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summer heat - in the village we'll meet....oh, those summer nights! support for MH issues, depression, anxiety, what ever the issue come visit the village [titled edited by MNHQ]

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SomethingVicardThisWayComes · 27/07/2014 18:09

well a well a well a oh tell me more tell me more.....Smile

new thread guys....feels funny doing the threads again! but nice....

so. for any newbies....the purpose of the "village" threads is to support anyone with MH issues....depression, anxiety, anything at all, for what ever reason.

there is an open door policy in the village! so pull up a pew and get stuck in....

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SnowyMouse · 11/09/2014 12:43

Just as an aside, some people have been wondering about psychosis and how to talk to people who have it, this may be helpful.

NanaNina · 11/09/2014 12:52

oh fluffy do you mean you self harmed last night. Sorry if I've got that wrong. Have you done the shopping trip yet - keep posting if it helps as we are here to hold your hand through this tough time.

Thanks for the link Snowy

Katkins you're nothing if not changeable!!

SnowyMouse · 11/09/2014 12:56

Oh ((( fluffy ))) I'm sorry to hear that. Is there any distraction you find helps with anxiety? Can you take some diazepam?

Victrix · 11/09/2014 13:46

((everyone))

bleh

Katkins1 · 11/09/2014 14:06

nana I am , yes! The social worker just phoned. Long story short: my ex p is allowed supervised contact with DD only. She's not even allowed to his house. He's showed himself up to be a bit of a fool, if you ask me. I'm glad that's happened, and as you will know, nana, it takes a lot for a sw to say that.

SnowyMouse · 11/09/2014 14:16

I have just made a fool of myself, I was posting/venting to a friend on facebook, but put it as my status instead. I didn't want to tell everyone how I am at the moment, I haven't even done that here.

Congrats re: contact katkins

Victrix · 11/09/2014 14:24

Katkins that's wonderful Smile

Katkins1 · 11/09/2014 14:26

Snowy, you can delete it, it's OK. I posted loads when i was very unwell. Most people are still my friends. I think....:D

SnowyMouse · 11/09/2014 15:07

I don't want people to worry about me.

fluffydressinggown · 11/09/2014 15:57

Hi guys, been shopping with my Mum, got a new dress and some bargain tights.

SI does indeed mean self harm, I have no idea why I write SI (Self Injury) and not SH but there we go ;)

Spoke to my DBT 1:1 and she said she is worried about me, said she thinks I need home treatment from crisis so she will speak to my CPN about it all tomorrow. Feel very stressed about it all. Feel very very very anxious today, really struggling to keep it all under a lid tbh.

Is anyone around for a distraction chat?

Victrix · 11/09/2014 16:07

I'm online, fluffy Glad your shopping trip was a success Smile

SnowyMouse · 11/09/2014 16:18

I'm around too :)

fluffydressinggown · 11/09/2014 16:29

Bit scared about driving home tonight, it is two hours away but what can you do? I have to get there.

I have got four new dresses this month Blush Oooops.

I need to calm down. TBH I am looking forward to leaving my parents so I can stress a bit!

SnowyMouse · 11/09/2014 17:13

What are the dresses like? When are you setting off?

fluffydressinggown · 11/09/2014 17:24

I bought a red wrap dress, a flowery dress, a plain black dress for work and a tartan dress.

Well I am pissed off. My DBT 1:1 rang crisis who said they think I am too unwell to drive so my fucking parents are going to have to drive me home and I have to see crisis tonight. FFS.

SnowyMouse · 11/09/2014 17:30

That sounds a nice selection Smile

I'm sorry you're pissed off, it can be very frustrating when people take control from you ((( fluffy )))

NanaNina · 11/09/2014 18:17

Oh so sorry fluffy that matters have been taken out of your hands. I suppose it is for the best but you're not likely to agree I know. Let us know how you go...........we're thinking of you.

Have you managed to delete your FB stuff snowy

Victrix I'm a bit embarrassed to say I just don't know your "back story" so to speak - I think you must have come on when a lot of new people came on and my memory is a bit crap these days.

Katkins contact is almost always supervised when there has been a considerable gap in a parent seeing a child (which I think is the case with your ex and DD) Assume it is one of the Contact Centres - it isn't supervised as such, these centres are staffed by volunteers and there are several parents (usually dads) having contact with their children. It operates on the basis of there is "safety in numbers." There will have to be a CAFCASS social worker involved again to decide whether your ex can have unsupervised contact at some point in the future.

Not sure if the sw mentioned it, but it might be a good idea for you to send DD with something to do - drawing/colouring etc and a drink and snack in case her dad doesn't think of such things!

Have just been thinking of how little is known about brain disorder. I was reading somewhere that everything is known about the function and malfunction of every organ in the body, apart from the most important and complex organ, the brain, where so little is known. I never hear of research done into this important matter, and can't help thinking it must be cost effective as mental illness is so common and we keep being told how many of us are going to get alzhiemers disease in the future. I'm obviously not against cancer research as it is such a big killer, but I just wish there was more research into brain disorder, not in my lifetime as I'm getting on in years, but for future generations.

SnowyMouse · 11/09/2014 18:47

Yes I have NN - unfortunately some people saw it Sad

I agree re: research.

Victrix · 11/09/2014 19:20

It's a very boring backstory NN Grin

Depression/anxiety, panic attacks and insomnia, been off work since April Sad Also have some fun physical issues not the least of which is gallstones.

On that note I have my pre-op appointment next week re. gallbladder removal, hopefully that means I'll get a surgery date soon.

Collardove · 11/09/2014 20:37

Hi everyone, I have been in bed for the past couple of days with a migraine from hell :(

Victrix - sorry to read that you have not been the best in the past couple of days.

NanaNina - yes you correctly remembered I am in retail (was) temporarily unemployed at the mo whilst looking for a new job. I am going to see a rescue dog tomorrow. A 3 year old poodle cross who is woolly like a lamb - but apparently has behavioural issues (who hasn't!!)
As I read your posts you sound in such a different place then you were a few months back :) and for that I am so glad for you. It has been a particularly very dark year for many of us on the thread...

Fluffy - I am sorry to read how you are struggling, and it shows how folk on the thread care for other villagers when they post good advice to others, even through their own struggles. Thank you for the advice you posted to me about my dilemma on whether to reveal or not about my MH issues if asked by a prospective new employer.
I will know soon about that as I have earns myself an interview the week after next.
I am thinking of you :)

Snowy - I feel your pain re your accidental FB post! Last week I was texting 3 people at the same time. I am usually careful but did wrongly send a text to one person about something said person had said.... Aargh!! I am still mortified now.

KatKins - Good to read about the contact :) I do not know much about how things work, only from friends. But it's great to have nana to explain it properly ;)

CIQ - nice to see you back to the thread like myself now. Oh there are odd days at the mo that I wish I wasn't reducing my fluoxetine... I have a tiny supply of diazepam still just incase... I do feel better in myself though then a few months back. But still take it a day at a time.

Sorry if I have missed anyone. As I said I have had a migraine and my eyes cannot take to much.
(((Hugs ))) to all :) x

SnowyMouse · 11/09/2014 20:47

Oh dear Collardove, I hope you recover fully soon. Good luck with going to see the dog. I'm still feeling mortified too!

SnowyMouse · 11/09/2014 20:48

Oh I hope you get a surgery date soon, victrix

Katkins1 · 11/09/2014 21:30

Nana, he's been granted no to unsupervised contact ever, owing to the state of the house and his troubling behaviour when the worker saw him on a planned visit.

Hope you feel better soon, collar.

ColouringInQueen · 11/09/2014 22:18

Hi collar, snowy, fluffy, vitrix, nana, katkins

Dh has made a doc appt for Monday. He's also planning to work part time for the next few weeks. Good that he can still think clearly enough to make these arrangements given how he's feeling, but he runs his own business so working part time is not sustainable. I am really struggling to manage my anxiety, it's almost exactly two years since he finally went to gp and got signed off, having been severely depressed all 2012 - one of the factors that led to my major depression in 2013. Feel like we're sliding into that nightmare again. Am trying really hard to tell myself things are very different now - they are - but am seriously struggling this evening.

NanaNina · 11/09/2014 22:52

Thank you Victrix for the info.....hope you get the gall bladder op soon. I had one episode of gall bladder pain (diagnosed as biliary colic I think) but it was a really horrible pain.

Oh Collardove you have my sympathy. I suffered with migraines for many years (oh sorry I haven't had everything that someone else has!) and the GPs always said just to take paracetomol which did nothing. I finally saw a homeopath but the remedies didn't work. However she was also a GP and asked if I'd tried one of the Triptan drugs for migraine, and that if I was her patient, that's what she would prescribe. I went back to my GP and repeated this and he said "yes she's probably right" and printed out a prescription for naratriptan (forget the brand name) but it was a wonder drug for me - changed my life. I could be pain free in 2 hours whereas before I had been one and half days in bed and then washed out for the following day. I was however really annoyed at the GPs who had never told me about these drugs and I am certain that the reason was because of their cost. Have you tried them? They aren't pain killers but they reduce the swelling in the blood vessels around the brain that causes the pain. You can buy sumatriptan (brand name Imigram) over the counter but they are about £7.00 for 2, so much cheaper to get a prescription.

The dog sounds wonderful - is it a labradoodle - I love them. Always had Labradors and really miss having a dog but we feel we are too old now and we go on frequent trips to Ireland to see our family over there.

Katkins I find it very strange that the court would make a decision about unsupervised contact before they knew the outcome of the supervised contact. That's the purpose of supervised contact to see if it would be safe enough for the child to have unsupervised contact. I'm not sure how you know about the issues you mentioned as the reasons for the court refusing unsupervised contact - if the social worker told you then he/she was being very unprofessional as this is a serious breach of confidentiality. Only a Judge can make a decision about contact and so there would have to be another hearing at which you were both present.

I have carried out a significant number of contact assessments when I worked on a freelance basis and I have never heard of a Court granting supervised contact on a permanent basis. Indeed Judges (in my view) would not agree to such an arrangement, as this is unworkable and would not be in a child's best interests.

I would check again as you may have misunderstood.