Hello. Thought I would pop back and update the thread re my folks. First off though, 
for Eccles - it's so hard.
So my Dad is thriving in his care home, which I'm very pleased about. He settled in well, is benefitting from the physio support, and is generally a much happier chap, which is great. SS came out to review him, and he's been put onto the long-term review team. So that's him sorted for now.
But my Mum, who has just about everything going wrong has also had to move into the home, as in the last couple of weeks she has had swollen, painful legs, which after the Doc started her on ABs, didn't improve, so she had a short hospital stay, and when she came out had to go in for respite as my brother was away for 10 days and unable to support her.
The brief diagnosis is that her right heart failure has got worse, she has poor kidney function, weakened lungs, cellulitis, fluid seeping out through her umbilical hernia and is generally in a pretty poor state. I'm usually very good at not "Dr Googling" for me (as I have health anxiety), but have been reading up for her, and would agree with Docs assessment that her prognosis is very poor. But as well as managing that, I'm desperately trying to get SS to come out and assess her as she deffo needs nursing care, and isn't safe to be at home. But because she's not in hospital, it's dragging on and on and on.
This leaves my Bro at home alone - lost his entire support network in three months (he's also disabled) and he's struggling now too. As am I...