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Laska fingers crossed for a good outcome from then interview

£15 in Tesco for something for breakfast as ds is fed up of toast and something for tea as we have a busy evening and have had a rough couple of days so just needed something quick and easy

£56 on diesel

A few pounds for ds’s activity

Glad your hangovers not been too bad seacow 🍷🍷🍷

I can understand why you're worried laska just because your kids get bigger the worry doesn't get any less....

I was glad to finish work today, this week has dragged. Spent £2 on some biscuits as have friends coming for coffee tomos.

Off to pilates now.

Tonights tea fail £19 MacDonalds. £30 diesel. Taking a bike back to its owner. Will take the next cash sale in lieu.

We have had an epiphany about the garden. It's going to go patio (done), terraces (done), garden with lawn, cubby hole with a slide and flower beds (in the 5m2 wasteland opposite the greenhouses, then a polytunnel right up to the top shed on left of a new path, to the right the big shed, fruit cage and chickens (done). It's like I couldn't see a finished idea before. I put up one test hoop with the plastic pipe, and the garden made sense. go figure.

Finally I have some gernimation, courgettes and tomatoes. My big greenhouse is super tidy and organised. I'm spending increasing amounts of time up there.

My parents have arrived and I have been to see them. It was very surreal.

Surreal in a good way though, Sunny?

Yes definitely. It's really weird, because my dm has been hospital in a serious way twice and I couldn't get there to see her, and now she is here and we can just sit and chat as if it was nothing at all. It's really odd. I honestly thought that might not happen again. Its not often you get a second chance like that is it?

Laska unsurprisingly you're worried about him, it's only natural, he has been doing so well. Hopefully something will come up soon for him.

Yesterday I stopped at a SuperValu and while talking to my sis on phone I happened to be stopped at polish section & picked up fabulous cute bottles of orange and almond essence for only 50c each and this lovely mug of choc spread for €3.10 total was €17.09 including cooked chicken par baked rolls and chocolate for visiting my db and sil.

This morning I spent €9.75 in a petrol station on 2litres of water, a protein bar, a sandwich and nail polish remover.

Great news em about apartment

Wolf how's things now?

Sunny it'll be different for a while but will become the new normal for you.

Evening all.
Lonely would you like to sort out our bike parts too? And the garden while you are at it....
Sunny I am pleased you are getting a chance with your mum.
Laska My fingers and toes are crossed for him.
Sea Good hangover skills.

I went to the eye clinic today...the news wasn't good but not bad either. There are things that cause worry but they are going to monitor it before digging divots out because there is a chance they aren't as horrible as they look. Even a biopsy requires general anesthetic and eye graft so it seems sensible to go for a wait and see option. Another 3 months for more sitting on really uncomfortable seats in corridors for hours on end. The joy

Thanks all. DS is 27 but has struggled.. But he has also maintained a flat and paid bills etc for the last couple of years .. i'd hate to see him lose all he has gained..

I am not sure why he is not able to cope that well. Having brought him up as mostly a single mum and with a ex who was quite frankly abusive and as much use as a chocolate teapot when it came to fathering his son, (and who never paid a penny but would swoop in to take him on expensive holidays to Oz and the like ,and now doesnt see him at all ) I do feel responsible... I know I over-worry and over-compensate .

He is 27 FFS ! but its always been one step forward and two back . until recently . As you know he also is a dad himself, (although his ex left even before we knew about the baby) and we've worked hard maintain a relationship with her and DGS also..

Sometimes I really do wonder whether I was ever cut out for parenthood, I seem to have made such a mess of it ..

You can't blame yourself laska! You're an awesome mum, so supportive of him. Unfortunately his mental health isn't great but you wouldn't be blaming yourself if he had a physical illness would you?! You didn't cause this and I bet he would hate to know that you were feeling this way. He knows you're always there for him and that will mean so much to him

..Actually sorry... Please ignore that self indulgent unburdening , I am tired, stressed and have had this evening ..

.As you were...

You don't sound as if you have made a mess of it at all. There are loads of young adults who have yet to get and maintain their own tenancy. You love him and support him... That is not making a mess.

Thanks wolf ,

no more please or I will cry..
too much

and Un (sniff) .. shit I am crying now ..

stress.. ..ignore me..

unescorted if they were that worried surely they’d do the biopsy regardless, wouldn’t they?.

Laska You did your best. That’s all you can do. Your not responsible for them forever. I hope they hire him. He must be really worried.

Unescorted good that you're being monitored but pity about the seats

Laska you've done a tremendous job with ds, yes he's 27 but he's still your baby and always will be.

We'll need a new thread tomorrow

..More .. Thanks ,.. is the answer..

One of the reasons I came to MN , was to find out how people who were not in single parent relationships managed .. I have often thought it must be great to have the father of your child be with you bringing them up and being a real family . ( I didn't grow up in a family so dont really know what one is ) . but the funny thing is ,seeing all the stuff on here (not necessarily on his thread ) I realise that there Is no 'real' family that is normal and the 'right' way , we are all people just doing the best we can....

The current trend for short term contracts coupled with the high cost of housing does not make it easy laska.

Hope you're OK unescorted. Can you cope with the symptoms you have while the watching and waiting happens?

Busy day at work NSD.

Laska you are very right about that. Have more and some from where I’m sitting you’re an amazing mum

Unescorted I think and are needed for you too. I’m glad it’s better news than it could have been but I’m sure you have concerns about the wait and continued checks. We will wait with you and be here to support

..I'd better not..wolf I have to be in the office tomorrow!

.. I hope you are managing to cope in your yourself and with DS .. you are going through crap also ..

True laska that is what I hate Instagram perfection so much. I make people feel inadequate because it is not the same homogeneous commercially driven "life". So long as I am happy more than sad and we rub along ok then that is good.

Fluffy that is the comfort I am taking from it. I am just frustrated that it wasn't an all clear.
Mammy remind me to take a cushion next time.

Em just noticed the good news from the fire service. On other things you should team up with cag and do a frugaleer baby feeding book. I could never think what to feed my 2.

Ta wolf
Scatty it doesn't hurt... Just a bit of a shadow. Think someone walking behind your shoulder but not really visible. In a way by having it monitored means that I don't have to worry so much. It is now someone else's responsibility.

Oh laska you are an amazing mum. Muddling through is all we can do. Some of us become single mums, some through choice, some through shitty situations. Some of us have the fathers actively involved and still have a tough time. Some parents work as real teams and still have no handbook. and in the morning!

unescorted sorry for no definitive answer yet, but I think they would have biopsied right away like fluffy said if it was imminently scary. But waiting and seeing (bad pun?) Is a pita for you.

Dp is on his turbo in the shed. The house is blissfully quiet. Pondering if I can move him out there... only half joking