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For anyone with experience of sperm or egg donation to share support and advice. Please remember this board isn’t for debate about donor conception.

#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 10

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kwick · 13/08/2017 12:10

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2944496--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-9
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2908645--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-8
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

We also have a weight loss spin off thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

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Everhopeful76 · 26/09/2017 19:49

Thanks Bear. Another blood test tomorrow, and rescue pregnyl also tomorrow and Friday. Then I hope its a case of waiting till early scan. Don't think I can keep up this level of stress with it. The opinions are coming from patients of Serum on social media. Unfortunately because Serum tend to treat difficult fertility cases, there are still a few who sadly cant realise their goal so I feel that they are almost wanting to be negative based on their own experience which is not helpful. Its a tricky one, as they genuinely feel they are helping but when your starting out with a new type of treatment and a new clinic, you don't really need it.
kwik Thank you so much.... and you have your master plan of action now. Losing files and sending on files, continues to be a recurring theme. Whats the matter with them. BUT You and Stork hot on the heels for the DD route!! Yay!!

Wonky35 · 26/09/2017 19:59

Congratulations ever! Definitely sounds like good news. Fingers crossed. I agree that you should follow the advice from your clinic. They will want you to succeed even if only for the selfish reason of making their numbers look good. I have also decided google is not my friend at the moment as googleing symptoms is confusing as everyone has different opinions about everything.

Talking about dramas with injections I had one of my own tonight! Not good for my stress levels. I find it a bit difficult to inject the left side of my bum as I am right handed so asked my mum to do it for me - big mistake! First of all she dropped the syringe on the floor and the needle came off, obviously not very sterile. Then she managed to squirt out a load of the medicine before giving me the injection. Then she managed to stab herself with the needle, didn't tell me and went ahead with giving me the injection! Then she got upset when I was cross with her! Grrr! She is so dozy! I need to work out how to contort myself to do it on my own next time.

That is exciting news kwick. I bet you can't wait to get started. Plus having a definite target date will make the dieting easier although December is a rubbish time of year for healthy eating!

TurtleTree · 26/09/2017 21:16

Oh Ever hope the pregnyl does its thing and your BFN stays - great news!

Haha Wonky oops doesn't sound like the smoothest of medication experiences. Perhaps your Mum has learned from this attempt and will be more professional next time??

kwick great news that things are finally moving for you

StorkAhoy · 26/09/2017 22:31

ever hell yeah we are hot on your heels. Positive vibes please, rather than horror stories from other cyclers. This is your journey not theirs! And you know I'm flipping out for you and your bfp!

Are you happy with the prIcing at ivi kwick? I'm really glad it's coming together for you!!

I too will be doing an FET, and yes it's great re timing as long as the lining does what it should (she says while glugging half a bottle of pomegranate juice and trying not to heave!) 35wks and counting till I'm on the plane to Athens....boldly going where -ever has gone before...

Hi everyone else!

Wonky35 · 26/09/2017 22:59

Just wondering how you monitor things now after your ‘rescue shot’ ever? Do you have to wait for it to be out of your system before you test again?

kwick · 27/09/2017 06:40

wonky I cannot imagine asking my mum to inject me. I have often done my injections in front of my family and they are so squeamish- no help at all!!!
I found that using a mirror helped alot for the bum-bum ones or having someone touch the skin you need to stab so you know what to aim for. Nice and slow does it.

stork TBH I am completely desensitised to pricing... especially after all home improvements.. I am by no means rich but I have a small pot if savings and well you can't take it with you when you die right?
35 weeks? I hope that was a typo!
What does pomegranate do?

Ok better get my shit together - am going to dump my stuff at my flat before going on to work. #exhausted

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Bear1980 · 27/09/2017 11:15

Well I have got my consents and extra bloods booked in so should know protocol on 20th October. I guess the protocol will determine my timings. Will spend the month focussing on diet and weight loss.

kwick pomegranate juice is meant to help thicken your lining. I drank a diluted glass of POM juice last cycle as well. Will probably use that again when I start again

StorkAhoy · 27/09/2017 13:29

kwick should have read 3.5 wks! And yes Pom juice, 100% juice is for lining growth and thickening.
Re price and ivi, As long as you are happy, that is what matters!

Everhopeful76 · 27/09/2017 16:51

OMG pom juice, I cant stand the stuff. Very acquired taste I find. I had to go for the other womb liners!! Brazil nuts, pineapple etc etc.

Thanks Stork am trying to stay positive, I had someone on clinic pages want to send me details of breakdown of hcg with pregnyl taken into account, I said please please don't send. I decided to just send the results on from the lab without perusing them. They don't mean anything to me. I actually decided to take the control out and let the clinic just advise because at just 4+2 days pregnant its a helluva long distance to travel to end, and it just takes all the joy out of every moment. Its hard enough with such a devastating loss, of course you immediately think the worst and its hard to stay positive, but you can really do without it from day 1 hey.

I had to get my Mum to help with my pregnyl ones Wonky, but was administering myself. I was having to do x marks the spot with a mirror, and then pin the tail on the donkey. I find them a right phaff and more painful, and have to always put into right side because I ve no leverage for the other. I suppose because its become second nature putting into my belly it just feels more of a lets breathe through these.
And as for how I monitor things after my rescue shot, I think that's it for preg tests now as whilst pregnyl in system will be a false reading. I think with previous pregnancy was piddling around for several weeks doing pregnancy tests on/off. Was obsessed, but yeah this time its different.

Thanks Turtle I hope my BFP stays too, waiting game.

Wonky35 · 28/09/2017 21:17

Well tomorrow is my OTD. Feeling nervous but have been very good and not tested early. Nothing I can do about it now and yet I still can't bring myself not to wear socks to bed!

Everhopeful76 · 28/09/2017 21:38

And you shouldn't wonky it's bloody freezing. Good luck Hun.
My hcg had tripled in 2 days so things looking good. I ve learnt the beta week of torture this time, the TWOT I was ok with this time xxx

pickle162 · 28/09/2017 21:53

Keeping everything crossed for tomorrow wonky

Bear1980 · 28/09/2017 22:08

Good luck tomorrow wonky I’ll be looking out for a post for you.

That’s great news ever so happy for you. Will you get an early scan?

Hope everyone else doing ok, been a very quiet thread of late. pickle when is your next scan?

kwick · 28/09/2017 22:31

Um wonky sleeping without socks???????? ShockShockShockShock
Best of luck tomorrow!! 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

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Wonky35 · 29/09/2017 06:14

Oh my god! It’s a BFP. Can’t quite believe it but I did think my urine smelt funny over the last few days.

#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 10
pickle162 · 29/09/2017 06:38

Wahoooooooooo wonky 😁😁** fab news!!!!!! Congratulations 🎉

Hi bear I've got my scan on Tuesday morning was a bit late due to work schedule so I'll be 13wks +1 when have it. Can't wait to see the little one again 😊 I get 2 more scans after that-22 weeks and 36 as my hospital twins with kings on antenatal care.
Probably going to pay for a scan around 16/17 weeks to find out gender. I so want to know. Hope your doing ok and ivf plans are coming together x

Everhopeful76 · 29/09/2017 07:39

Ahhhhhhh amazing news wonky. Big congratulations. Made my day actually because so many of the ladies I was cycling with in Greece have had bfns. Although impossible to compare really in a short time frame and because we ve all had different treatments.

Am delighted for you love xxx

kwick · 29/09/2017 08:14

Wahoo wonky!!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!! StarStarStar

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Everhopeful76 · 29/09/2017 08:39

Hello bear because of previous loss and also because I can't get a viability scan as a matter of course because clinic is in Greece, am talking with the bereavement midwives who looked after me before, who ve said I can have a viability scan with them. Haven't got onto the finer details but if the timing does not work for me I will go private with one of the scanning places have been using before I went to Greece and get something done around 7 ish weeks . The NHS have certainly offered me a couple of scans before 12w for reassurance so am glad of that

That all said I am having my last pregnyl tonight and then will b having a 3 rd beta on Tuesday so will wait for that result.... and then supposed to be having an intralipid infusion which I am not going to do until I know the result of this beta. As this treatment is 200 quid.

So think I ve got plenty of time to sh*t myself in between these appts and scans!! Take each day as it comes init!!

TurtleTree · 29/09/2017 09:31

Eeee that's fantastic news Wonky!

Wonky35 · 29/09/2017 12:55

Thanks everyone! Still can’t quite believe it. Given that only 2 of my eggs fertilised I guess I am proof that it only takes 1 (so far at least)! Still not sure I will be able to give up the bed socks yet though. Maybe at 10 weeks?

Bear1980 · 29/09/2017 16:44

wonky thats amazing, congratulations.**

Aww good luck for Tuesday pickle I thought it must be coming up.**

Glad they are looking after you ever will give you peace of mind.**

TinyPaws · 30/09/2017 22:01

Congrats Wonky!

Just wondering if everyone else has had their CMV status tested? I'm having mine done next week and if it's negative my clinic will not permit me to use a CMV positive donor. Is this standard?

Wonky35 · 30/09/2017 22:33

It seems to be standard to get CMV checked but you don’t have to have a negative donor if you are negative. I am -ve and went for a +ve donor. Risks seem to be very small and I figured that if I was having a baby the normal way I would have no idea what my partners status would be. I just had to sign a disclaimer saying I was aware of the risks.

TinyPaws · 30/09/2017 23:11

According to the paperwork they have sent, my clinic insists on CMV negative women using only CMV negative donors. Never have I hoped so much to have been exposed to a virus!