Well the thread seems to be "back on the rails" so to speak! I think you have drawn all sorts of negative conclusions about my post katkins which were not implied, but I think you may have realised that now. I will not comment further on your mental health.
I do though want to respond to my comment about contact needing to be what's best for your DD and I absolutely stand by this comment. A very basic duty of social workers in childcare cases is to always keep the best interests of the child at the heart of matter, no matter what the circumstances. There was no intention explicit or implied that you were not doing the right thing for your DD and I was surprised you had taken exception to this comment. IF your case does get to Court (and I hope it doesn't) you will need to demonstrate that you are putting DD's needs first, before your own or those of your ex. So many parents in contact cases (and I don't mean you.....) get into point scoring exercises and seem more intent on this than thinking of the child in the middle of it all and Judges get very impatient about this, for obvious reasons. I am sure you want to ensure that DD feels safe and happy when she is having contact with her dad.
Collardove sorry I can't really give any advice about your query but I think Keema's suggestion of posting in Employment is a good one, especially as there is a good HR person who posts on there.
Nice to see you again Pyrrhagena - I liked your joke! You sound more cheerful than you were a few weeks ago - have I got that right? I can remember there were some problems with your DS - has he been diagnosed with anything. For some reason I don't think you are in the UK - have I got that right. Sorry for all the Qs.......hope you can post from time to time.
Fluffy thinking of you and glad you and Keema can "chat" as she will know more than anyone what it's like to be in your position. I was never on obvs when an IP but of course I saw many people that were, and felt so sorry for them. I had to smile about the poo though! Glad you have your laptop, so hope you will keep in touch to let us know how you are.
Oh just noticed you've had a poo!! One positive anyway!
Hi Keema so glad you are on the thread to talk to Fluffy and everyone else of course. Thank you for your kind words about me on this thread recently. I remember you of course (2012 maybe?) but can't remember the details of our posts - have a hard job remembering what I read yesterday! Are you keeping well at the moment - do hope so.
Hi Lem how are you doing? CIQ I think I saw a recent post from you. Hope the anxiety is under control and DH is not going to slip into depression again. That's the trouble isn't it, I think having one episode makes us so much more likely to have another.......I didn't realise this until I read about it somewhere. Mind I suppose there are physical illnesses like that aren't there - bad backs/chest infections etc.
Wondering about a few other people Vicar are you still lurking somewhere....was reading recently about a black woman who was bullied in the police force and has been awarded around £40,000 by an Employment Tribunal, and I thought of you.
Snowy how are you - I know you had a family visit yesterday - hope you enjoyed it.
Hi to everyone else x