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[ThatVikRinA22]

in honour of ed and her mountain ranges.....

welcome to thread 3 - this is a support thread for anyone needing a hand to hold while they get through depression or any other mental health problems - long term or temporary. All are welcome.

linky to old thread

evening all.

Thanks UA - i also wish i could just say once and for all that im going to leave without the pressure of finances - but i cant. I have a horrible feeling that im going to be disciplined.

i am so so sorry to read about your dad being back in hospital - i hope he is out again very soon.
Also sorry about the chap at the day centre and that its upset you - im sure he is in the right place now.

i have been out today with DD, had lunch out with her which was lovely and feels like i am seeing glimpses of my lovely dd before she became "kevin the teenager"...

hope you all have a lovely restful easter weekend.

I think my ad's took the edge off. When I first started on them, I got my emotions back. Of course, that led to my nervous breakdown!

CBT and daily exercise made the biggest difference.

Thanks Helles sorry to hear you've had such a tough time. I have been wondering about CBT. Am currently having psycho dynamic counselling which has been helpful in learning more about myself. But doesn't help at all with perpetual negative/paranoid thinking [buhmm]

that's what cbt really helped me with. I even realised that, in her own weird way, my mum does love me. I started to be able to cope with busy places and speaking in public.

I'm told it would probably do me good to look at my past but I'm more of a going forward person plus nothing hideous has ever happened to me. not like a lot of people who have had serious trauma which has triggered depression.

ps ciq that was during my last depressive episode about five years ago. I was fine again til this last autumn and am now due more therapy

am waiting for cbt.

think ive really dropped a bollock re work.
text supervision and had no answer what so ever. sick note ran out last tues.
they dont want me back do they....

Did someone steal my day...I don't know where it went.

Feeling very guilty that I'm not keeping up...can't wait till dcs are at their dads next week and I can do some proper catching up.

Meanwhile...tonight is THE sleepover...I'm hoping no news is good news...

oh good luck with that egg....hope she is fine. im sure she will be. just be on standby....

i feel like a rambling idiot. work is taking up all of my thoughts. i text sgt tonight. nothing. nothing back at all.
i am now stuck. completely and utterly.

Oh yes.. standby. Must remember to leave my mobile on durrr....

Can you do anything to move things forward at this moment in time vicar?

I suspect the amswer is no...so stop ruminating about it at 1am (I sound strangely likey therapust did at the last meeting....)

i know.
but its always at 1am that my brain starts to work. and they are on nights. so actually......

fri and sat nights. if i hear nothing my sunday morning i will be really really paranoid.....

egg any news re sleepover?

vicar would it be up to our sergeant to arrange or would someone from human resources be in charge? I ask because, although my manager was the one who contacted me about my own return to work, everything was monitored by hr because there are so many pitfalls when managing long term sickness.

morning.

im ok this morning - i have had some very helpful replies from serving officers, and have told me to just sit on my sick note and wait for them to contact me.

so im going to enjoy easter. and forget work, for now. I have a telephone appt booked with Occupational Health next week. Half my problem is that i fuss and worry...i need to find a way to stop.

How was the sleepover egg? hoping she had a lovely time.

Morning. Have had a good few days which explains my absence from thread (too busy to sit and mn).

Back down to earth with a bump today. I've had a letter from uni saying they are concerned about my welfare because I've avoided contact. Need to contact them.

Sleepover seems to have gone ok. All home now. She's very stroppy tho...2 sleepovers in a row don't have a good effect on her mood....

gah! need to het ready for night out with girls (under threats of death if I cancel) then am due to get up in 12 and a half hours for dawn service. grrrrrrrr! I want to go to bed then watch doctor who and the voice then go back to bed all the while scoffing hot cross buns and drinking gallons of tea. instead I have to go up and wash my hair, shave my legs, polish my nails, do make-up (yuck), and all that crap.

rant over. hope all is well.

But think of all those bonus points...shave...nails....make up...dress at a guess (inferred from shaved legs).

I'm in bed as I just couldn't tolerate the pain in my neck. It had been getting loads better. I've done quite a bit of dual carriageway, motorway driving and parking today. Think the checking of blind spots so frequently has done me in.

But now I'm here I can barely keep my eyes open.

The other thing that has ruined my day. Dd3 has cut a hole in her socks (not a major issue) and good new jeans. When asked why the only answer I could give was that she was bored. I was in bed at the time letting her be bored. So now I feel like a shite mummy :(

Hi, can I join you guys? I am currently on ADs which seem to be helping tho it's only been a couple of weeks. Have a history of depression which comes and goes, which i struggle to get a handle on. Otherwise i have a lovely life, if i could only sort my head out ....
I know a couple of you from previous posts: Hi colouringinQueen - I do find CBT helps with negative/ paranoid thoughts, but its a work in progress!
UA - I hopped over from the other post to see how u were. The flapjacks sound yummy! Glad your dad is doing better. My dad thinks work would make my mum's MH worse, and i guess everyone is different, but i personally feel that work makes me much better than if i was at home all the time. However, i do only work part time and it is a pretty stressfree job, so it is easy for me to say!
Hi to everyone else - hope I'll get to know you a bit more!

Hi Milly - I'm pretty new here too - been on ADs about two weeks (this time ) and coming to terms with the fact that they might be a lifelong thing for me.

I know what you mean about working but again, for me, it was work that tipped me over the edge, but now im climbing the walls - life is never simple is it.

Happy Easter everyone!

bonus points required for:
blow dried hair
wore make-up
wore tights, heels and a frock

minus points:
already home in bed - felt ill AMD due to get up in under 7 hours.

Hi Milly nice to hear from you! Glad you're finding work helpful. I think it can be if its not too stressful. I stopped work last July and do miss it - particularly a lovely team I'd been with for 10 years... thanks for info on CBT - I am wondering whether to stick with the psycho-dynamic counselling for a little bit longer and then switch...
UA so pleased to hear your dad is stable, and picturing your lovely flapjacks [busmile]
Helles congrats on getting all that done and going out. Hope you're feeling better in the morning.
Egg sounds like your teenager is just following the job description, but can understand why you feel bad {hug}
Vicar glad you've had some helpful advice from other offices. It sounds like a good plan to focus on the Easter weekend. Do you have any tactics for stopping unwanted thoughts eg re: Occ health? I read somewhere about wearing an elastic band on your wrist and pinging it when you have a thought you don't want? (sounds painful!)

Wishing everyone a happy and peaceful Easter. With love.

Happy Easter everybody!
Lucy I too am coming round to the idea that ADs will probably be a longterm thing, though if they help us, then it is worth it!
CinQ I personally found CBT was more useful for me, but everyone is different. If the psycho-dynamic is working then why not carry on with it!
Helles Well done on getting yourself spruced up - perfectly reasonable time to be tucked up in bed if you ask me!

Hi all.

Welcome newcomers.

I'm shattered. Haven't had a daytime sleep for days.

My neck/shoulder is absolute agony. I'm on a definite downhill slope. My house is a tip. Largely because of neck/shoulder + holidays = lots of extra mess and no-one to tidy it. I've just gone to play easter bunny and found that I have mice and a few less eggs :(.

Thing is I knew there were mice a couple of weeks ago and I've done nothing about it so I've no one to blame but myself.

I've hidden all the eggs half heartedly. I almost couldn't be bothered.

Oh well. Its done now. Thd clock says ridiculous o'clock....but at least it is now right (I havent changed some of them from autumn .

Dd3 is away at sleepover tonight so I get an undisturbed lay in...

Sorry I'm back with a bit of a bang and winge.

I'm awake - just need to get ds up now and dawn service here we come.

I need tea!

Happy Easter everyone.
Egg neck + mice = pants. Not an easy day - hang in there - look forward to that lie - in. Hope you have some chocolate to scoff enjoy too. Take care.

Hi Milly, Helles, UA lovely to hear about your DS [busmile] Wow Helles a dawn service - v impressive. We made it to 10o'clock mass... Hope it was a good one for you.

Thinking of you all x.