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Pregnant, Alone, Scared, Confused, Tired

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Amanda1 · 02/09/2005 00:11

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Rhubarb · 03/09/2005 09:08

I have emailed you. At least when you get the results of the scan you will be better informed and it might help you to decide what to do. At the moment you are in a kind of limboland, it's awful but just hang on in there, all this will pass. Try not to dwell on it, go for walks, get out a funny DVD to watch, go to the cinema, get your hair cut, do anything to make yourself feel a little better. You can overdo something and feel all talked out, you need time out. You are stronger than you think, and you have all of us behind you.

sweetbean · 03/09/2005 09:51

Amanda1
just to let you know im thinking of you and send you a massive((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))))
not that it's that constructive but everyone neads a hug sometimes xxxxxxxxxxx

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Amanda1 · 05/09/2005 17:11

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colditz · 05/09/2005 17:41

What a bastard.

Sorry MNHQ.... but justified I think.

I am gobsmacked. I am horrified by his behavior.

serenity · 05/09/2005 17:51

You are well and truly better off without this sorry excuse of a man in your life. I hope this other woman realises what a favour you have done her with this.

Apart from this how's it been being back at work today?

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Amanda1 · 05/09/2005 17:57

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mymama · 06/09/2005 00:00

Good for you Amanda1!!!! Hopefully the other woman won't stay with him because he can't be trusted. Perhaps she is an innocent victim too. Hope you can move forward now with the realisation that even if he wanted to get back togther he is not a good person and would probably end up hurting you again in the future. I really hope your amnio goes well and you can get excited about this little bundle. With your cancer treatment it really is a miracle!!! Just take your ex for all the child support you can

sweetbean · 06/09/2005 10:19

Hi hun
Just wanted you to know am still thinking of you and wishing you loads of luck for your amnio xxx

chloe55 · 06/09/2005 11:01

Hi Amanda,

Looked for your thread after seeing you on the due feb thread. I hope you are feeling a little better since the weekend, I think that you are being very strong over this whole situation (even though at times you might not feel like it). At the end of the day your ex obviously has no idea about consideration or care and you are therefore best off without him, particularly when you are gonna bring a wonderful child into the world. And if the 'other woman' is happy to have a life with someone who uses and abuses people then that is her problem - at least you warned her.

I wish you all the best with your test tomorrow, keep posting and keep us updated

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Amanda1 · 07/09/2005 18:59

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Aragon · 07/09/2005 19:01

Hi Amanda,

Next time either of them say such things do remind them that it takes two to make a baby and that no contraceptive is 100% reliable.

What a pair of charmers they are - get the CSA to screw him for as much as possible.

milosmum · 07/09/2005 19:45

oh amanda- really wish i could do something for you. im sending you as many hugs as possible......

yabbs · 07/09/2005 22:09

I hope you are ok? Wish there was something I could do to make it better just remeber we are all here for you whatever happens.

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Amanda1 · 07/09/2005 22:15

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hunkermunker · 07/09/2005 22:23

You are amazing, Amanda, truly. He is incredibly selfish and immature - you are definitely better off without him in your life.

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milward · 07/09/2005 22:29

amanda1 - just read your thread. You're attitude is spot on - concentrate on your baby and let him go his own way. Get the child support people on his case as well. You have a dd and will have another baby - the richness of life is our kids - he will have nothing and it's his own fault. You have so much and will have more happyiness when your new little one is born. For now take care - you've had an amnio - be kind to yourself xxx

mymama · 08/09/2005 02:18

Sorry to hear they are giving you such a hard time. Don't let them bully you into a termination as this has to be your decision. You are the one who has to live with it. I don't know what the girlfriend is on about. Why would she WANT to be with someone who lies to her and then treats a pregant lady this way????? She should be thanking you for HER look into the future. Hope everything is well and the results are good news.

nightowl · 08/09/2005 02:58

amanda...reading that post...i feel so angry on your behalf. what the hell does his gf think she is playing at sending you mails like that? its nothing to do with her. this is between you and him. that makes her sound like a silly, jealous little girl. she should be ashamed of herself. he should be too, what is bitching about you by text going to achieve exactly?

let him have his dna test if he wants it, then he can pay for it.

so sorry you are going through this, you are the better person, dont forget that. how big of them to attempt to bully a pregnant woman.

nightowl · 08/09/2005 03:16

btw, i have experience of being pg alone with a tosser ex and gf, feel free to cat me if you want to x

Bellajade · 08/09/2005 05:36

Hi Amanda,its actually really hard for me to write to you because a few months ago my dh cheated on me with a girl from his work called Amanda.I know its stupid but its a name that brings back bad memories for me. Anyway I just wanted to offer you some extra support bcoz your ex is a selfish prick!How self involved is he to think you got preg just to ruin his relationship with the cow he cheated on you with.God that makes me mad,babies can be a blessing.When my husband cheated my 4month old and 3yr old got me through it,just seeing them smile.Im glad your baby is healthy that must be a huge relief for you.Your ex is very immature and seems to be playing games with you,dont take him or his gf too seriously.Its a good idea to ignore their messages just let him know if he can stand up and be a man your willing to let him see the baby.If not Im sure you will give the bubba all the love it needs.good luck,Ill be thinkin of you

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Amanda1 · 08/09/2005 08:03

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Amanda1 · 08/09/2005 08:34

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Toothache · 08/09/2005 08:53

Amanda - I so so sorry he is putting you through this! He really has no right, and is clearly a wanker. And he's panicking.... GOOD!!!

You've had fab advice here that I can't really improve on. You are pregnant..... don't think about him, he is irrelevant!! Just a sperm depositer in this situation.

You are handling this! Look at what you have already been through..... no wonder you have suffered from depression! But you are still alive and still fighting and still have a wonderful wee girl who's got a birthday party coming up.

...and if you do decide to keep the baby.... then you and your wee family also have the excitement of a new addition to the family to look forward to.

How do you get along with dd's Dad?

spikeycat · 08/09/2005 08:59

Amanda, just read this thread - what a horrid person he is.

If I were you to protect your self and your feelings I would change my mobile number - or bar his calls. That way YOU can decide HOW and WHEN you speak to him.