amanda-its a very frightening prospect having a baby on your own, my dp walked out on myself and my 2 year old dd when i was 7 weeks preg, 12 years ago, bizzarrely he maintained contact with my dd but bombarded me with phonecalls demanding that i terminate the preg, he tried every trick in the book, it wasnt his etc, then i found out he had a girlfriend, who didnt know i was preg, i made an idiot of myself so many times, howling outside his flat when i was heavily preg, etc, i cant begin to be.ieve the distress i felt that he could turn his back on his unborn child, i even took ds to him when he was born and he slammed the door in my face, it took months before i realised that he did not want to know, it hurt like hell, but i was lucky to meet someone new, 2 years later, who i married, he adopted ds and has always treated him as his, and we had 2 more children, as far as im concerned, the loss was my ex dp's, my son gained himself a loving father. all the best to you amanda, you will come through this.your ex is the loser in so many ways.