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summer heat - in the village we'll meet....oh, those summer nights! support for MH issues, depression, anxiety, what ever the issue come visit the village [titled edited by MNHQ]

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SomethingVicardThisWayComes · 27/07/2014 18:09

well a well a well a oh tell me more tell me more.....Smile

new thread guys....feels funny doing the threads again! but nice....

so. for any newbies....the purpose of the "village" threads is to support anyone with MH issues....depression, anxiety, anything at all, for what ever reason.

there is an open door policy in the village! so pull up a pew and get stuck in....

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LEMmingaround · 28/08/2014 09:48

Katkins i know you need the meds it must be frustrating. However i can see the self management as very useful. (Says me who failed monumentally at cbt). Were the cars malevolent? If not can you just ignore or take amusement from it? Sorry if that sounds really trite as i don't really understand psychosis but just thinking that will give it less power. What about writing it down? Make a story of it? Again not about it stopping but about not letting it upset you and giving yourself a bit of control?
sorry if that is way off the mark Flowers

Pulledapart · 28/08/2014 10:01

Morning all,

Early start here for me after a restless night. I'm in awe of all of u managing to work with so much to deal with mentally plus the dieting (I wish I had the strength to start)

On a plus point I stopped hallucinating last night but this morning it started again and the voices the still bad. I keep seeing a dark figure in the corner off eye like it's trying to come kill me - I know it's not real but it's scarring the crap out of me. I think for me it comes on when I'm really tired and exhausted in my brain.

DD's is having a graduation party at her nursery later. Final goodbyes kind of thing and I'm totally flat today. I need to summon some strength from somewhere to take her - I don't want her missing out :(

Sorry a bit of a self absorbed post. I just don't have anything useful to say at the moment to help anyone :(

Victrix · 28/08/2014 10:09

I am a twat. Why, if I wasn't sure if my appointment was ten to or ten past, did I not just turn up for ten to. Need to wait now.

Pulledapart · 28/08/2014 10:15

((( victrix ))) hope the wait isn't too long. We've all done that so don't be too hard on yourself.

Victrix · 28/08/2014 11:47

Thanks pulled Smile

I ended up getting seen at twenty past ten so not bad. Dr kept apologising which was weird because it was my mistake Grin Think I'm sunburned from the walk now though.

Katkins1 · 28/08/2014 11:48

(victrix) They usually run behind, I'm sure everyone has done that. I know I have!

(pulled) I know how scary voices and hallucinations are. I think the thing I find most challening is the hallucinations and delusions that come together: like you say, something coming to kill you, even though part of you knows it won't. I'm not sure I can suggest anything useful, I still struggle with mine, but I hope it gets a bit better today for you.

Lem- I write plays and poetry in rl (outs self), and perform quite a lot. I also write a fair bit, anyway, it's a good suggestion. I find the cars funny and some of my hallucinations. What I was trying to get across to my cpn is that I've coped well for almost 2 years with it, and only had one episode, but it's not great for me when I have DD with me: I used crossing the road as an example.

I don't really mind it- last night, the cars had whiskers and tails, and were like cats. I can live with that, but not the ones with faces sent to kill me and dd. I just feel a bit as though I've crossed a line with it, and I'd like medicatinon to take the edge off- but the medical team don't really get it. They say I'm new to them and so they need to asses me properly

I'm feeling guilty- didn't sleep until late, because I thought there were people with guns outside my bedroom, so woke up at 6 and went back to sleep. DD is up and has had brekfast and is now playing in the garden (all dressed and in her new wellies too with tigers on!), but I feel like such a failure not being able to get up early. My cpn said do whatever I need to get through this week and then focus on school next week, because I'm worried about that. DD is going into year 2.

I feel really spaced out today, was meant to be meeting a friend for a coffee this evening, but not sure it's going to happen because it's a long long walk and I'd feel really cautious taking dd out like that when I feel like this- it's about me feeling safe with her and alert enough to take care of her, able to grab her hand if she's in danger and keep calm enough to navigate my way around the world, if that makes sense, I don't mind the rest of the stuff. I did explain all of this to my cpn, so they are aware of what I think and feel about it all. I just wish they'd be quicker to sort something out, because a child is involved, too. I'd wait if it were only me, but I need to think of her well being too.

I find the problem happens when I'm distracted by what I see and hear. I'll have more coffee and a bath, then decide. I've cancelled so many times that I'm suprised I have any friends left!

Sorry that was long: I was thinking out loud. As I said, I write lots in rl. I have a blog about my experiences, and with poetry on, if anyone would like to read it?

Katkins1 · 28/08/2014 12:06

Here we go: sammyatnewman.wordpress.com/2014/08/01/give-me-a-reason-but-dont-give-me-choice/. I'll put a HUGE trigger warning on it; because I talk about past abuse and trauma and things like that on there, but I'm a very open person. There are some photos on there too, of me with both blonde and purple hair and dd- so some people might know me, but I don't mind that- it's all stuff I choose to publish. Anyway, there's my blog, but it is likely to trigger.

Sorry, I just wanted to share it with people who might understand a bit.

Victrix · 28/08/2014 12:12

Will have a read, katkins Smile

Arse. I am sunburnt but only in a kind of C shape round my left eye, from my cheekbone to above my eyebrow. It isn't exactly the look I was going for.

It was cloudy when I left the house.

fluffydressinggown · 28/08/2014 13:18

Good afternoon everyone :)

LEM I found applying for jobs so scary, but it was not as bad as I thought in the end, you can do it!

Had DBT this morning and spoke to one of the leaders about my weirdnesses, he suggested I just keep myself busy really. So going out for a coffee with some friends this afternoon. Having lots of difficult thoughts about hanging myself (sorry if that is too triggering, please say and I will get it deleted).

Just had v.nice lunch of crumpets and low fat cheese, yummy comfort food!

Victrix · 28/08/2014 13:26

To round off a wonderful day, gallstones. Ow

SnowyMouse · 28/08/2014 14:45

Ooh, I love crumpets fluffy!

I have gallstones too, victrix, they are horrible pain Sad I hope the pain goes soon. Sorry to hear about the sunburn too Sad

My OU textbooks are on their way, so I am excited. It is yodel though, so I mustn't get my hopes up Grin Hmm

Victrix · 28/08/2014 15:14

Luckily only lasted an hour or so today which is good. Hope I get my op soon.

I slapped a load of aloe vera on when I got in which has faded the sunburn dramatically - I'm impressed!

Good luck with Yodel Snowy Grin

fluffydressinggown · 28/08/2014 16:46

Sorry you are in pain victrix and good luck with your delivery snowy

katkins I really do think that your MH team will find the right solution and medication for you but it does take time and I appreciate that you don't feel like you have that. I am sure your friends are still your friends because you are obviously a really lovely person. Just keep chugging on, you are doing great.

Spoke to the duty person at my MH and feel a bit better. Just worried about going to work tomorrow but I suppose I have to get on with things.

Katkins1 · 28/08/2014 20:17

(victrix).

Fluffy, I do trust them, I'm just really fed up of being so unwell now. I've got my dd's dad (a drinker), taking me to court for access next week- I think that's stressing me out a bit. I feel all weird- and not in a good way.

Katkins1 · 28/08/2014 21:48

I'm fed up. It's s's so cold and I'm so tired of fighting everything. I just feel like 'why bother'/ It's just relentless and heartbreaking. I can't even afford to go to graduation. But all the bitches who bullied me can. I'm just so fed up of it all. I feel like sh.

How come everyone else gets to graduate, and I just get this empty, hollow space in my chest where nothing works out right?

TheSilveryPussycat · 28/08/2014 22:02

katkins you of all people can be proud of your degree. And it will be awarded to you formally at the degree ceremony - someone stands proxy for all those who are not attending in person while the Vice Chancellor (or whoever) does the speil. At least that's how they did it the last time I attended one.

I have had friends who've had access court cases, I can only offer sympathy, I know what anguish they cause.

I had to have the heating on the other day Sad

fluffydressinggown · 28/08/2014 22:10

You should be proud of yourself for your degree Katkins I hope you start to feel better soon.

I am so scared about work tomorrow, I feel pretty shit and I have a review with my manager which I am so worried about. Logically I know I have nothing to worry about but the other part of me is scared she will tell me off or something.

TheSilveryPussycat · 28/08/2014 22:23

You could try stomach breathing, fluffy - I find it helps, particularly when I know my state is due to illogical worrying.

SomethingVicardThisWayComes · 29/08/2014 00:24

just saying hi guys....still here. still reading. cant manage much of a reply or post right now, but am here. sending love to all.

regards my mother....thanks guys. i dont know her address or anything so i think id best just put that thought to bed.
got counselling session again in a week. need a top up.

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Katkins1 · 29/08/2014 00:42

Done thing, I don't talk to my Mum either. Haven't for twenty years, I don't know where she lives, same as you. Just to say-I'm with you and understand.

Counselling is a great idea, I'm not allowed to have it now, by ny cpn, she thinks it's going to be too much. But I had it for two years, and it was really useful.

Katkins1 · 29/08/2014 02:33

Something, I have just read you on the other thread about what you had to deal with at work. Are you Ok? I don't think you sound in a very good place, both of those things must have been triggering for you. Here if you want to talk x

Pyrrhagena · 29/08/2014 07:51

Something, you could always write the letter even if you don't send it. Depend how much time/energy you can spare to track her down if that's what you really want to do.

Good luck with the maths snowy. Graduation ceremonies are vastly overrated katkins! I know its nice in a way to 'finish' officially, but you have done your degree, you have graduated and if you don't get to sit in a draughty hall for a couple of hours...

Hello everyone else. Not feeling up to going back through the posts. Sorry. I can barely keep going as it is. Utter mummy failure today. I have a chance to leave this evening, DH has ok'ed me going out with some friends. I think it might be best if I just don't come back.

SnowyMouse · 29/08/2014 16:32

I'm feeling overwhelmed by the number of textbooks (seven), it doesn't start til October (website open from mid-September, which will hopefully make everything clearer). Hmm

I agree about graduation ceremonies, my undergrad one was special because I'd spent 4.5 full days a week with the other people on the course, postgrad was less so because I didn't know anyone particularly.

Katkins1 · 29/08/2014 16:50

I love text books snowy ! geek

Prygh, is there something that makes you not want to go back? You aren't a failure, you really aren't.Your dds love and need you.

I'm feeling absolutely awful today- my pain and sore throat and fluey feeings are back. The pain is a bit better, but it's taking a lot out of me and I'm exhausted. I feel sick and really tearful. Did anyone else ever have this sort of pain? Muscle aches, rises in temperature, cramps at the back of the legs, an intermmitent sore throat?

I'm starting to wonder if it's normal for depression; they are saying (my GP and Cpn) that it's part of it.

I do want to graduation, though, just because I already had psychosis when I was writing up and I've got a first. My Dad said he will see if he can help.

fluffydressinggown · 29/08/2014 17:38

Hello everyone.

My review at work went well and although the morning was a bit difficult for me I had a better afternoon. DH is taking me out for tea tonight to treat me as well :) Trying so hard not to think about the darker stuff.

Does anyone ever feel like they just don't have time to have MH problems?