Welcome! I’ve taken advantage of the relative quietness recently to have a good “spring” clean. And also install solar panels and get in a good supply of logs for the stove.
Come in when you want to share good news, or to rant, or to ask a small question that doesn't warrant its own thread. Or just to hang out with others who understand what you're going through.
For newbies: why cockroach? Previous long term resident of "Elderly Parents" Yolo's DM attended a 'small animal event' in a nursing home, and was presented with a "small animal with a hard back" the name of which species she couldn't remember. Her ever helpful DB suggested cockroach, and it has become a toast on here. So 🪳 mes amis/amies, and may you all live to fight another day.
Elderly parents
Cockroach Cafe 🪳Autumn 2022 🪳
MereDintofPandiculation · 25/09/2022 19:58
dementedma · 25/09/2022 20:07
Help. 87 year old mum lives alone and manages reasonably well but cant go out due to poor balance and has other various age related problems. However the thing that is driving her into an ever deeper depression and suicidal thoughts is incontinence. Doctors and hospital say there is nothing they can do ( catheter suggested but she cant manage that due to arthritic hands etc). Constantly wetting bed at night despite enormous pads, padded pants etc etc. Have mattress covers etc but it is driving her mad, tearful,stressed etc. She "floods" when she stands up,sresses about being smelly. Her skin is red and painful despite Sudocrem, changing often,tried every pad under the sun etc. She sits crying because she doesnt want to go on any more. Anyone any new ideas? ( tried all the obvious stuff)
thesandwich · 26/09/2022 16:54
@Chevyimpala67 I hear you …. Welcome, rant away, there’s room for all here.
hope tomorrow is useful.
Tupperwarelid · 26/09/2022 17:17
@Chevyimpala67 i know exactly what you mean. Both my DH and I are in our 50s with all parents still alive and a 16 and 14 year old. It’s tough and I’m constantly exhausted. You have my sympathies.
Tupperwarelid · 26/09/2022 17:17
@Chevyimpala67 i know exactly what you mean. Both my DH and I are in our 50s with all parents still alive and a 16 and 14 year old. It’s tough and I’m constantly exhausted. You have my sympathies.
chesterelly1 · 26/09/2022 17:51
Waves to my fellow sandwich middles. DH and I are in the middle of 2 increasingly needed DF (both our DM have passed away) and 3 DC, one in final year of university, 1 final year of school, and 1 starting Nat 5s (our gcse). The DC need us less and less but it's Sod's law that the dad's have a crisis when there's parents night or a flat move or a football final.
Fantasea · 26/09/2022 18:49
@Chevyimpala67 I also think it would be so much easier if my DM and I were closer. I sometimes wish I liked her more as then perhaps I wouldn't feel so resentful.
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