#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 8

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI
We also have a weight loss spin off thread:www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

Yeh no they are doing their job :) well if am lucky enough that this worked first time then I will have once given birth if not I will try my very best to have it done during the next cycle

Pickle hugs that is tough and I'm sorry you've had trauma. They are awkward and uncomfortable but please please please do get it checked after baby. I nearly lost a very good friend who didn't get them for a similar reason. Having hormones as part of fertility treatment can have an impact on everything down there too.

Also mention it to your midwife WHEN you have your checking in process. If the procedure was painful the checks towards the end of pregnancy could also be and they may have some suggestions & work arounds for you!

Jeez pickle thats rough. xoxoxox

Caution that's great you are getting your amh done. Molly two cents is that mine was quite low for my age, but it's more about the quality of your eggs than how many you have. I have stopped worrying so much about numbers. They will drive you crazy. It's all about how your own body works and responds to meds, which you won't know until you try. Like I said I have a low amh but constantly had too many follicles. Doing an iui with 3 was a bit scary. Lol

Pickle I am so sorry about the trauma you have experienced. Perhaps the speculum pinched you? I've had that and have made them redo it. It's certainly not comfortable but shouldn't hurt. Xx

I don't think the consultant did anything wrong with the speculum it's me

Pickle im sorry you've had it rough... It's totally understandable in my eyes! I know it's not an awfully great help but we're all here for you!

Thanks ladies - just thought it was time to start doing something, and getting my AMH done seemed like a sensible first step. It's next Monday at 3pm, so I just want it to be here already (although it's really not long to wait)!!

Caution-Least that will break up the 3 week wait for your blood test. I think it is very good first steps as they will want to know this at your consultation so they discuss what's good for you. Sure your results will be grand :)

Aww pickle sorry to hear that, hopefully you will be lucky and not have to go through this process more than once.

caution must feel good to have finally made a start I found that once I had made that first appointment everything just rolled on from that and I before I knew it here I am.

Survived first day back at work with no caffeine 😢 bit of a sore head bit other than that doing ok. Hate not knowing or having any over whats going on inside but just trying to focus on what I need to get done in the next couple of weeks.

Yeh bear it's so so weird isn't it,being completely unaware of what's going on inside.
I'm currently feeling like it hasn't worked I don't know why as I wouldn't have any symptoms either way yet but just got a feeling
Need to plan some stuff to do over the weekend as don't want 2days doing nothing

Pickle, you're totally right... I did think maybe they'd want to know all that at my consultation so making the steps now also break up the wait until the consult! Haven't booked that yet because I've got a clinic closer to me in Birmingham that I know of by word of mouth, so got some thinking to do! Distance is a big thing - 3/4hrs or 1.5hrs?? CRGW (Wales) is meant to be really good, but Birmingham is closer and meant to be equally as good...

Bear yeah it feels great to finally have made a start. And knowing I only have a certain time frame (bloods have a "sell by date" according to the clinics!) is a good kick up the ass too!
It must be awful not knowing what's going on inside you, but nature is doing its thing and taking its course

Oh wow Pez high risk eh? Are you sure that means no birthing pool?

TMI alert:

pickle I really understand. I HATE fricking speculums and my first IUI was excruciating as not only was the speculum bit very painful but I had thrush too (sorry TMI). The pain though does vary - for example I had a smear last year which I barely noticed - a lot has to do with the type of speculum used and the size if of the fcuker and the person doing the procedure. I have often had very painful chukka-chukka... I was once told to regularly use a vibrator (by a Dr) to loosen up my fanjo 

Yay to getting started @CautionHormone !!!!

2wwers - EXCUSE ME - where is the PMA??????

Yeh Pma needs to return, I think I'm too scared to dream

Dreaming is an essential part of the game - come on, lots of PMA, we're going to get some BFPs on the thread in no time!!!

Kwick, I don't know but should know more on Friday once I see the obstetrician

I am trying to be positive but realistic, I go between dreaming about how I'll tell people and what I'll buy to what is my next step if it doesn't work out.

Same bear flit between emotions. when I was in morrisons I skimmed passed the baby stuff. Have bought stuff in past but now it's possible that could happen I didn't want to buy anything

Ah ah I'm still not buying things! I'm too superstitious (with the exception of a new pregnancy bikini as I'm off on holiday next week so it was a necessity 😉)

kwick, that's wonderful weight loss! Congrats! (I am a bad person, and going the other way ).

pickle - excuse me if I'm banging on. But would any therapy help? Or being able to insert the speculum yourself? I've done that before as I've a backwards tilted cervix (very common, but makes it a smear harder). I just had to ask, and they let me do it. It makes it so much easier! Obviously it's not totally painless as they still need then to do the smear itself, but you feel more in control.

I'm feeling very positive & content. There is something inside me (even if it's just leftover, dying off, Viking sperm) which wasn't there when I left on Saturday.

I'm so glad I started meditating before this process though my guided meditations are getting me through.

I too like to be in control, but the hardest part was deciding to have another kid, 8 years after the first, while still struggling with one and do it all on my own. I've been dating like a madwoman for 3 years with no success. Deciding to go it alone with this shedload of odds against me was the hard part. I'm enjoying just the process of what might be.

That's so lovely to read. I envy your calm, and I think you're going about it the right way.

I'm hopelessly behind on the thread but I've just had time to read the last few posts and see a question mark over high-risk pregnancy and birthing pool.

Pez - although I was high-risk and therefore consultant led, at my hospital birthing pools are available for consultant-led patients. It will depend on what level of monitoring you and baby need during birth. Even had I been induced it had been agreed I could use the birthing pool as long as the one set of wireless monitoring equipment in the hospital was available for my use at the time. However had my induction necessitated the synticonin drip that would have precluded use of the pool. So it's not black and white and depends on your particular set of circumstances and your hospital's policy.

@shoes how is littleshoes doing? How are you feeling? When I was 19 I had a cyst (and an ovary) removed with caesarean type cut and I was very sore for quite a time. Worst bit though was defo the hair growing back - boy did those fcukers itch!!

I did Yin Yoga yesterday - felt really good during and afterwards - hope to make it a new Tuesday night thing.

Did an interview for potential replacement to moi yesterday - did not go well! Thank God have really strong candidate already! Hopefully offer will go out by the end of the week!! 🤞🏼she can start on Monday!! just joking, earliest will probs be June

phoenix I hear ya! I began meditating when I started this process and boy am I glad I did, I fall asleep to guided meditations and have different ones for different stages of ivf and the TWW.

kwick sounds divine, I think I'll do my yoga DVD tonight, #inspired!

Ooooh Stork what are you using for tww? I'd love to know!

So I use a selection from Catching Rainbows
www.catchingrainbowsfertility.co.uk/ivf-preparation-kit-2/ that has a track for each stage.

www.catchingrainbowsfertility.co.uk/fertility-calm-kit/ lots of calming and manifestation tracks £15 that I used during my 2ww.

And a great favourite of mine is the zita west track on iTunes "relaxation during tww" she also has pre and post transfer tracks which are lovely too.