#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 7

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6

Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

I'm back post Easter! But on page 33... will catch up!

Hey ladies, hope you all had a lovely Easter and a good long weekend! 🐣
Sorry I've been MIA ^again... I'm rubbish at replying to my best friend and my family, too!
I have so much to say because I've read back from where I left off, but I don't want to regurgitate "old news"!
This is likely to be a mammoth post because I have so much to catch up on, so I apologise in advance...

Pickle you are correct; I have my wisdom teeth removal under general anaesthetic on the 2nd May (the local anaesthetic doesn't work for extractions for some reason!) so there will be a triple countdown as I'm nervous - I don't want to lose feeling in my lower lip (they warned me it's a possibility) 😩

Karen great news about your scan. I'm so pleased everything is progressing "normally" and healthily!
How far along are you now? It sounds like you have a great obgyn who will look after you both too!
Oh, and I totally understand you breaking down and scanning yourself at work. I would've caved long before you!!

Happy belated birthday Stork, and happy birthday for tomorrow Phoenix!

Pez, your bladder pains sounded so painful and so scary 😞 I'm glad you went and got it checked out and got your mind put at rest, even though it's horrible! I'm also glad you haven't experienced it since... You can be our designated unspoken-about-pregnancy-symptoms spokesperson 😁

Welcome bunny and lewis.
Lewis; sorry your parents weren't so receptive. To begin with, when I first started thinking about going solo two and a half years ago, my parents weren't either. Now, they're all for it and can't wait for their first grandbaby! My grandparents were even more understanding and accepted it straight off the bat, and I had to tell my Nan I weren't going to Australia with her and my Grandad next year because of it... And they were totally fine! I thought (naively, and perhaps a little stubbornly) that the older the person, the less likely they were to accept and understand the concept. Totally not the case! So I agree with Shoes - speak about it if and when you want and to whom you want because the majority of reactions you'll get are likely to be positive.

Miri, just quickly - I think it's wrong that they may not be counting your DP's ectopic pregnancy as an unsuccessful attempt. In the majority of clinics I've looked at (and I've looked at loads), a successful attempt is only when you have a live birth. I.E, if you pay for a package deal thingy, and have an ectopic/MC on the first attempt, say, you'd still be entitled to your remaining attempts because it's not considered successful as it wasn't a live birth. If that makes sense?
Not unless it's the Clinical Commissioning Group putting their two pennies worth in...

Hi to everyone else!

@Karendvm so pleased the scan went well  I completely get the continuing worry.

All those in favour of @pickle162 creating a thread soreadsheet say "Ay"!!!!

I am kicking myself that I did not contact IVI London sooner - I have moved offices and sharing with people who I would not want to hear... will need to plan this well!! Had a dream about new clinic last night so it is time.

Good lick kwick, have you started your new job now?

I think a spreadsheet is a good idea, I have no idea who is doing what

Just off the phone from healthcare at home 😁😁😁injections are being delivered on Saturday 😁😁😁😁so when I'm stuck in the house from 8am-6pm I will start a spreadsheet 😂
So excited 😊 I'm sure the lady disapproved of me tho as I sound like I spoke a 1000fags a day 🙄 oh well rather I'll this week than when I start my treatment

Kwick I'm so excited for you. Sneak away so you can ring. Dreams should definitely be followed :)

kwick I'm happy that you feel like it's time to move forward. X

This is great news Kwik! A change is as good as a rest and all that!

And thank you so much for the birthday wishes

So exciting Pickle! I'm now a little jealous I'm doing unmedicated lol!

You won't be jealous when I'm moaning about stabbing myself daily with injections Phoenix

I'm still waiting for consent appointment 😔 As of Monday I should have a better idea of what my cycle will be like 😀

For the spreadsheet purposes....I will be doing my second iui at the end of next week

Thanks Munro good luck :)

Bear that sucks, have they given u any idea when consent appointment might be? So annoying when ready to go and clinic is holding you back

Loving the Pickle spreadsheet lol. Maybe we should have a google doc! Lol

Good luck Munro - how exciting!

Consent is Monday, I could have had earlier appr but would have meant a nearly 3 hour drive instead of 40 mins. Figured April cycle was out anyway but just feels like I have been waiting forever. LH surge today so all being well should be iui in approx 4 weeks but can't wait to get confirmation from clinic

Ooo munro thats exciting. Fingers crossed that this is your turn

Bear looks like you will definitely be with me and Phoenix on the tww/twot :)

Not sure my IT skills stretch to google doc sharing but happy to do the work and email over to someone to make all shareable 😂

Yes @Bear1980 the juggernaut which is the new job - coupled with my own one really hit me today!!! Hopefully interviews for my replacement will start soon!!!
No time to go to loo today let alone call IVI - tomorrow will be the same, hope I have the chance on Friday.
pickle I need to be by my laptop when I do call so I can see my calendar.

Yay for meds pickle and kicking your 1000 fags a day habit 

Best of luck @Munrowalker 🍀

pickle if you are assigning colours in the spreadsheet can mine be purple please?

What info would people like of said spreadsheet
Yes @kwick you can be purple :)

Bigger about not being able to call 🙄 I sent the person that was with me away so I could call meds people but usually work on my own (other than patients) so can usually escape for a millisecond

Ah ah it reminds me that I took a call from the clinic yesterday while on a conference call (on mute) . clearly work isn't my priority at the moment

Could you maybe print your diary kwick, or take the laptop to the disable loo?

So I left the Milton Keynes office nearly 3 hours ago and I'm still about an hour away from home - bloody track fire in Euston!!! Had to get on a coach to Luton and then slow train across London.

Re spreadsheet pickle, that will definitely keep you busy . Maybe the easiest way to do it is as a timeline/calendar format.
For example, a column for each day and then you could colour the cells for each line/person to highlight what is TWW, OTD, scans etc. So instead of having one colour per person you would one colour per category so we would clearly see who is in their TWW at any time

Although you would need to use purple for something specific for kwick (maybe reminders that she needs to call IVI )

(I'm not sure if we're being serious about the spreadsheet??)

Ok well this has wasted an hour-great distraction peeps 😊..... and now I read your post pez and realise yes it would be much easier/better to have a month calendar that we note when any of us have anything scheduled-this this may be a bit complicated to keep on top off 😣

Haha nice effort on the spreadsheet pickle

kwick hope work settles down soon. I know what you mean about needing your calendar, I left my desk to phone clinic and ended up making an appointment for just about the only time I couldn't make. All the scheduling is tough when you are busy at work too. Do you have private meeting rooms you could take your laptop too?

Ah ah good work pickle!

@pickle I just spent a good 10mins looking at that spreadsheet. I love it! It's really helped me recall where everyone is on the journey and also, look at how many pregnancies we have had/have got! Gives me hope 😍