If I die can I insist dh takes dc to see my parents?

[SweetElizaRose]

I'm fairly sure I'm going to die. I suffer terribly anxiety and recently have come into contact with chicken pox to which I am not immune. I have a strong feeling it's going to kill me.
I'm an only child and my parents will be devastated. Dh does not get on with my parents and I likely to take the children and go ang live with his mother. Is there any way I can legally put anything into place to give them some access? Dh works full time so I'd like my parents to be able to do some of the childcare. Also my dc are close to my parents so I feel they would benefit from seeing them as ds in particular will be very upset. Dd is only a baby so won't really know either way.

It's really worrying me. Or do I just have to discuss it with dh and hope he will be reasonable?

She's gone up a clothes size but I'm not planning on getting anything else for her for the time being as I don't know if she will need it.
Yes I've had help for my anxiety and it was improving until now. We've had so many near misses with chicken pox, I feel like it's that film final destination where they keep avoiding being killed and then death gets them anyway.
That's us and chicken pox.

Cbt is very useful for these kinds of intrusive thoughts.

Have you told your gp that you think your baby is likely to die?
Please please tell your doctor, they will be able to help you and your sweet daughter.
She should have a long and happy life, please start with getting her some medical attention.

Yes I've been to the GP. And told the perinatal lady

Cant you just have antivirals if you were really considered at risk from cpx? My son used to have vzig if exposed then zovirax when he got it. Not that i want to encourage your irrational anxieties, but cpx is hardly the plague

I just feel like all roads have lead us here. And now something awful is going to happen.

It isn't but just as many people die from it as something like men b

You have told your perinatal team and your gp all that you are talking about here? That you believe you and your dd are going to die? What did they say?

Please, please show your husband this thread.
Your posts are very worrying.

That there aren't any guarantees in life

And what did you gp say when you said you know you are going to die?

How many adults die a year from chicken pox? Where are you getting your info.

It doesn't actually matter how many do. How many get it and don't die?

Because it's happened, doesn't mean it will happen to you.

I can't explain it. I just know it's going to kill one or both of us. It's like it's already happened. That's how certain I am.
Anyway I will spend the next fortnight getting everything in order and trying to prepare ds. I will make him a box of memories so he has something of me when he's older. I haven't really got anything to leave him that he'd want!

Eliza please contact your GP right now and say exactly what you've posted here. You sound resigned to the idea of death for yourself and your daughter which worries me more than the chicken pox.

Did you say directly that you are convinced you are both going to die or speak in a 'I'm worried we have caught it' kind of way?

I think we can all tell you over and over again that your fears are highly unlikely to be realised but your anxiety is telling you its inevitable.

I think you need to call someone involved in your care and tell them you feel unsafe.

Anyway I will spend the next fortnight getting everything in order and trying to prepare ds

Please don't prepare your ds. Go back to your GP and insist on help.

I don't think I can get hold of anyone over the weekend but I wouldn't bother anyway. They can't stop the chicken pox

It's not about stopping chicken pox. It's about your mental health.

Have you even got chicken pox, or are you just worried because you've come into contact with it?

You do sound as though you need to see someone rather urgently, about your mental health.

Don't say a word to your children about death.

Have you told your dh you know you are going to die?

Is your DH home right now? Show him this thread/tell him exactly what you've told us, hopefully he'll be able to reassure you and talk over your concerns.

You will have a crisis line you can call. Either given to you by your perinatal team or you can Google it in your area. Give them a call.

Get yourself some real life support, lovely. You don't have to go through this alone.

No he's gone out for the day. I'm on my own with the children.
I think ds should be prepared. I won't say I'm going to die but I will spend lots of time with him and and see if we can have we couple of nice days out and take photos before we all get sick.
I will however brief dh on all aspects of childcare so he is prepared. He is not very hands on so won't know stuff like ds's Dr or dentist.

We don't have it yet but statistically there's a 90% chance after face to face contact and my friend's daughter was stroking my dd's face.

Please speak to your doctor. You sound very unwell, not with chicken pox but mentally.