Why are wonen greedy........

[CoparentingDad]

......excuse the provocative title, the correct term is 'I'm entitled to xyz'?

I'm genuinely interested to know.

I built up assets - a pension, ISA, a seven figure house, a successful business for 19 years before I even met my exDW.

She did not have anything to do with any of this or contribute in any way.

My exDw brought debt into our relationship which I paid off, she got fired 9 months into our relationship and could never find a job that suited her, so I transferred £2k a month to her bank account (BIG mistake - that sets precedent apparently, so for being generous, you get fucked more on divorce)

We got married in our 30's (me 38, her 34), it’s not like she didn’t have a chance to do these things.

She’d never paid into a pension, bought a house, put into an ISA.

Yes, I know it’s my fault as I’m the mug that married her.

BUT, what makes you feel entitled to things that a man has built up 20 years leading up to meeting him?

Thanks

Stop blaming other people for the fact that you got married without doing any research about what marriage actually is.

I note that you haven't answered the question about whether you have kids or not. (I assume from your username that you do.)

There will be another side to this story. There always is.

You sound vile.

That's why people have prenups.

I agree. But I hear they're not valid in UK, or something. Stuck in the 50's....

In my country you can choose to marry with a prenup, or not. Very sensible.

I am the higher earner in our marriage. Here's the thing - I understand the implications. This is because I am literate.

My mum could’ve taken a substantial amount of my dad’s pension if she wanted to, but she didn’t because she wanted to amicably co parent with him. He was a selfish prick who would’ve stopped seeing us as punishment to her if she’d have gone for the pension, so she put her children above that (something men rarely do). We struggled for years financially.

My Dad then remarried and met a younger woman who later rinsed him in their divorce financially. They never had children together, but he paid for her to be a kept woman throughout their marriage because she looked good on his arm and he wanted a clean house to come home to every day, and then he was outraged that he had to give her a penny when the divorce papers came through. She got the pension. In fact, she got a lot.

But who’s the fool really? More often than not men go for young attractive women who are out their league, then they pay for their lifestyle because they cannot match them in the looks department, and later they get all sad and woe is me when it’s time to divorce and divide assets.

Who do fat sweaty corporate men think they are dating young attractive women? The entitlement is exactly the same. It’s an exchange. If you marry for genuine love, this doesn’t tend to happen.

How many children do you have? Are any of them with disabilities? I suspect the asset splitting percentage will be because of this.

Although, while we are on the subject.... why do so many men walk away from their responsibilities?

Great advice, which you appear not to have taken yourself as you mention having a new wife.

"99% of posters don't care about the moral / ethical argument, just "what they are entitled to legally"

Well OP, there's probably a moral/ethical argument for you paying more tax than you are legally required to. Do you?

Ugh, just read some of the OP's updates. Disgusting. The unpleasant op was a veil for something truly vile. The wife has had a lucky escape. My sympathy to her. OP - I hope this is a low point from which you can emerge a better person.

Seriously, mate, isn't there something on Freeview about hairy blokes building stuff in Alaska to take your mind off this?

Sorry about your ex OP.
Although I do find your sweeping generalist I’m about the greediness of all women to be rather rude. Marriage is a legally binding contract. Did you agree on any pre-nuptials prior ?

There are lots of people that aren’t as finance savvy as yourself for a variety of reasons. Background, education, not being aware of the products available to them like ISAs. Are you saying here that you’re annoyed she hasn’t got any assets to split so you can gain financially from her ?

96%

I know ‘wonen’ are the absolute worst.

This smacks so much of a bloke having to pay his £20 a month to support his children, and thinking he has been had over.

If you'd built up 7 figure assets as you keep referencing, why on earth didn't you protect them? You may not have known the specifics of a marriage contract but you must have heard of a prenup? There are cases in the news daily about divorce settlements, where have you been living?

You're angry and bitter about your own life choices.

Question - did you learn from your mistake and protect your assets in your second marriage? The new DW who's the most wonderful woman you've ever met might not be in a few years time. I presume you thought the pig ugly one with no job was pretty great when you married her and set her up with £2k a month. If you've entered into a second marriage without a prenuptial more fool you.

Oh fuck right off with your #feminism amidst your misogynistic bilge.
You entered a legal contract that involved the merging of financial assets. If you hit 38 and didn't understand that then that is on you. Not on women, not on your ex, not on feminism. On you.

This is a sad way to look at it OP.

You can and should get married. Marriage isn’t just about finances. But yes, if you have built up assets prior to marriage then you can and should take steps to protect them.

You lived on this planet for 38 years without realising the implications of marriage? Weird.

Most people don't need a lawyer to explain this shit, it's pretty basic stuff.

Why are 93% of world leaders men?

In a nutshell 👏

It’s not women who are greedy. You just made a wrong financial decision here by marrying the wrong person. The signs would have been there, you just chose to ignore them and you must have gotten something out of it because of it. Don’t blame all women for your own stupid decisions.

As I said in my OP, I built up seven figure assets before I even met my exDW, yet the moment I walked down the aisle, she was entitled to 50% for just saying "I do"

That isn’t remotely accurate though. No one divorcing right after saying I do is forced to give over 50% of their assets.

This is all coming across a bit red pill.

at least spell women correctly if you are going to come into a feminist forum and start shitting on all of womenkind @CoparentingDad

Cinocino · Today 20:43
As I said in my OP, I built up seven figure assets before I even met my exDW, yet the moment I walked down the aisle, she was entitled to 50% for just saying "I do"

Which absolutely proves that you have no idea what you are talking about.
Unfortunately, there are some women on here who believe you are genuine.

I agree with you op

but I would say the gender is not important

if you’re the financially stronger party don’t ever get married !