything? Take care of yourself.

[BananaJam11]

Thank you X haven't had the time to get something to eat or drink today . They're keeping Dd under section 4 but I've been told that this could be changed to a section 2 which can then be changed to a section 3.

Waiting for the duty psychiatrist to get back to us and explain what all these sections mean

[Lottielottie42]

Good luck op
It must be incredibly stressful for you and her , this way hopefully she will get the support she requires without having to wait a year for an appointment with Camhs .

[Graphista]

Sounds like you've had a really rough day. But ultimately made the right decision. A mothers place is the wrong too often sadly. Comes under the category of having to be the 'bad guy' for their own good. Like inoculations or dentist. Just gets bigger harder decisions as they get older.

Mum has been supporting me recently through a mh crisis and I'm 44! Doesn't make me less her child or her less my mum. 3 friends have lost their mothers, I am dreading losing mine.

Through any anger she may have displayed she does still love you. She's still your girl. Hold onto that.

[erinaceus]

Sending OP.

If I can make a suggestion, it is not to fight against the professionals. No-one has placed you in the wrong. The other suggestion is to eat and drink, and carry your phone charger with you, due to all the waiting around! Will your DD have to stay in A&E for the time being? Hope that you can on some level be on the same page as the duty psychiatrist

[BananaJam11]

It's so hard. She hates me so much right now. Before I would've just let it slip so it's a bit of a shock that I called emergency services. I never thought it would come to this or that it was serious because it had been going on for so long x

It's being changed to a section 2 now so waiting for further assessment to see what will happen next.
Thank you all so much

[BananaJam11]

They're also planning on moving her to another hospital where she can get the treatment she needs but still waiting on the assessment and transfer

[imip]

Amazing that they have stepped up op. It's very hard with a self harming child as invariably they are just left to languish on waiting lists, so this is really good. I hope she is not moved too far. There are so few child mental health beds and are often scattered across the country.