Why are wonen greedy........

[CoparentingDad]

......excuse the provocative title, the correct term is 'I'm entitled to xyz'?

I'm genuinely interested to know.

I built up assets - a pension, ISA, a seven figure house, a successful business for 19 years before I even met my exDW.

She did not have anything to do with any of this or contribute in any way.

My exDw brought debt into our relationship which I paid off, she got fired 9 months into our relationship and could never find a job that suited her, so I transferred £2k a month to her bank account (BIG mistake - that sets precedent apparently, so for being generous, you get fucked more on divorce)

We got married in our 30's (me 38, her 34), it’s not like she didn’t have a chance to do these things.

She’d never paid into a pension, bought a house, put into an ISA.

Yes, I know it’s my fault as I’m the mug that married her.

BUT, what makes you feel entitled to things that a man has built up 20 years leading up to meeting him?

Thanks

Ask Reddit?

You probably should've researched marriage and what that involves before deciding to do it.

You managed to build up all that wealth, but don't understand a legal contract?

More fool you.

Precisely.

OP - I think you mean, "why is my STBX wife like this?" I can't imagine you're going to get many sympathetic responses here when you're generalising so rudely about all women, on a predominantly female site 🤣

That's why people have prenups

I don’t think she’s is entitled to what you built up before you met her. It’s an unusual situation though. So it’s not ‘why are women greedy?’ It’s why is your ex expecting to carry on being supported? Spousal support is vanishingly rare though in the UK so it’s not typical.

I assume you have no children?

Yes, why are men violent? Sweeping statements are daft.

How much is she asking for? What are you offering?

Well this woman isn’t greedy at all. I haven’t married my wealthy DP precisely because I want his money to stay his money and I want his large inheritance to be his and my children’s alone.

So the question is … why were you such a bad chooser when finding your life partner? And my guess at that was because you focused on attractiveness over content of character.

You’re clearly a fool.

Shes entitled to it because you both committed to a contract. Now the contract is being dissolved and assets are being split.

She obviously had something you wanted, so you’ve had your gains. Now let her get hers.

What's this got to do with your sex?
A woman who had built up a business over 19 years, pension, etc etc etc, and married a man in a similar situation to your DW would find herself in the same position as you once the marriage broke down.
Best to look long and hard at the contract you are signing.

You should have researched marriage before you got married.

Why are men so violent?
Why do men rape?
Why do men not expect to do any housework when married?

I have zero sympathy. Go and moan to your friends.

Bang on the money - you're right

I had no idea, I now believe before marriage, it should be mandatory to have a meeting with a lawyer to explain the implications.

If you have a setllement agreement with your employer, they need to pay for a legal advice, however marriage is a much more serious commitment, yet you can just do it withour understanding the legal / financial implications.

Go figure.

However that doesn't explain the moral / ethical reasons - what you're saying, is "let's snare a millionaire so I don't have to get my hands dirty with work"

Why are men so violent?

She was entitled to XYZ because you married her and it’s a legal contract that grants her those things.

Considering your wealth, it’s a shame that you didn’t invest a couple hundred (or whatever solicitor’s charge ) into a chat with a solicitor about the laws around marriage. I guess you can see why men in your position cohabit or go for a prenup so that the financial cost of a breakup is minimised.

Why are 99% of people in prison men?

Agreed it's nothing to do with women at all. Anyone married to anyone else of either sex would be subject to the same divorce laws.

clearly you met and married the wrong woman.... this one took nothing but the clothes she stood up in and the car!

never took another penny off the man... raised his 2 children and put a roof over their heads.

his new wife (now widowed) is happilily spending what should be his kids money but hey ho

Generally speaking it's because the "wonan" is the one who will sacrifice her career and earning potential in order to carry, birth and raise the children within said marriage, and generally speaking the man will be the one to high tail it into the sunset at the conclusion of said marriage leaving the "wonan" to continue doing a vast majority of the grunt work.

Since being a wife and mother isn't a paid position, that is covered in a splitting of assets in divorce. If you were too dumb to consider this before signing a legal contract, because that is what marriage is, then that's a you problem.

Marriage to a man is a net negative for a woman, and I say that as someone who is very happily married.

In other words, suck it up sunshine.

I had no idea, I now believe before marriage, it should be mandatory to have a meeting with a lawyer to explain the implications.

Or just a clear leaflet ... stats on how many men don't pay any/enough child support etc...

Why do men get married then moan about the legal implications of marriage?

Why would you marry a woman without a job or even a career, if you didn’t want to take financial responsibility for them and wanted them to be financially solvent?

Why do men, happily, throw money at new girlfriends (9 months is a new girlfriend) then complain about it?

Why do men marry women who aren’t in a Strong financial position, legally tie your finances together, happily pay for everything while they are happy then when it’s done think they can act as though the marriage didn’t happen and label the woman greedy? And then decide they weren’t happy with the set up? Or the fact that the women didn’t bring assets into the marriage. Even though they knew that?

How long were you married?? If it wasn’t long, she won’t get much. If it was long and you decided to get married and stayed in this situation then yes, she is entitled to a good chunk of it.

I don’t want to share my assets with anyone. So guess what? Me and dp aren’t getting married neither do I financially support him. Because I don’t want to. A choice that was available to you.

'I had no idea, I now believe before marriage, it should be mandatory to have a meeting with a lawyer to explain the implications.'

Crikey. That's embarrassing. I think, thought, everybody already knows what marriage is.

Well you know what they say buyer beware