Is a dad buying necessary underwear for his pre-pubescent daughter weird?

[Dadinhove]

I have my 11 yr old daughter 50% of the time. I bough her an extra first bra (same size and brand as existing) for her hols with me. Her mother thinks it’s “wholly inappropriate for me, father to my child, to be buying her underwear and gas threatened to take matters further if I do it again. Am I missing something? What on earth is wrong with a dad buying his daughter necessary underwear like this? Would love to know if in fact I am being unreasonable/ in appropriate.

I can't see anything inappropriate in what this dad did. I never even had a first bra. I was given hand me down one's off a girl next door that didn't fit. I ended up wearing crop tops until about 14. When I was able to save a bit of money from my paper round and buy my own.

I'm a single parent including to teenage boys. I buy their underwear…

They are my children.

I was picturing Jacob Rees-Mogg. He'd never buy his daughters bras.

@PainintheProverbial when people knew there place????? WTAF???? This Dad went to a shop with a photo of the label of his DDs current bra so he could buy her a spare which his DD is totally fine with and I assume appreciates. In your world you'd have been fine with this child wearing the same bra for a week in a hot country whilst on holiday with no access to a washing machine just so @Dadinhove didn't step out of his "place"?! Where exactly should his place be? Not providing for his child and making sure she has what she needs to feel comfortable and hygienic??

And yes before you come at me i know I've made assumptions about the length, temperature and facilities available on the holiday but that aside my point still stands!

Jeez it's sad that this post even exists let alone the absolutely ridiculous comments made by some PP! Yes I'd feel a bit weird if the OP had been in the fitting room with his child (although even that's unfair and judgemental of me) but in the circumstances he's described who can have a problem with this? the world baffles me at times

I was picturing Jacob Rees-Mogg. He'd never buy his daughters bras.

Jacob’s daughter is probably relieved about this

@Thursdaygirl Nope it’s just a dad being a big soppy and habit. I’ll stop with the ‘x’s.

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I'm going to tell my husband he's in charge of all future underwear purchases for our sons. He should probably do all the washing of them too. Wouldn't want to be inappropriate.

Your ex is being ridiculous obviously.

No it’s not weird, it’s absolutely fine!

I never had a close relationship with my dad and would have been embarrassed by him buying it but less embarrassed than having no bra or underwear, or having to ask him for some.

You are obviously a loving father and have a close relationship.

The more the mum makes a big deal out of this, the more your DD is going to find it weird and embarrassing.

I have a few friends raised by single dads and so all of their bras and underwear were bought by their dads, as well as period products and having the period talk.

(I would have a little period box/drawer in the bathroom too as she will most likely be starting them soon).

It's really not a female trait.

@Deadbeatex sorry to have created a bit of a storm. There are some odd people out there but fortunately the majority of us are reasonable. Thank you for your comments.

@Choochoo21 they’ve started already but actually DDs mum was pretty helpful in that respect. Although I am “never to buy her period pants” which tbh I am fine with.

AquaFurball · Today 18:58
Thursdaygirl · Today 18:25
Is this a reverse? The OP often puts an ‘x’ at the end of a post, which is a female trait?

It's really not a female trait

No it really isn’t I’d rather nail my tongue to the lavatory floor. My stepdad sends X and ❤️ with every message.

My friend's ex who insisted his daughter had to have a certain brand of underwear, now that was weird.

Just this 🤣:

Love it .....

@Chickendinner24 hilarious! 😂

My dad bought me my first pack of sanpro. I seem to have turned out ok 🙄

the question is, how does your DD feel? if she’s happy with it, that’s the main thing.

and yes @Simonjt I always wonder how people think gay couples parent - do they think daughters with two dads just merrily bleed everywhere due to the utter impossibility of men being able to handle periods? Do they think sons with two mums just never learn to wash their bits properly or shave? The mind boggles 😁

I hope you burned the offending articles and made her wear a sign saying unclean.

My dad nipped out to get me a pack of pads and told me he was proud of me and that i was growing up. then we watched fraisier and he made me a hot chocolate. he’s a nurse - maybe that makes him immune to scary lady things (tm)?

if only he’d sent me out to the menstrual hut like a real man instead 😀

I imagine he is the sort of man who doesn’t value women, so likely doesn’t really notice his daughter exists.

Good Lord! You’ll need to be gentle with the ex when you tell her you also WASH the underwear.

OP you did nothing wrong. This is batshit.

@PainintheProverbial
My god do you have hang ups about men around young girls too? Do the men you know get off on young girls underwear or something?
I'm imagining liberty bodices and knickerbockers in your draws....have we kept back to the Victorian era

Do NOT apologise please, this shouldn't even be a question you've needed to ask

Isn't it sad that people are raising girls to be ashamed of having boobs or periods. Thank god for the recent adverts although I'm sure a few Mary Whitehouse will have complained.