#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 10

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2944496--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-9
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2908645--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-8
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

We also have a weight loss spin off thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

stork If you promise not to do any heavy lifting and get plenty of rest then I will give you permission to travel

AF has arrived - almost a week early

Wow Wish looks a very clear line there. Congratulations.

London the exercise thing is tricky especially when your used to it but you ll be able to return to yoga, swimming and lower impact gym work in time. I still did quite a lot of walking as have a pet business and walked several dogs at once with horrific morning sickness too. Its just riding out the initial stages. Eye on prize and all. Best of luck hun

Stork I haven't got the drugs yet because want to try and get in Asda, and just found out the nearest superstore is in Kettering, and possibly MK. I have a hard copy of prescription so can hopefully save some money, otherwise its drugs4you or whatever its called online. I do hope I get the protocol upon their return as atm its a list of drugs in no order of taking, eek. Have prostrap down reg injection, progynova, doxycyline, prednisolone, celebrex, baby aspirin, folic acid, clexane inj (x30) and utrogestan capsules and pessaries. Holy crap, that's like ALOT!! Not sure why I ve got an anti-inflammatory/pain killer in amongst as well.
As for your dilemma, I think you ve seemed so positive and certain that donor embryo is the way to go (whether 1 or 2 implanted) and you re right you can do everything by the book to no success, so why not take a different approach this time. By being less prescriptive and less disciplined, then maybe it equals less stress. I say go for it!! And also go for whatever you had put on hold in your personal life outside of TTC. Am trying to move, which is probably a bit foolhardy but I feel its something I need to do, if I can. That could be the week before treatment or a month later but I just want to see change to hopefully make the back end of the toughest year of my life a success!!.
I cant do late Oct or Nov due to Mabel's anniversaries so if first attempt doesn't work I will do a FET in Dec!! With the Aug closure getting in the way, it could still mean we are cycling at the same time, dependent on my donors availability.
Exciting xx

Ahh, thanks kwick, yay!!!

How exciting Wish! EEEEeeee

London I can imagine it is hard having to cut back. I'm terrible at resting when I'm ill - know I should sit on the sofa but I end up doing jobs or carrying on at work regardless. Maybe make yourself some plans for later on, like an exercise goal you might work towards in 9m time? I find a practical plan and setting myself steps always helps calm the mental side

Amazing news Wish!

Got my HSG appointment through today - for a week on Friday. This test does not look fun.

Thanks Turtle, wonky and ever. I know it's the right thing to do - I'm just so used to be able to run off a low mood, a bad day at work or an anxious moment!

Stork, I know work travel isn't glam, but mixing it up sounds sensible.

Tiny, I had one of those. I found it totally fine - not cramping or pain. The thing was mainly notable for my missus, the doc & about 5 students peering at my insides! Joy of teaching hospitals! Good luck, you'll be fine.

Thanks all for your support! My wife and I are hoping and praying that it's a sticky one and we are just very very lucky! I feel very fortunate right now but at the same time I don't believe it for a second, lol!

london hang on in there and maybe make yourself a plan, like others have said. I'm sure it's about not starting new things and pushing yourself too hard, but as your body is used to lots of exercise I'm sure a bit won't hurt at all. The TWW is horrendous but you're getting there! Thinking of you! Xx

Hi guys,
New here and first message.
Am 32 single and going through my first ivf cycle, am on my down reg injections and have been getting such bad headaches!
Have my baseline scan tomorrow, so fingers crossed to start Stimson! Eek! Getting close! I'm trying to be calm and positive but hearing so many stories of it not working first time! 😕

So big question I'd like opinions on if you don't mind. Have got a very physical job, carrying all my equipment to several jobs every day, I've paid alot for this ivf journey and don't want to ruin my chances. Should I take it easy after embryo insertion? I feel like I don't want to carry all my equipment but my body should be used to it right? I need money being single so can't stop work
Ahh panicking and trying to stay calm!

Thanks guys xx

Sorry should have said hope you don't mind me joining your group.
Am a bundle of emotions at moment, was all positive until I've had some negative comments from "friends" recently bah. Right meditation time xx

Ps congrats wish!! Awesome news.
Do you go for a scan at clinic before 12weeks? X

paws welcome! Yes, I need to call and let them know today, as today is my official test day. I get a 6 week and 9 week scan too. I'm not sure what I'm meant to do now... never been pregnant before! Eek!

Welcome Paws! And best of luck with your first cycle!! IVF works first time for plenty of people so keep up the PMA!
Is there any particular reason why you're doing a long protocol as opposed to a mild IVF if you don't mind me asking?
You'll get all the support you need on this thread, you've come to the right place 😊
Also, just ignore the negativity you might get from some people, I only had to deal with one of my friends who was being difficult with my decision (I think it was mostly due to jealousy) and usually it's because negative people have some problems of their own so it's not worth wasting energy on this.

How heavy is your equipment? Can you use a trolley/wheelie bag? You should be careful during TWW, after that once the embryo is fully implanted you can resume your normal activities (within reason).

Welcome paws you ll find loads of support on here for your journey. There is a very lovely lady snork who is cycling at the exact time as you now, although not down regging. I ve done the down regging twice, 1st time was a breeze, 2nd time horrid. It sounds as though you are gradually getting through it and the end goal is in sight. I didn't experience headaches particularly, just raging hormones, tearfulness, bloating and pain with the last cycle
I am starting a Donor egg cycle abroad next month so gearing myself up for more treatment.
What sort of job do you do? I would guess because its something you re well used to, it shouldn't have too much impact but you might want to consider a few days off whilst in 2ww to try and relax but maybe this isn't possible for you?
Its very difficult to know whether your first attempt would be successful, we ve had several on here who ve been lucky first time and also after a number of IUI tries, the first IVF was their magic bullet. You might feel more confident once you get to the stimming stage as you ll see each step as progress where you can be your own gardener, grow your own follicles. Unfortunately its a step by step process. If it doesn't work first time then hopefully you ll have embryos in the freezer to have multiple attempts. Its good you are doing meditation if this works for you, send the negative vibes from friends away on a cloud. Best of luck

Ah thank you for your warm welcome and lovely comments!
I've just got back from my down reg scan and all is looking good and uterus line thin yay! So feeling positive and has given be a boost!
So onto next stage stimms now!

Oh good luck wish! Lots of scans!

Pez I went and had tests because I was single I wanted to freeze eggs and I found out that I have a very low egg count and low follicle count 😕 So thought right I've got to do this now! Why wait for a man ey.

Equipment is quite heavy am a dog groomer so take my table to pretty much every house and bag full of grooming stuff and dryer too eek that's the bit I'm worried about.
I spoke to the nurse about it today and she said maybe take a few days off but I think I'm going to take longer. Luckily I've just had my manic spell of work so think I'll have a quiet few weeks beginning of sept and will just have to move a couple.
Some people say as I've been used to carrying my equipment for years I should be fine, it's more about not hurting me as the baby is very protected in a bubble.
But I think the first couple weeks will be crucial? Ahh will ask my consultant at ec day too to see what he says xx

Welcome paws :) good luck with your first cycle

Wish have you spoken to your clinic yet? Have you booked your scan?

Hi pickle yeah I spoke to them this morning! First scan booked for Sept 11th, which will be week 7 not 6, just had to fit in around work! I get another scan at 9 or so weeks with my clinic too. They told me to wait until after the first scan to book in with NHS, so I'll do that. It's all new to me! Both of us are still in shock! I'm not sure it's fully hit either of us yet! X

My mum shared this link with me - for those that are thinking about making this type of purchase:

kemi.taenk.dk/bliv-groennere/push-chairs-these-problematic-chemicals-were-found-test

stork my lovely. Just put in my drug order. Came to £308.04 pence at Asda superstore, Kettering so I would expect yr sum to be that minus down reg injection cost of £75.24 if you go for same. Very helpful pharmacist. Lots of drugs, and a snip of a price compared to own egg ivf xxx

Welcome paws!

Wow Ever!! I must check this out when I get IVI prescription (and if they allow this - CRGH did not).

Wish, am so made up for you - how exciting to be getting scan dates in! I'm sure you're nervous - totally understandable, but congrats to you & your DP.

Welcome Paws! Afraid I can't help with your questions, but the ladies here are brilliant & so good to talk things through with.

ever thanks doll! That's an epic saving, no?! My ivf drugs were £1400 most rounds.

I have to admit I'm and chomping at the bit to just get on with this. Me and my new 'fuck it' attitude are ready to whirl ladies!

You are so close now ever. This is awesome, I've got a good feeling!

Cd28 for me. AL should be appearing tomorrow hopefully! Though the cycle after failure is always a bit hit and miss in terms of dates....

Welcome Paws, congrats on getting started - I'm still impatiently waiting to get through all the preparation appts first.

I'm having a bit of a wobble tonight. Was watching Long Lost Family and was struck at all these people desperately seeking mothers/fathers that gave them up when they were born. I suddenly realised that the people they felt were missing from their lives have no greater connection than my sperm donor to a child I have. Is this what my child is always going to feel like?

Most of the adopted children had wonderful childhoods but still felt that missing parent, but mine will be missing a dad in all forms. Thought I was ok with this but now doubting. Help!

paws my apologies, welcome to our club!!

Eek exciting wish, that's the day before my midwife appointment:) 7 weeks is better than 6 anyway as sometimes things aren't ready by 6weeks which is fine but causes worry and you end up having to go back the week later anyway.
I'll be 7wk +4 on my scan day

I'm 🤢24/7 and it still doesn't feel real

🐢 I think it's natural to have those worries, most of the time I'm fine with it. In a perfect world I would have loved to have given them a dad or another mum but it's not possible. My donor sounds like one of the kindest man out there and I will talk for my little one about him from when they are young and always encourage them to find their dad or half siblings when the time comes. One happy parent is better than 2 unhappy ones. Plus it's a slightly different situation to adoption as they haven't walked out on the baby just that they helped us have them (maybe I'm just trying to convince myself)