Why are wonen greedy........

[CoparentingDad]

......excuse the provocative title, the correct term is 'I'm entitled to xyz'?

I'm genuinely interested to know.

I built up assets - a pension, ISA, a seven figure house, a successful business for 19 years before I even met my exDW.

She did not have anything to do with any of this or contribute in any way.

My exDw brought debt into our relationship which I paid off, she got fired 9 months into our relationship and could never find a job that suited her, so I transferred £2k a month to her bank account (BIG mistake - that sets precedent apparently, so for being generous, you get fucked more on divorce)

We got married in our 30's (me 38, her 34), it’s not like she didn’t have a chance to do these things.

She’d never paid into a pension, bought a house, put into an ISA.

Yes, I know it’s my fault as I’m the mug that married her.

BUT, what makes you feel entitled to things that a man has built up 20 years leading up to meeting him?

Thanks

BUT, what makes you feel entitled to things that a man has built up 20 years leading up to meeting him?

She probably doesn't particularly feel entitled to your things but the law says she can have half and if the choice is live on a pittance in a dump or get half of the money and have a comfortable life, anyone with half a brain will go for half of the money - I would, so would you OP if you were in that position.

I’m more interested in why you’re posting on a predominately woman’s forum on a Saturday night, about your ex wife.

You've clearly still got a thing for her if you can’t stop thinking about her. Rather than spending a nice evening with your pretty new wife (who you’re clearly not thinking about).

Weird.

He doesn’t know he has got it right.

His new wife could also divorce him. Especially, if she finds out he is spending Saturday nights still planning about his ex wife online.

Your ex wife is an idiot. Fancy going for half.

she should never have divorced you. She should have poisoned you and taken the lot.

She's probably on here thinking there's that dick head moaning on again to anyone who'll listen. I wish he'd wind it in and put the bins out.

Why don’t you ask your current wife instead of a bunch of strangers, then?

I think you’re probably just posting to be a goady arsehole but on the off chance that you’re not, perhaps you could explain why all men are feckless cocklodgers.

Seriously #feminism?

I think you’re lashing out at the wrong target there, matey?

The answer is “because that’s the agreement you signed up to”. If she had agreed to have “Pig Ugly” tattooed on her forehead in these circumstances, it’s quite obvious that would be happening. You agreed to this.

Whilst we’re here, slagging off the mother of your children far and wide is a terrible habit, and my sincere advice to you is to stop it. It is a quick way of your kids to consider you to be trash, which presumably you don’t want. My ex- learned that the hard way.

The point is that he's blaming all women.
That's why people are turning it round to make him reflect.
I doubt he will, though...🙄

I bloody love this, I didn't even read the OP because I knew the replies would be great 😁

@PixiePirate grand post! 😆

You live and learn op. Marriage only ever benefits the ‘poorer’ party and if you are the only one with assets, property, pension etc you should never marry. People get married for protection. You should have never married for the same reason.

Mate, she took you for a ride.
If I had £100 for every post I’ve read on here from women whose DH/DPs have taken them for a financial ride then I’d be pretty wealthy myself.
It’s some women and some men - not all.
You enabled her by giving her so much money per month - what were you thinking?
We learn from our (expensive) mistakes.

Your right @CoparentingDad

however insulting women on a women’s website won’t go down well…

This post demonstrates all I need to know

80% of posters don't read the OP fully or the replies as they ask questons / make assumptions that have already been answered

99% of posters don't care about the moral / ethical argument, just "what they are entitled to legally"

NOTE - If you are a "financially stronger person" whether a man or woman and you have built up assets before you have met your partner, do NOT, ever, and I mean NEVER get married - the law is not on your side.

As I said in my OP, I built up seven figure assets before I even met my exDW, yet the moment I walked down the aisle, she was entitled to 50% for just saying "I do"

DO NOT DO IT

You got married till death do us part and became a single entity. The marriage hasn't worked and you want to leave your wife with nothing. Who's being greedy? I hope there are no children, FFS.

Then adding #feminism. 😂 What a ludicrous thing to do. Comedy gold , though 😂

Dear OP: about marriage -
WE ALREADY KNOW THAT.
WE KNOW ASSETS ARE SHARED.

@CoparentingDad

As I said in my OP, I built up seven figure assets before I even met my exDW, yet the moment I walked down the aisle, she was entitled to 50% for just saing "I do"

Sucks for you pal.

As I said in my OP, I built up seven figure assets before I even met my exDW, yet the momnet I walked down the aisle, she was entitled to 50% for just asing "I do"

That isn't true. She wouldn't have got 50% if she'd divorced you childlessly two weeks later, for example.

What sort of an idiot doesn't already know that....

Oh, wait....

And you still haven't answered the question about children or what happened to make you split. For all we know you might have been having affairs left right and centre or abused her for years and so she therefore felt entitled to half of your wealth.

We haven't had a 'poor bloke thread' since 'I'm the cheating husband' three weeks ago.
If someone is clever enough to own a million pound house twenty years ago they are clever enough to ring fence their assets. Their accountant/lawyer would have told them. So what was the op blinded by as he is at pains to insult his ex wife's appearance?
I have been the higher earner and my husband shares in my good fortune. When I die he gets the lot.
I think angry men should stay off MN unless they want their arse on a plate.

We’ve read your post. We just think the question is too offensive to be worthy of an answer so we’d rather take the piss out of you.

Yes, I a little older than you were when you got married. I know what marriage means and don’t get distracted by my assets or income. That’s why I am not marrying.

On the other side of you are the financially weaker person, don’t have kids and make your position weaker without marriage.

Marriage is like all legal contracts. It’s suits some situations not others. You have dealt with legal contracts in your business haven’t you? Do you just sign them without thinking?

And no, she wasn’t entitled to half the minute she walked down the aisle. You were obviously married a while and/or had kids if she got half.

If you had divorced 6 months later and had no kids, it’s unlikely she would have got half.