Why are wonen greedy........

[CoparentingDad]

......excuse the provocative title, the correct term is 'I'm entitled to xyz'?

I'm genuinely interested to know.

I built up assets - a pension, ISA, a seven figure house, a successful business for 19 years before I even met my exDW.

She did not have anything to do with any of this or contribute in any way.

My exDw brought debt into our relationship which I paid off, she got fired 9 months into our relationship and could never find a job that suited her, so I transferred £2k a month to her bank account (BIG mistake - that sets precedent apparently, so for being generous, you get fucked more on divorce)

We got married in our 30's (me 38, her 34), it’s not like she didn’t have a chance to do these things.

She’d never paid into a pension, bought a house, put into an ISA.

Yes, I know it’s my fault as I’m the mug that married her.

BUT, what makes you feel entitled to things that a man has built up 20 years leading up to meeting him?

Thanks

😂

Then maybe he should have asked "why is my ex wife greedy"

The OP has referred to his ex wife as 'pig ugly'. What a charmer.
I hope his children don't hear their mother referred to in such a way.

My current DW does, she is the most wonderful women I have ever met.

I am blessed by God to get it right the 2nd time around.

I just wondered what ethical / moral entitlement women feel to claim things they had nothing to do with?I'm talking about assets built up in the 20 years before even meeting her.

Given your username you have children with her?

Women aren’t. Your ex was…

Clearly you have't read the OP, like a lot of people on Mumsnet

It's impossible to see why he did, in fact, marry this 'pig ugly' debt-ridden lazy 'wonan'.🙄

'why any self respecting women would want half of 20 years of assets they had nothing to do with'

And. Your thread is goady and nasty on a website for support for women. Many many women in this site come here for support from abusive men. You knew this when you posted. So, this is your character.

My point is, I imagine she thinks she deserves every penny.

I'm probably going against what the majority of women think here(?) but I don't think it is reasonable that once a woman has a baby she can give up work indefinitely and expect her husband to carry the full financial load. This is 2024; we want equality then that's what we should have (and strive for). I'm married with a 4 yo; husband and I both contribute equally in all regards. That included in shared care when little one was tiny.

If you want to ask about ethical/moral entitlement to claim things they had nothing to do with, a good starting point is usually to look for the rich white man through history…

"before marriage you should have a meeting with a lawyer to explain things" 😂 😂
Or how about you understand that marriage is a contract which you sign, and all property and goods are shared?
Everyone knows that. What do you think "worldly goods" are. Good grief.

Bovine manure.

Thank. You.

Not all women are materialistic and not all men are selfish but there are a fair few that would fall nicely under these headings on both sides.

People need to spend more time carefully choosing their spouses. So many people rush into kids/marriage. I advise my children to look at family backgrounds/relationship with parents/level of maintenance ie. if there are also nails/false eyelashes/botox/fillers a designer outfit/handbag habit - all of those things will eventually fall to the man if the woman quits work.

I also think if young girls were treated like princesses by their fathers they expect to be treated like princesses by their husbands. All feeds into the same mindset.

Why are you such a bad judge of character?

Oh dear. 😬

Do you have children together, OP?

I wonder what the other side of this story sounds like.

'She's pig ugly, so it wasn't looks'. Good on her for getting away from a knob like you. I hope she takes you for every penny she can.

What sexist bollocks

Apologies, you are bang on and I shouldn't have generalised / stereotyped.

Sorry.

I have a read a lot of posts on here and they are not very man friendly - examples being, a wealthy woman asking about a man moving in with her "don't get married, protect you assets" - a woman moving in with a man "get married, make sure you get what's rightfully yours"

Why do men feel so threatened that they can't stop themselves from muscling in on all women's spaces? It's quite tragic.

He could of wrote that better yes but that’s not what my comment is about

My brother was able to keep many of his pre marriage assets upon divorce. No children involved. So a settlement taking all into account was agreed by the judge - roughly 70 him 30% her for a clean break. The percentages reflected their relative positions at the start of the marriage.

I think if the woman has sacrificed earning potential for family needs then needs to be compensated for that.

You're avoiding the questions about children