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Emetophobia - my worst nightmare

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zonedout · 09/11/2012 18:09

Ds1 goes to a school set on several different sites. Today one of the sites has been closed for deep cleaning due to norovirus wiping out hundreds of children this week. There are loads of siblings in ds1's building/class and 8 of his classmates were off today.

I am a single parent (really outing myself here!) and terrified of what feels completely inevitable right now. I was awake all night last night, waiting. Shall be doing the same again tonight.

You know, I feel like I have improved a lot with my emetophobia recently. I am no longer worried about the odd v. It's the awful, debilitating violence of noro that terrifies the life out of me.

The waiting is utter torture Sad

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liveinazoo · 15/11/2012 13:27

i dont use publis loosWink

Badvocsanta · 15/11/2012 13:36

Zoo...you need to feed them. Bananas, rice, apples, toast, beans on toast, scrambled eggs.
They won't be sick again now.
You are doing great x

SantasHugandRollintheSnow · 15/11/2012 13:54

zoo you've done so well! Class looked quite reduced today :(. Ds1 has a cough at the moment, I've heard they can't get two viruses at once so I'm off to research that. I do think though if he's going to get it let it be well before Christmas.

SantasHugandRollintheSnow · 15/11/2012 13:55

Bollocks, yes you can. Someone was trying to make me feel better!

reastie · 15/11/2012 14:05

zoo that therapy sounds really good, much more supportive than what I got on NHS.

santas please don't tell me you can get 2 viruses together! The only thing that gets me through is that at least when I/DD have a cold we are 'safe' for a little while. Sometimes I do more 'risky' than normal things with DD when she has s cold as I feel it's safe as she can't get a tummy bug on top. I think I heard it was possible to get 2 things together but very rare.

SantasHugandRollintheSnow · 15/11/2012 14:29

That's what I thought too, I was GLAD ds1 woke up with a cough Blush. I can't see me ever not being on high alert. My default sentance "are you ok?" I ask it all the time!

liveinazoo · 15/11/2012 16:27

santamy favourite phase alsoSmile

the zoolets have had their first arguement since friday

SantasHugandRollintheSnow · 15/11/2012 20:55

Ds2 (6months) projectile vomited his last bottle today. Luckily I was out and it was over dh but I'm so worried its a bug. I'm hoping he just ate too much today or the fromage frais he had after his tea was too rich for him (first time he's had one after a meal or anything after a meal really) but what the actual fuck do I do if he has got one? Dh will get it for sure as he got vomited on, so worried.

Badvocsanta · 15/11/2012 21:01

Santa...I have been vomited in and not caught it.
Also, it could well be that he ate too much if it was the first time he had from age frais.

reastie · 15/11/2012 21:07

santa is DS OK in himself now? I remember DD had a couple of ocassions around 6 months where she was sick/odd posset suddenly and I got really panicked, but it was just upset to a new food she had never tried. I left out that food for a couple of weeks andtried again in tiny amounts and she was fine. Hoping for you that it's that which caused it (and also this sounds bad but glad for you your DH had to deal with it not you IYKWIM).

SantasHugandRollintheSnow · 15/11/2012 22:33

I'm glad too! He was fine in himself before, during and after. We've also just moved to follow on milk which we tried him on last week but in pre made form and today he had the powder type so could be anything. I bloody hope its not a bug as I'm just not in the right place to be dealing with one not that I ever am

InNeedOfBrandy · 16/11/2012 07:55

Argh my nans just rang me saying ds was sick last night and do I still want him to go to school as he's fine now. Obviously I told her not to send him to school so she's dropping him home after she's dropped dd off. What mani going to do

InNeedOfBrandy · 16/11/2012 08:19

I don't know what to do I don't want him to come back

Marne · 16/11/2012 09:26

InNeed- i know you are probably panicking (i would be too) but maybe it was just excitement, something he had eaten (too many sweets or something he didn't like for dinner?). If he's fine now than chances are 'its not a bug'. Dd1 did this once, luckily dh sorted her out and i didnt even know until the morning (as i was sleeping downstairs), she went to bed too early after eating and was very sick, she woke up fine the next day and no one else was poorly.

How old is your ds? when my dd1 (8) is now poorly i tend to just leave her in her room with a dvd and a bucket and then try and keep busy downstairs (doing house work) in hope she is not sick (she rarely is). I would have thought i he hasnt been sick sinse and it was just once that he should be ok.

InNeedOfBrandy · 16/11/2012 09:37

He's home, I made him strip off and put all his clothes in the washing machine and then made him get in the bath (even though he didn't want to). I feel shaky and sick now and am hiding in my room while he's on the sofa. Hes quiet so I figure it is the bug luckily with mine the times before they were I'll it's always just been the once so hopefully it won't happen again. He is now moaning he wants the mango and to watch Simpsons so I think he's fine and it was my nans cooking. Sorry this is all rambled argh and now I can't go into work and I don't know how I'm going to pick dd up if he's I'll again.

Badvocsanta · 16/11/2012 10:00

Good he is ok now.
Try and stay calm.
It may well have been something he ate or perhaps excitement?
If he was inky sick once and no runs then it probably isn't a bug.
X

SantasHugandRollintheSnow · 16/11/2012 10:02

Oh inneed we are all here for you. How's it going? This bug seems to be sweeping through the whole of Britain. So many people on here, Facebook and twitter have it, it's only a matter of time before we all have it and that thought chills me to the bone and I'm terrified.

You can do this, if he's older he can look after himself which I'm looking forward to. God help me if ds1 gets it, he's only 4 and will vomit wherever he is at the time :(

Marne · 16/11/2012 10:09

I think some kids do get sick when they eat different food (he might not have liked what he was given to eat but felt he had to eat it?). If it was a bug he probably wouldn't feel hungry. I would give him a bit of toast at lunch time, if all is ok then i would say 'deffently not a bug and it was probably grandmas cooking'.

Try and look on the bright side, if it is a bug he has got of lightly and you did not have to deal it Smile.

InNeedOfBrandy · 16/11/2012 10:19

Thank you everyone

He's fine he's sat on the sofa on a old blanket watching cbeebies I've bleached the bath sink taps and soap dispenser. Thrown away flannel and shower gel he used.

I will maybe let him have toast at lunch time ( and it will only be half a slice) maybe a apple or some rice later later on if he's still ok.

It seems this bug is everywhere there are so many threads and Facebook statuses about this bug. I wonder if it's something in the water for it to spread so far and wide.

It could be my nans cooking but generally she seems to give them oven food like chips and nuggets or lasagna still frozen in the middle and it's pretty hard to mess that up. Although her house is not te cleanest of houses an that extends to plates and cups and the bathroom.

Off to do more obsessive cleaning like light switches and door handles now...

Marne · 16/11/2012 10:29

i think these bugs are always about this time of year, i hate the fact people post about it on fb, i often have days where i have to stay away from fb as i would rather not know.

I always hope 'if one of my kids picks up a bug that they are sick at school so i dont have to deal with it', i feel really mean that i dont want to be with them when they are poorly but i know they would get more sympathy if they were sick at school (not like here where they get 'mummy freaking out').

These bugs tend to spread through contact with V or D so chances are you wouldn't catch it (you have bathed him, washed everything he has touched), make sure he washes his mouth out with mouth wash. I think you are more likely to catch it if you clean up the V so luckily you havn't had to do this.

InNeedOfBrandy · 16/11/2012 10:37

I didn't know about mouthwash I'm doing that now!

Marne I always hope that it's at school or my nans to. And that's so true about the sympathy least my nan can hug them after lol. I have washed everything he's touched (apart from tv remote which I will do before I touch it or when he goes to bed)

I'm not sure what to do with the cereal bars my nan dropped off or his pack lunch. I want to throw it all away but that's such a waste but the pack lunch for instance is in a bag in his book bag (not the sandwiches but the crisps yoghurt and snack) and the cereal bars are in a brand new box with just one took out for dd. Should I just throw it all in the bin?

Marne · 16/11/2012 10:50

If the cereal bars are in a box then shake them out and chuck the box away, they should be fine as i'm sure she washed her hands after sorting out ds but if your worried then chuck it away (if it stops you being more anxious).

I have been known to bath the girls and add detol or TCP to the bath (my therapist told me this was ok), mainly after we have been to parties at soft play (i hate soft play). Apparently the best thing to clean with is soapy water, anti-bac does not kill tummy bugs, if anything it makes things worse as it kills off the good bacterea that you need to kill off tummy bugs and other virusis, we dont use anti-bac in our house anymore (just soapy water and bleach).

Marne · 16/11/2012 10:54

My dd1 has gone on a school trip today so i'm freaking out a little as i worry that 'if theres a ill child on the bus all of them will get it', i know i'm being silly, i also worry that someone will be travel sick and it will get on dd or her back pack (i can remember always having my back pack on the seat on a school trip as i was worried if someone was sick whilst the bus was going down a hill it could get on my bag on the floor), i was so pleased when i passed my driving test and no longer had to go on a coach ever again Grin.

InNeedOfBrandy · 16/11/2012 11:08

I only use bleach and hot soapy water I agree about the anti bac sprays.

I hate soft play to, I just remind myself they build immunity and the one I go to gets a throrough clean every 6 weeks. If there was any sick incidences my friend who works there will tell me.

I will shake the bars out into a bag and hope for the best. I think they'll be fine and yes remind myself my nan will of washed her hands. but not bleached them like I would have

I know exactly what you mean worrying about people being travel sick! I'm surety phobia stems from my sister getting travel sick and puking on me once.

Marne · 16/11/2012 11:15

I'm not sure where my phobia started, can remember having it at a early age, maybe it came from when i was poorly with a bug as a child (i can remember having a very nasty bug and being ill for weeks as i damaged the lining of my stomach), my brother used to get travel sick too but he always managed to get mum to pull over before he was ill. I can remember being petrified to walk home from school because someone had been sick on the pavement and the thought of walking past it make me shake with fear (i must have been around 8 years old).

Its such a horrid phobia, i wish i was scared of clowns, at least they are easier to avoid Smile.