#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 8

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI
We also have a weight loss spin off thread:www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

pickle it ain't over till it's over, chick. Xoxoxox

So got my protocol through from the fc and boy it's certainly a hybrid protocol! Meds are ordered and arrive next Friday, ready to start on the 11th June. And Christ, the price. £700. Somewhat different to the usual £1300!!!

Doing my best to ignore it at the moment as no point testing for another twelve days.... but am quite twingy today which I hope is a good sign.

Caution - don't let them freak you out with amh- as long as you
Ovulate you ovulate - all the rest is just numbers . They told me I had super low
Amh and I got preggo first iui we had so....

@caution it's easy for me to say so try not to worry about your amh levels because it's not me in the situation and with perspective comes rational thinking. You have a good plan and try to focus on that instead!
@stork that sounds good. I hope it all works out for you
Is anyone here on Clomid???

Just back from a looooong evening at A&E. Went to Out of Hrs firstly because of bad lower left hand side abdominal pain (that I've had for a week but has got worse today and yesterday) who then sent me to A&E for further investigation... Turns out it's Pelvic Inflammatory Disease that's more than likely come from my surgery 9.5 weeks ago - so had 2 different IV antibiotics tonight and then on 2 different antibiotics for 2 weeks.
Can my bad luck in health end now please!!?

& thanks for all your nice words and comments re AMH... It's settled in properly now and the numbers aren't the end of the world. It doesn't change anything; it can still happen!!

Snork; that doesn't sound fun at all 😩 bless you!!
Sounds like you've been given a lot of conflicting info there too... Only you in your heart of hearts know what the best decision will be; we're all here to support you either way!!
Enjoy Northumberland :)

Sorry about your miscarriage Angliski :( will have everything crossed for this cycle 🤞🏻

Pickle, I can't help re symptoms, but I sure hope it's a positive thing!!

Oh Caution that sounds awful. Hope you feel better soon!

Well my first iui cycle officially failed. Started spotting this morning. Will call the clinic later to discuss. So incredibly gutted. Knowing I'm running out of time is just awful. Lots to figure out/think about now

caution you have such a run of bad luck hope you feel better soon

Sorry to hear that phoenix I am also out af came on during the night so blood test is just a formality. I am extremely disappointed but not too upset as I had always expected that it would take more than 1 cycle. Good thing is af came on early enough to hopefully let me try again in June.

pickle putting everything into hoping for you now

Caution. Sorry you are having more problems 🙄getting a bit ridiculous now-sending lots of well vibes

Bear & Phoenix I'm so sorry to hear that :(
I'm not hopeful mine has worked either but will find out soon enough.
Bear I'm glad that this will mean u can do next cycle because of dates though, that's at least one positive
Take care all of you xx

@Karendvm I hope you are feeling better. You were right to call on sick - don't feel guilty.

@Munrowalker I know it is heartbreaking when others get their BFPS, but as one wise MNer said a while back it is not like there is a quota of babies to be born - someone getting a BFP does not diminish your chances of success. only they said it loads more eloquently

@pickle162 i hope the lump turns out to be nothing but sounds like you have spotted really early on.
TMI alert I developed quite a large bump at the top of my left boobage awhile back and got it checked out (if you think speculums hurt try a mammogram!) and it was nothing, then in December 2015 it got sore again and one day I just gave it a squeeze and a whole load of gunk came out... and this continued for days - it was wonderful!! I am now a member of Sporners Corner right here on MN

@Munrowalker well done on getting to IUI!!! Do you need me to post my "patent pending" 2ww tips?

@CautionHormone nice to have you back. AMH is not everything but a good reason to get started sooner rather than later.

@PhoenixMama sorry to hear about tough times but you are valiant and will pull through! July not so far away!!

@tygr best of luck to you and your Hen :)

@Angliski so sorry to hear of MC. Hope you get a BFP this time that sticks.

@pickle162 I love your countdown!!!

@Snorkmaiden85 I hope you get some well deserved R@R. Why are none of these things covered on NHS? I hate it when you get conflicting medical opinions!

@StorkAhoy it is amazing how much the drugs cost!!! I guess the nuns are raking it in!

@CautionHormone oh poor you! You just do not seem to catch a break! Lets hope this is the end of it!

@PhoenixMama and @Bear1980 I am very sorry for your AFs

Damn - just cannot seem to get formatting right!

So I am still waiting for AF which was due last Wednesday... perhaps I hve had the amazing fortune of experiencing an immaculate conception?! Or the more logical reason is that I am perimenopausal FFS...
I keep on feeling like I am starting but then nada...
Anyway trying to put to the back of my mind as on holiday and the calamaties we have had thus far have been keeping me plenty busy...

Lol @kwick you and your sporners obsession 😂 mine is too internal to spew out, I just hope they don't just poo Poo it say it's nothing without doing some tests cos they can't see internally

Off to buy some frer's in a bit!! Why do the fxxxing shops open later on bank holidays?!?!?!?!!!

Sorry to hear that, bear and phoenix.

kwick - oh, no! Hope your holiday hasn't been ruined.

caution - that's rotten, I'm sorry.

@munro keeping everything crossed for you! I hope this is the one for you.

@pickle, really hoping it's just a cyst and nothing more. I'm sure they will charcknot out properly.

@bear and @pheonix, so sorry it's not happened this time. I know it's a blow. I used to take a day or so then get back to it. Nothing I can do change the result so I had to keep looking forward. Your time will come. How many treatments Have you had?

@caution, thanks! I'm now 5+5 weeks, looking forward to the day of scan on 12th June.
sending you get well wishes. Sorry you've been really poorly and all from the op too.

AMH result is not the worst and you still have great chances.

@pickle I really can't remember what I was like before af, never really took much notice. Keeping fingers crossed

@tygr seeing your hen is amazing! Great little chicks!

@kwick hope your enjoying your holiday.

Have I missed anyone?

Hoping you all having a relaxing bank holiday, I'm sat with a hot water bottle behind me as my back has decided it doesn't want to play and in pain 😔X x

Phoenix and bear - sorry to hear - and keep going! The chances increase as you repeat .... x

Kwick can I have your tww tips?

Thanks all, have kept myself busy today by doing lots of cleaning, house has never looked better 😂. I am still waiting to hear from clinic but hoping to get booked in for baseline on Wednesday. I am supposed to have appointment with counsellor that morning but I don't want to wait on baseline, is it bad to reschedule counsellor this late on?

@Calz81 this was my first attempt so would have been extremely lucky for it to have worked. I think I will take it harder in future cycles but will be taking a couple of months off if the next cycle doesn't work to enjoy my holiday.

@PhoenixMama How are you feeling today?

@pickle162 When are you going to start testing?

@kwick Hope your af shows up soon, what are your next steps?

@LRDtheFeministDragon we are ok thus far: first flat had no water, then no internet - got both sorted; then my mum managed to lock us out, nephew has horrid cold but we are pulling through all this adversity!

@Bear1980 I need to lose shed loads of weight and then when I am a svelte BMI 35 I will use IVI to have donor embryo transfer.

Back by popular demand my patent pending two week wait tips list:

@Bear1980 I've been testing my trigger out since last injection, there is a v v feint line on the 10 sensitivity ones now. I brought some frer on offer today and There is a second but presuming it's still the trigger so will continue to test for next 4days with these and hope to god the line stays and gets darker.
It awful to see the second line and not know if it's a lie. I don't think it's worked tho so think I'll just be waving goodbye to the second line over the next few days

@kwick I'm with you on the weight loss, not been great on the food front for the last two weeks. I am going to focus on diet and exercise for the next two weeks. Last treat day today 

@pickle162 fingers crossed you keep seeing the line

Well that's me booked in for baseline on Wednesday, I think it will be tight but if I am somewhat economical with the truth at work I think I can manage scan and counselling. Also need to try and work from home on Friday so I. An get the melds delivered, all the lying is difficult for me but I don't have any other option unless I start telling people who could wait in for me.

Ooh yay @Bear1980 glad it's all going ahead for Wednesday. Glad you don't have to wait too long to get started now. I have to wait out a cycle if it's a no which is going to be more torture
I'm convinced af on her way, doesn't help that so many symptoms are the same 😭

Aww @pickle162 I know it's hard but try and not focus too much on it if you can. You just never know what's going on inside. If June doesn't work I will likely have a couple of months off so probably September but I am hoping for a June success 🙏🏼

Off to google consecutive iui success rates

It's so sad I'm wishing to go back to work as it's so busy it takes my mind off it

I just ordered 30 preggo tests for £6 on amazon! i am impressed - in boots they are £6 for one!

Not that i intend to obsessively pee on sticks, oh no, not me.... 11 days to go 3dpiui

Lol angliski i in no way have poas obsessively 😳

Bear don't google. It will drive you insane. 20% success. On average. Across everyone, including all ages and different fertility situations. Numbers mean nothing. I'm sure it will work for you. Eat well. Take vitamins. Consider acupuncture or chiro. I googled every single number. According to numbers getting pregnant should be extremely difficult for anyone. Just know that your body is unique. Sorry if this sounds like a lecture. Just don't want you to head down the road that I did. I made myself miserable with numbers.

I'm not doing so great but thanks for asking Bear.

Due to my age, every passing moment means I'm running out of time. Couple that with already being a single mum, cash is limited so I'm really unsure what to do next. My friends have been great and I'm talking it through a lot; their outside view is helpful, and I have to say that how gutted they are for me also helps.

At one point I had been thinking about moving to IVF next, but costing it up it's an awful lot of money to come up with quickly, and as one of my friends asked is it fair to take that money away from DD. In order to raise enough I'd have to cut way back on activities, holidays, days out, etc. And on the other side, that kind of money could have a huge impact on our lives in a positive way.

I've been looking at a lot of stats - so for IVF, at the best clinic in the country (argc), for a woman 40 - 42 years old the best chance of success is 40%. Which means a 60% failure rate. If someone handed you £5k and said, you can either keep it; or bet on a horse that only has a 60% chance of finishing the race - what would you do?

I'm not pulling myself out of the race yet - I can still do another iui. And I really believe the clinic not seeing me on the Sunday was what messed up my chances so we'll see what they say but the earliest I can cycle now is July. Just really hurts that the last 3 years I've spent dating may have just eaten away my chances at another child.

Trying to console myself that I have one really awesome kid already (doesn't help that she's desperate to be a big sister and tells me so allllll the time) but also need to be realistic about my chances...