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Binge Eating Disorder Support

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FightingBed2014 · 23/10/2014 16:41

This is our second thread, helping each other through the ups and downs we experience with binge eating. The original thread can be found here
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/new_blog_posts/2029166-Eating-Disorder-Recovery

This is open to anyone, no mater how good or bad things are for you. We are all here for support and help to recover from our disordered eating. Talking about how we feel has been the first step to recovery for us. There is hope and life without it.

I blog about my recovery as I go through each new experience, if you want to have a read it's here

ellechapmanblog.wordpress.com

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goodasitgets · 28/10/2014 12:45

Oh and the doctor suggested some gentle walking Hmm
I tend to just ignore them now!

carriewintermeadow · 28/10/2014 14:30

Thanks for the support Smile I think I need to get my head around how I continue.

I have the book and will read it again. I guess I felt it didn't really apply to me, whilst I have disordered eating, I don't purge or even binge as much as referred to in the book. It seems I eat too much of the wrong stuff, but for emotional reasons.

I may go quiet for a bit while I get my head straight. I really appreciate the support you've all given me.

Sleepwhenidie · 28/10/2014 14:48

Smile I'm a big fan of walking but your GP sounds like the one in that cartoon doing the rounds on Facebook, with the guy with a stake through his chest saying 'I'm impaled!' And the doctor is looking at him saying 'Have you thought about losing weight?...' Grin.

On a more serious note, you might find yoga and/or meditation good, just for a bit of headspace and until you feel ready to address the termination etc with a therapist. I am a recent convert to yoga after more than 20 years of 'too dull, too slow etc etc'. I'm finding it's not only great for my head but is really improving my performance in other sport. I had to experiment with different types to find a class that worked for me though Smile.

Sleepwhenidie · 28/10/2014 15:01

Sorry, that was for goodas. Carrie please stay, it's not all about whether you binge or purge it's about healing your relationship with food and your body. Emotions play a huge part in it all but so does biology, when I talk about choosing the good things for your health it's about eating in a positive way, by doing this you can more easily separate genuine physical hunger from the emotions, which you can then start to look at.

You are probably thinking 'well if I add more food to my day then I'm going to gain weight, but think of feeding a fire...you can put great quality fuel (say, wood)on there and it gets used up gradually, leaves a bit of ash. Put spindly twigs and paper they get burned up quickly and leave ash. Put bits of plastic on there they melt and lie in the bottom of the fireplace making a mess. In the same way, all calories aren't equal. Good protein and fat is the wood, decent carbs the twigs, heavily processed and artificial food is the plastic, too much stuff your body has no use for and struggles to metabolise. Good quality calories will be more efficiently used by your body, added on to the not so great ones you might go through a period of weight gain but you will also feel much healthier and if you start eating mindfully and listening to your hunger signals, they won't be clamouring the same way and you will naturally eat less of the empty calories.

If you feel you are relying too much on the sugar etc in the evening, can you think of other comforting things you can do as an alternative? Call a friend, do your nails, take a bath, go for a walk...

carriewintermeadow · 28/10/2014 17:12

Thank you sleep, that does make sense.

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FightingBed2014 · 28/10/2014 19:26

WelcomeJoyful. It sounds difficult to have a diagnosis and then not a lot of follow up help. I hope you find the thread somewhere helpful. We're growing all the time and finding strength from each other. Happy readingSmile.

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FightingBed2014 · 28/10/2014 19:28

Margo do you have a BBQ you can burn the torture bra in?Grin

Good have a nice time away.x

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Sleepwhenidie · 28/10/2014 22:27

Definitely burn the bra Mrs Grin

this looks like it could be a great resource for thread followers....

MrsMargoLeadbetter · 29/10/2014 11:43

Hello Puddle

I agree with the concept of bingeing as self-harm. I haven't self-harmed in the 'traditional' sense but do feel a sense of release from bingeing.

Thanks for that link sleep. Lots of great content on there.

I feel a bit more collected today with a renewed focus on being kind to myself. I like what the anti-diet lady on sleeps link wrote about feeling the feelings (that result in a binge) was good and something I need to try. It feel scarey thoughShock

How are you all today?

Perfectlypurple · 29/10/2014 21:43

Just a quick hello. Will pop back later and read the posts. Has been a mad few days. Looks like my boss is going to get me in new job asap and has got me on a training course in less than 2 weeks! So as long as I fet through everything else I should be in new job in a month!

Just finished decorating a hallowe'en cake for my nephews complete with edible gory eyeballs. Pic to follow.

Perfectlypurple · 29/10/2014 21:45

Halloween cake

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Sleepwhenidie · 29/10/2014 22:22

Purple that cake is incredible - I've said it before but I'm going to repeat it, you have an incredible talent, you should sell cakes (even if you continue to make some as gifts and as a sideline to work), I really think you'd make a great success of it. Good news about your 'normal' job too Smile - are you happy?

Perfectlypurple · 29/10/2014 22:26

Thanks sleep. Yes i am happy. I can't wait to move on. And looking forward to a change. It's scary too though.

goodasitgets · 29/10/2014 23:43

I lost the thread!
I've tried yoga/Pilates but I actually find spinning switches me off more - I can't think anything except "am I going to die? Where's my water? More resistance?" Grin
Been away for two days so a lot of service station food but I went for Waitrose or starbucks, picked what I wanted and enjoyed it. Also went for a meal with two people I've never met before (huge achievement) and enjoyed a thai meal, ate what I wanted and left some
Just driving a 500 mile round trip was challenging myself Smile

Recovering · 30/10/2014 08:25

I'm new and still need to read the thread.

I've been reading "recovering from binge eating" and finding it really helpful to get my mind around it. I'm eating 3 times a day with a midmorning and midafternoon snack and finding I am binging less.

I don't really know where to go next though. I'm still 5 stone overweight (grr) and quite inactive/easily tired. THe book is full of "don't diet" and "don't restrict" but surely I need to to lose the amount I need to?

It's like theres two problems - the binge eating and the obesity. But they're interlinked.

I really truly hate what my body has become. I'd love to be able to do PGL holidays with my kids, high ropes course, etc. We went to a theme park recently and worried about the straps fitting.... I don't want this to be me :( Yet - after 2 years of "trying" nothing has changed really.

FightingBed2014 · 30/10/2014 09:43

Hi Recovering how far into the book are you? Getting your meals stable was a really good start, try not to let your mind gloss over that. It's an achievement.

With regards to this weight loss, try not to make your goal about that. It will create the same restrictions and cycles, leaving you where you are now. What about focusing on becoming happier with life, yourself and opening up new opportunities? By working on those, our liklihood to eat badly, binge and backslide are reduced. Are there things you would want to change?x

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FightingBed2014 · 30/10/2014 09:46

Purple your cake is wonderful! I agree with the post about you having a business selling them. It great to hear things are coming together with work! I love reading you're happy.x

Good the whole trip sou.ds.like success, well done. Hopefully time away has done a lot of good.x

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Italiangreyhound · 30/10/2014 19:20

Hi, can I join, please?

I'm an impulse eater/compulsive overeater.

I have just been to two Overeaters Anonymous meetings.

I have struggled with my weight for half my life and trace my eating problems back to OCD in my teens and twenties.

Thank you.

FightingBed2014 · 30/10/2014 20:22

Welcome Italian. Have you found the groups to be a help?x

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Italiangreyhound · 31/10/2014 00:34

Thanks Fighting, kind of although at the moment my eating is going into overdrive as any time I think I may get better I start to feel I must eat a lot in case I can't when I am better! Crazy!

Perfectlypurple · 31/10/2014 19:37

Emotional day. Went to my nans house for the last time before it is sold today. Had to hide my upset as my mum very emotional and didn't want to set her off. Then popped up to the home to see my nan and she is very frail - we haven't told her yet about the house as we are afraid she will give up.

Think I need a good nights sleep now.
Sad

Sleepwhenidie · 31/10/2014 22:26

Oh Purple Sad, I'm so sorry, that must have been hard, doubly so if you were hiding your emotions to try and support your mum. Would it have been so bad for you two to share how sad it really made you both?

Sleepwhenidie · 31/10/2014 22:28

Welcome Italian, to the growing band! I don't know if it's the 'done thing' to explain but what kind of process is OA taking you through?

Sleepwhenidie · 31/10/2014 22:29

Goodas you make me Grin. Hope you had a good time away, you should be v proud for doing something you find intimidating Smile