Insomnia friends - I will sleep well tonight because I have told my unconscious I will- Part II

[madmouse]

Help we left it too late the old thread is full!!! Hope we all find this one!!!

Oh Madmouse you are having a tough time with illnesses at the moment. I am so pleased your DS is ok. Hope tonight you and him get lots of good sleep xxx

I can't believe I am complaining about this but I am soooo sleepy at the moment - I just want to go to bed! I just fell asleep on DS3's bedroom floor while he was playing! Since Christmas I have felt like this - I do have man flu but I haven't had man flu for a whole 12 months (amazingly) so have forgotten how it makes you feel. I just want to sleep all the time! Does man flu make you sleepy?

becky any virus will make you tired even a common cold. I know how you feel, I wanted to lie down on the hospital floor yesterday and sleep.

I did get sleep in between alarm clocks (every 4 hours) and a fever spike at some point between alarm clocks. Panicked this morning when ds very out of breath, but I should know as an asthmatic that that is the worst time. He has to cough a lot but tries not to which doesn't help.

Well he's clearly still recovering rather than all well (which makes sense, nasty virus!!)but he's alert, bossy and playful with bright eyes and dh is not at all worried - i try to take my cue from him as my anxiety has totally derailed.

Madmouse big hug to you xxx it's so hard being a mother when they aren't well. The worrying never ends. It does sound like your DS is on the way back up though - every day he'll be a bit better I am sure.

Sorry you are going through such a hard time madmouse, the anxiety when little ones are ill is awful. I find the sense of responsibility at these times really draining.

I've not been sleeping too great Went to parents' for 3 nights and all 3 of them were bad, despite resorting to zopiclone on 2 of them. And since been home, haven't really "got it back" yet. Night before last I couldn't sleep despite being really really exhausted - I had that kind of over-tired feeling. And got really anxious and DH had to calm me down.

Then last night I got off ok but DD woke up about 3 times in the night and really struggled to get back to sleep after each time. Feeling quite bleary today. Also feel a bit overwhelmed by all the extra "stuff" we have gained from numerous birthdays and Christmas. House is a mess and dont' know where to start really.

Hope you are all ok xx

Hi

Madmouse I hope your DS is improving each day. It's awful when they're ill and I get very anxious too. I've got a bit better as the DDs have got older but it's always there.

GetDown sorry to hear you're not having good nights at the moment. Hopefully it will settle down. I find I often can't sleep at someone else's house. Also the change of routine at this time of year doesn't help either.

Try not to worry about the house. I've been looking at mine over the last few days and don't know where to start either. I've been out running this morning and come back feeling much more relaxed about it all. I've decided to do one little task each day so I don't get panicky about everything.

Due to upping my dose of AD to 50mg I'm sleeping better than I was but I don't think the full effect is there on my mood yet. Apparently it takes about two weeks to kick in properly and yesterday I felt a bit tearful. I think for me aswell the thought of January approaching doesn't help ...

Hope everyone else is OK.

I'm sorry to hear you're having a rough time, madmouse I hope that your DS is getting better.

Becky , I hope your flu goes soon :(

Getdown , I hope you get your sleep back soon, Christmas can be so draining.

orangeflutie , I hope that the two weeks pass without incident, and that you start to feel better soon...this is definitely a dodgy time of year.

I have been visiting for a few days, now back 'home' and more distressed/anxious again

I wish I knew the difference between 'distressed' and just crying - people keep going on about me being distressed. My sleep is very disrupted by flashbacks now I'm back, not sure if that's what is meant. I hope everyone has a good new year.

Oh GetDown! You will sleep better now you're back home and now it is nearly all over I am sure. Christmas is so stressful. Christmas away from home is mega stressful. I know what you mean about all the stuff now though. With three small children and a birthday the extra stuff we have is huge - I try not to sweat it too much as it is lovely to have new things (except perhaps the hideous presents my sister-in-law, bless her, always buys me - that probably makes me a really bad person saying that!). This house is in a terrible state at the moment. I tried putting most of the presents away today but couldn't manage all of them. As soon as school starts I'm going to aim then to have a clear out of some old / unplayed with toys - charity beckons I think.

I'm feeling much better, cold wise, today. I slept 10 hours last night - terrible, isn't it? I'm sure it was just because I wasn't well though.

10 hours becky wow - Sorry you are feeling ill though.

I know totally what you mean about all the stuff. Feels wrong to seem ungrateful, but all the materialistic side of Christmas kind of gets me down

Becky hope you get better soon and have a good night tonight. Flu sucks:(

It gets me down too. We spend so much money and most people, me included, end up finding their worries about getting it all right distracting their minds from the meaning of Christmas (whether it be to celebrate the birth of Jesus, time to spend with family, time off from normal life, time to appreciate and reflect, etc, whatever is important to each person). It becomes a stress and it shouldn't be a stress. It should be a lovely time. I always intend not to spend too much but the stocking presents, Christmas presents, food, more food, even more food, wine, etc all costs so much. Then the wrapping paper, tree, tags, ribbons, labels... It is crazy. Thing is, I know next year it'll all happen again.

It is crazy I agree and it's all really just for one day.

P.S. New year's eve is fast approaching and I really hate it. I think I'll hide in a cupboard until it's all over.

I hate New Year's Eve too. I'd rather just stay at home and go to bed early. We are staying at home and having friends stay but I'll have to stay up until midnight - bah humbug. And even more than NYE I hate January sooooo much!

Hello

ds is well on the mend, in fact apart from a rattling cough he's in great nick - better than me and dh it seems. I've found the experience traumatic and am realy struggling atm, not worried about ds anymore (no reason) but deeper things that have been stirred up.

Sleep is a mess - bad night when ds was ill, no sleep in hospital, up for meds every few hours first night at home, up twice last night but trouble getting back to sleep. So tired, so off to bed in a minute. dh can give ds his abs before he goes to bed. ds likes them and only half wakes. it was the nightly ventolin that was the battle.

I sympathise with the Christmas madness business. For us it is always low key in commercial terms, but very busy due to dh's work. we loved going to church on Christmas day and wishing all our friends merry christmas and peace and then coming home eating special bread that I made and unwrapping some gifts. As an immigrant even after 13 years I am a bit bemused by the big style British christmas, even sofas are flogged with the 'get it before christmas' message.

For those of you who have been sleeping badly - give normality a chance to kick in again. Especially you Getdown don't start seeing patterns that are not there. Just a few stressful days culminating in bad nights. it won't last!!

GetDown I hope you slept better last night. I was thinking about you as I was going to sleep! We all slept in this morning, 8.15am, and the cat was due at the vets at 9am so DH had to leap out of bed, no breakfast, no coffee even, to whisk the cat down to the vets while I got the DSs up. At least I got coffee

My lurgie is much better now. Worried DH is going to get it! He has a job interview next week in Bristol!!! He says it'd have to be absolutely super smashing brilliant for us to up sticks and move again. I don't really want to live in Bristol! Anyway, we'll see.

I don't like NYE either Orangeflutie we are going to friend's house and I hate the staying up late I end up getting beyond tired and then cannot sleep.

Glad to hear that DS is much better madmouse what a worry for you all though, no wonder you are a bit fragile at the moment. It always seems to be the way that the kids bounce back really quickly but the parents (esp the mum) is left feeling drained by it all.

becky hope your cat got on ok at the vets. Oooo Bristol! Supposed to be a really nice place to live (although that poor lady in the news recently ) DH went to uni there and one of my cousins lives there. Would be a hassle having to move house again though. My DH really wants to find a new job. Hoping more jobs will come up in the new year. He's working yesterday today and tomorrow. Left really early yesterday (6:30) and didn't get back till 6:30pm.

I haven't got any plans for today. Need to get up and showered first then take the dog! Then we'll see what happens.

Last night wasn't great again. Just kept waking up. Also felt really hot, I think now it's milder it seems really warm in comparison to below zero temps!

GetDown sorry you didn't sleep brilliantly but you did sleep some - I have nights like that when I keep waking up. I've only been sleeping well recently thanks to this lurgie. I'm sure I'll get back to my 'normal' soon.

What is everyone else doing for New Year's Eve? We're having friends visit from Exemouth. The one friend I lived with in my final year at University, she's half-Dutch (her mum is Dutch) , and she is an absolute inspiration to me. She had a heart and lung transplant when she was 16 and she's a complete fighter for life. She really does know how precious life is. Her husband is lovely too; he's really brainy - maths degree from Cambridge, his best friend really is a rocket scientist! I'm looking forward to seeing them as I don't get to see them very often since they live so far away.

At midnight I will toast you all, my fellow sleepy friends, a happy new year :)

Hello, just found this and would like to ask if I can join you as I too have terrible insomnia.
I have read some of this thread but its soooo long its gonna take me some time to digest it all so please excuse me for now.

Brief bit about me, I am a 45 year old lone parent of 2, dd is 15 and ds is 10. I had always been a fairly good sleeper until the day my ex-h left us (3 years ago now), I didnt go to bed for about 4 nights and since then have had terrible problems sleeping. On a good night I get 4-5 hours sleep, on a bad night I get 2-3. I have learned to cope on 4 or 5 hours sleep but when I get less I find it very hard.

Hi Feelingold welcome - well sorry that you can't sleep but glad you are joining us!

Don't worry about catching up on this thread as we are about to start No3! (This is No2 and I just note that it is almost full.

It's a day to day support thread so just join in.

So ladies - any witty thread titles? Get them in quick or else it will just be No3

I've created one - except that semi-colon should be a colon! Blumin' crumb stuck under my shift key!