Locked out

[Joke14]

My wife as changed the locks on the house even though I am the sole owner and pay the mortgage not her is this allowed

Did you?
Or did you shout at her and frighten her?
Or shove her a bit?

This.

You won’t get any help here OP. ALL women are innocent here.
I’d get legal advice and make sure you go with the proper channels and have a suitable witness if you need to see her.
My brother’s ex used to make up some cracking lies about him. He took his own life in the end as he couldn’t see a way out. She always wanted more money - it was like pay per visit for his child. She then got his life insurance and his family got a life sentence.
But no - ALL women are innocent and ALL men evil on MN.

Whereas in the real world, women and men can be abusive, selfish and victims.

100 percent didn’t touch wouldn’t lay a finger on her or any girl. We was shouting at each other

Have you been trying to access the house even though you’re no longer together and you’ve moved out?

I feel for you with what your brother done but I can’t totally understand why he would do that cause I feel it’s the only way sometimes

I didn’t move out I wasn’t allowed to see her

I can see why she locked you out - she doesn't feel safe around you.

You cannot sell the house as she is joint owner, so you need her permission or a court order enforcing the sale.

You need to speak to a solicitor regarding your divorce including finances and the children. Until then stay away from the marital home.

Solicitor is the only sensible way to go right now unless she agrees to mediation.

But there is a restraining order against you. You shouldn't have tried to enter the house under those circumstances.

No restraining order at all against me

"I was arrested under false allegation of common assault the bail conditions said I couldn’t speak to her"

Sorry that was until the chargers was dropped by the cps

Do you think your wife feels unsafe around you?

'ain't' ' wanna' 'other lads'
It's past your bedtime.

So you’d split up but you were both living there when she accused you of assault? And the police arrested you and released you with conditions saying you couldn’t speak to her (contact her?), but not that you couldn’t live at the house?

No we was together that Tuesday night just normal night tell I seen her texting a man . Yes that was the conditions I never went to the house though

If you "never went to the house" how did you find out that the locks had been changed?

What would you actually want out of this situation? You say your wife has changed them locks. Maybe you respect her wishes, go stay somewhere else so she can live at home for the time being keeping things as normal as possible for the children and you go down the normal route, that everyone else has to do and seek legal advice about splitting up the marital assets.

Or, were you hoping you could just kick her and the kids out?

100 percent didn’t touch wouldn’t lay a finger on her or any girl. We was shouting at each other

Shouting at someone IS common assault

It's ok because most abusers get awarded more contact time not less in family court anyway

Well she was shouting at me then

You're going to have to go through the legal channels, OP. But you are entitled to 'half" of the house from a financial pov.

Are you still paying the mortgage?

I am not gonna kick her out or the children out. I just wanted too see my kids.

Yes I am