#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 8

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI
We also have a weight loss spin off thread:www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

Also should have read polo's not polls!!! Stupid autocorrect. @kwick I have so many friggin symptoms, excessive thirst and dry mouth, bloating, spots,nauseous,burps(more than usual) but could all be related to the pregnyl so trying not to read anything into it...had cramps all Sunday then all above started or got worse overnight Sunday and from Monday onwards.....will know either way soon (ish!!!) enough 🙄 I keep talking to my imaginary little beansprout willing him or her on.

Yeh have a chat with them tygr £300 is nothing in the grand scheme of this journey and if it checks things are all ok and give them a wash out then maybe worth it but only you know what feels right 😊

Wow pickle that's a lot of symptoms, hopefully it's a positive sign for you. Not long to wait now

Could all be the medication playing with my head but does seem strange that when I had the least about in my system I still had the symptoms and they are no worse or better since I had the next injection. This is a cruel game.....still not thinking either way so not toooooooo disappointed if don't work.
I'm very much trying to believe that if it's meant to be this month then it will be and if it doesn't there was a reason for it :)
I've booked annual leave for end of June/July and I've got more donor sperm in the freezer so plan b is right behind me if required

Crossing my fingers hard for you pickle. But you have the attitude I keep trying to have - if it's meant to be, it will be!

I'm trying.....It'll hurt like hell but will get on the horse and try again

Apparently an HSG is NOT a hycosy! I asked in my consultation tonight. Not entirely sure what the difference is but HSG is an x-ray, with liquid dye through a catheter to fill up the uterus/tubes to check for blockages.

Feeling a bit blue following my consultation. Still no date on laparoscopy, apparently I have to have an HSG first anyway, which I now have to wait for someone to phone me about. I feel silly for feeling down about it but it just feels like there keep being unexpected extra steps to go through. Also the consultant kept saying he is fairly certain he will find scar tissue (and mentioned removing tubes!) which made me feel disheartened, although I'm not really clear on what the implications of that would be. I just want to get the laparoscopy done so I know what I'm working with! Really hoped I might have a date for it today. Hey ho!

Also was not very impressed by the fact that the consultant hadn't received ANY notes/scans etc from the clinic even though they were supposed to have referred me, he didn't know who i was or why i was there! So I had to explain why based on my limited recollection/understanding of what I was told at the clinic 3 weeks ago! Which seemed a bit crap given how much it all costs.

Been struggling a bit mood wise generally even before the appointment. Work's been really stressful and it's made my anxiety peak again - had a full on crisis of confidence at work today and cried in front of my line manager! Felt like a right idiot but it's been building up for ages. Feeling really tempted to stay home tomorrow under a duvet! But just 2 days to get through then I've got a week off.

Sorry for whinging, I know it's an up and down journey, and so many of you have been through so much! I had just foolishly thought it would be a lot easier/more straightforward my planned 'start date' just keeps moving back and back. But I'll get there in the end, at least i'm moving in the right direction, even if it is very slowly.

@pickle162 single figures on the days! That's great, you seem to be coping really well too! Glad work is a good distraction. The sun has been bloody lovely today, next 2 days look good too :)

snork the set backs can really do your head in. For awhile there I felt like nothing was every going to happen, especially when I was in the middle of changing clinics. As bad as it was, I just stopped caring when jack was dying. And I think that helped. Helped me take a step back and stop focusing so much on my reproductive status. Not saying that I changed my priorities, just that I cut myself some slack and realized that a couple of months was not going to make a difference. It's really hard waiting for things to get going, and having to deal with all the paperwork and check boxes can get really tedious. But you'll get there. Let yourself grieve when you need to, and give yourself permission to relax too. You have a lot of people behind you. Venting helps. It is what we are all here for. X

Thank you lovely kwick :) i think you are right, I keep reminding myself that the odd month or two makes no difference in the long run! I've decided not to try and think in terms of dates or think too far ahead, I'm just going to think about each next step and be glad I'm moving in the right direction. You've been so strong through everything in the face of some truly heartbreaking setbacks! I have so much respect for you and everyone here.

Ah snork my lovely big hugs xx I completely get why your struggling especially when you have your hopes on getting a date etc I would be the same. Hopefully the break from work will do the world of good. It sounds really full on there at the moment
Last week at work was so horrific and I only had 2 days in but I was so emotional after the iui it was just too much, over the weekend I told myself that working week was going to be my positive way of clearing a few more days off and this week has seemed infinitely better. That's what your line managers are there for, dealing with the crisis of confidence and offering a bit of support. I learnt a while back that crying isn't a sign of weakness it's a sign of your body dealing so you can come back fighting stronger.
I really hope things start moving a bit for you, try and put to the back of your mind (easier said than done I know) and enjoy your break, enjoy having caffeine, alcohol, unpasteurised cheese etc. Have nice days out with friends.
Keep on talking to us, always here to help and remember we are like little twins with our silly heads I really do understand those horrible emotions.just keep swimming my little poppet we are right here behind you xx

@tygr my understanding is that for a few months after having a hycosy there is an increased propensity of getting a BFP. It certainly worked for moi.

FFS @Snorkmaiden85 this is just not on!!! What kind of a game are your Drs playing - very angry on your behalf!!!
Why would they want to remove tubes? Even if they are blocked, what harm do they so? I do not get it.
I hope you are feeling calmer today - you know that we are all rooting for you and you can do this! Even if there are hurdles along the way.
What @Karendvm said (which I think you gave me credit for).

@pickle162 What can I say??? That is whole load of symptoms!!! I would just recommend you try to keep a lid on your excitement- every fricking time I was convinced I was preggers... you probs have never watched your body so closely.

Lets hope the sunshine lasts - it definitely helps my mood!!!

Only 2 more days until we go on holiday- I really need a break just hope I get one as this is a critical tome with new job

@snork that's a lot to be dealing with. I think the hsg is similar to a aqua scan, using a dye and X-ray?
As for saying about removing the tubes he should have been much clearer on that and I think I would be feeling the same as you if I heard that. Sounds very disorganised.

This is a hard road to travel under straightforward circumstances so feeling a bit low is normal. I think your way of just thinking about the next step rather than further done the line is a good thing. Each small step gets you to the ultimate goal.
Sending you Hugs x x

Hi all - I wrote a msg yesterday & it seems to have disappeared 🙄

First off Tygr - congrats on the very high AMH. That's great news.

Stork I'm so sorry you're getting hurdles thrown in your way. It's so upsetting when you think you have the lay of the land and then it chances. Sounds like you don't have a huge amount choice about doing the HSG but if it brings you closer to your goal then it's worth it. That said, is it worth getting a second opinion? I always remind myself that clinics are judged on their success rates and sometimes they'll push things that might bring better results. Sometimes necessary, sometimes questionable.

So I'm officially 10dpiui today. First test tomorrow. All my different apps say to start testing on different days but I figure tomorrow's as good as ever.

I don't know if I have symptoms or an overactive imagination lol. Interestingly i had very few obvious symptoms with my previous pregnancies but guess we'll see.

@kwick trust me no excitement with symptoms, I think it's my body playing horrible horrible tricks on me.....

Me too with the sunshine really keeps me going :)

snork, I had a HSG a couple of months ago.

One big benefit is that it is much, much less painful than a Hycosy. It is less painful than a smear test, even.

The only downside from my point of view is that, as an x-ray, it didn't pick up my ovarian cyst, which a Hycosy would have done. But this is no big deal as any scan for IUI or IVF would pick it up anyway.

I'm really sorry you're feeling down. It does feel rotten when they mess up the paperwork - you feel really overlooked! I had a minor glitch in mine - the NHS messed up and accidentally sent me a rather, ahem, frank email intended for my GP, which included various interesting things, but they'd got the information about my previous pregnancy history quite skew, and it upset me more than it should have done. Do make sure you really push to make them listen to you - you deserve this, you're paying for this, and they need to understand that things like timescales and the details of procedures matter to you!

calz - I'm so sorry, I seem somehow to have totally missed your wonderful news. Hope you're doing well!

@LRD thanks. Easy to get lost in this thread.
You right about everything. They need to listen and make things very clear.
How unbelievable they got it quite wrong! I think I'd be quite upset if they got something wrong about my previous pregnancy too x x

I am already feeling queasy at times, having one at the moment. I hope I'm not going to have tough time this time.

Tested this morning & BFN. Opks not getting darker either. 11dpiui & af due on Tues... Will test again tomorrow.

@pheonix I remember doing the same when I first had iui. I tested almost everyday from day 10. If you can hold out I really suggest try waiting the 14 days, for some the build up of hsg hormone takes time to show before the 14 days. I know it's really hard. Keeping my fingers crossed for you x x

phoenix it's still early so things might change in a few days

Phoenix im sorry to hear that 😥
But it is still early days so not all hope is lost yet!
I'm on my way to bloods and scan to check on my response to the Clomid medication. Hoping for 2 juicy eggs! If 3 or more then I won't get iui. If there's not even one then I'll have my medication upped.
Fingers crossed

Thanks ladies. I mean we'll see but my hopes are no long as positive as they were. The only thing I'm hanging onto is the dry mouth/funny taste & the fact that moons don't hurt like they do before every af & not when I'm pregnant. Either way I'll know within 72 hours.

GOOD LUCK Munro!!!

Good luck @munro. If things have gone well when do you have the iui?

Thanks guys! Iui will then be whenever the pee stick says!! So either tomorrow, monday or Tuesday. My clinic isn't open on Sunday so if I fall on a Sunday then I don't get treatment this cycle.

Good luck with your scan Munro 😘

Good luck munro!

My clinic won't do IUI if there are two dominant follicles because of the higher chance of twins - did yours need some persuading? (I keep wondering whether to push a bit, not that it's an issue at the moment).