Why are wonen greedy........

[CoparentingDad]

......excuse the provocative title, the correct term is 'I'm entitled to xyz'?

I'm genuinely interested to know.

I built up assets - a pension, ISA, a seven figure house, a successful business for 19 years before I even met my exDW.

She did not have anything to do with any of this or contribute in any way.

My exDw brought debt into our relationship which I paid off, she got fired 9 months into our relationship and could never find a job that suited her, so I transferred £2k a month to her bank account (BIG mistake - that sets precedent apparently, so for being generous, you get fucked more on divorce)

We got married in our 30's (me 38, her 34), it’s not like she didn’t have a chance to do these things.

She’d never paid into a pension, bought a house, put into an ISA.

Yes, I know it’s my fault as I’m the mug that married her.

BUT, what makes you feel entitled to things that a man has built up 20 years leading up to meeting him?

Thanks

You newer wife is a lucky woman. The misogyny is so apparent.

So you found a ‘pig ugly’ woman, who had debt, no assets. Dated her, paid off her debt, supported her when she didn’t work AND then married her because you were distracted with a business you already had for 19 years.

Did you think she was pig ugly when you went on a first date? Had sex with her? Carried in having sex with her?

Going by your user name, I assume you also had at least one child with her? You then got divorced, married someone else and still owning about her on the internet? And got married again so this could all happen again.

all while ignoring that plenty of men also marry women, don’t financially contribute anything, divorce them get a chunk of assets and (often) leave the responsibility of parenting to the women. Do you wonder about them?

I think a better question would be why were you so bad at choosing a wife! Sounds like you chose badly and made a lot of mistakes along the way
not all women are like her, Most will have standards and morals

Maybe you brought it upon yourself OP. I don't believe you have a wife though, ex or otherwise. So kind of a moot point

'I have a read a lot of posts on here and they are not very man friendly '

Well, the clue was in the forum name. Mumsnet. A support site for women.

I have a read a lot of posts on here and they are not very man friendly - examples being, a wealthy woman asking about a man moving in with her "don't get married, protect you assets" - a woman moving in with a man "get married, make sure you get what's rightfully yours"

If someone asks for advice, you usually advise on what is best for them.

Thoughts and prayers for having to live in a world that isn't man friendly.

Must be so tough 😭

I grew up on a council estate brought up by a single Mum and my DW is Black as are most of my family, so I have no idea what you're talking about.

What do you mean "we want equality" ??.
That's a phrase usually used by men to indicate we shouldn't have it.
Heard that all before. Many times.

Perhaps we could arrange a fundraiser. 😭

Don't waste your breath.
It's bullshit.
What man with all these 'assets' would spend his time on any forum, much less a predominantly women's forum?

He is probably posting from his mum's back bedroom.

A few points OP:

1. There is no god so they didn't bring you anything and certainly not a new bloody wife.
2. Your assets are to be used to support your children, however that needs to be done.
3. You calling your ex-wife 'pig ugly' is really all anyone needs to know about this thread. You sound like a total dick. My ex husband is an awful, abusive person but I haven't even in the darkest moments resorted to personal slights in this way. Pathetic.

How fucking rude. The woman you chose was greedy, that doesn't mean women are greedy. But next time you meet someone who basically has nothing, don't sign a contract that basically entitles them to half of everything you own.

Why on earth did you get married for a second time.

That’s because the majority of the time, women get fucked over as soon as children are involved.

I just wondered what ethical / moral entitlement women feel to claim things they had nothing to do with?I'm talking about assets built up in the 20 years before even meeting her.

The entitlement is a legal one.

As long as 50% goes to his ex wife.

That's marriage for you, glad you've got it right second time around. I am still debating if I want to get married a second time.

.... rather than what would automatically benefit a man.

I dont think most women are like this, but sometimes, whatever happens in a relationship can make people bitter and annoyed e.g affair, abuse etc. I guess we can't comment as we don't know why you split.

😂😂

'He is probably posting from his mum's back bedroom.'

Lol indeed. Most attention he'll ever get for free from women.

@ClaudineMallory I'm a woman and that's exactly what I want. I don't want to be treated equally "just when it suits me."

Why have you come on MN to slag off the ex wife suddenly now? If you've had time to sort out the ballache divorce, meet someone else and get remarried, it's clearly been a while since you split. Have you got nothing better to do on a Saturday night than to try and get a rise out of some women on the Internet by stewing over how annoyed you were by your ex.

Do you know why that is?

Because in most cases (not yours) the woman’s career will suffer if they have kids. Often women feel like they have no choice but to reduce hours or give up work because a lot of men think doing housework and childcare is the woman’s job. often the men are supportive of women giving up work or reducing hours if it means they can do very little around the house. The one day they aren’t happy, they split and the woman is economically disadvantaged.

Where women are the higher earners, they usually still take on the bulk of the childcare and running the house. The men’s careers are not damaged by having children. Even when they aren’t the higher earner.

It's because women are frequently left holding the baby, OP.