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Would you judge me? (Covid)

186 replies

Neverfittedin85 · 09/12/2021 22:08

Hello 👋
I'm a 36, almost 37 year old female who is double vaccinated with pfizer.
2nd dose was mid August, so able to have a booster.

HOWEVER... I am wanting to hold off from the booster....I believe its messed with my periods a little also. Cannot get a Dr's appointment to discuss this.
I'd also like to wait and see how the next couple of weeks to months play out. I'm not an anti vaxxer, I'm not saying I won't eventually have it.

I am careful, masks, cancelled events in the run up to Christmas. Careful with my 7 year old. We all as a household do lft regularly. Social distance where possible.

SO WOULD YOU JUDGE ME?
would you say I should feel awkward sat in a room of say 5 people who have had 3 jabs knowing I've only had 2? Would you exclude me from family things?

Thanks, I understand this could get heated just wondering people thoughts

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iBrows · 10/12/2021 07:56

As above I’d like to know how people can say the period related side effects are “short term”. It doesn’t make sense in this scenario. If you’re trying to conceive this isn’t something minor.

I have had an absolute nightmare with side effects and won’t be having the booster. I would never judge anyone for making their own choices regarding the vaccine.

Roselilly36 · 10/12/2021 07:56

I wouldn’t judge you or anyone re COVID jabs, totally the persons choice whether or not to take the vaccine or boosters.

Personally, it’s not something I would even think about discussing with anyone, it’s a subject I generally avoid if possible, as it tends to bring out the worst in a lot of people.

Buzzinwithbez · 10/12/2021 08:19

I'm not sure who is doing all the judging... It's probably 50/50 amongst my friends v'd/unv'd. We're managing it just fine.

It's so alarming that informed consent has gone out the window. Risks, benefits, alternatives.....

bluejelly · 10/12/2021 08:23

I wouldn't judge you but I would wonder why you weren't taking an extremely safe vaccine that could protect you and your loved ones from serious illness.

Wellbythebloodyhell · 10/12/2021 08:24

The impact on periods is short term

And so is the efficacy of the vaccine it seems!
So short term side effects from a vaccine that is only effective for a short time, leads to long term side effects if we need to keep topping up our vaccines every 3/6 months

megustalacerveza · 10/12/2021 08:48

@tigger1001

I honestly don't get why talking about who has had the booster (or the other two) is a thing. I would ask anyone. Quite frankly it's not my business.

The affects on women's periods is widespread and well documented. Yet we have people on here saying it doesn't matter. Of course it does! My periods were affected after the first dose. Not planning more babies so it didn't put me off getting future vaccines but if I was younger and planning a baby in the future? Yes I would have been more hesitant.

We need to stop with the judging. Covid has been all about being judged.

Of course it's people's business if you're much more likely to be infected than an unvaccinated person! I ask people whether they're vaccinated before meeting up with them. I have no interest in taking a bigger risk than I need to because someone has chosen not to protect themselves and others. Simple as that. People who are unvaccinated need to own their choices and accept that others might not want to be around them.
bumbleymummy · 10/12/2021 08:55

@megustalacerveza so you want people you’re meeting with to have the vaccine that you don’t believe protects you enough to meet with people? Hmm

Your own vaccine protects you far more from serious illness than their vaccine will.

megustalacerveza · 10/12/2021 08:58

[quote bumbleymummy]@megustalacerveza so you want people you’re meeting with to have the vaccine that you don’t believe protects you enough to meet with people? Hmm

Your own vaccine protects you far more from serious illness than their vaccine will.[/quote]
You clearly don't understand how this works.

It's not about individuals, it's about group risk. The more unvaccinated people around, the more transmission. It's really not rocket science. This is why many countries have brought in vaccine passports - having only vaccinated people in a room isn't zero risk but it's a much lower risk.

I don't want to be protected from serious illness, I want to avoid being infected at all because of the consequences of a positive test. That's my choice. Unvaccinated people are not entitled to someone's company. Make choices and accept the consequences.

Sloth169 · 10/12/2021 09:02

Also you wouldnt actually be able to book your booster yet anyway. Its only letting you book for 40+ unless you have other relevant conditions

bluejelly · 10/12/2021 09:45

@Wellbythebloodyhell

The impact on periods is short term

And so is the efficacy of the vaccine it seems!
So short term side effects from a vaccine that is only effective for a short time, leads to long term side effects if we need to keep topping up our vaccines every 3/6 months

Yes Covid kills people (sorry but it does) and period disruption doesn't. (Sorry to be blunt I appreciate this is a stressful situation we're all in...(
Suzi888 · 10/12/2021 10:26

“Of course it's people's business if you're much more likely to be infected than an unvaccinated person! I ask people whether they're vaccinated before meeting up with them. I have no interest in taking a bigger risk than I need to because someone has chosen not to protect themselves and others. Simple as that. People who are unvaccinated need to own their choices and accept that others might not want to be around them.”

It’s really not your business actually. Are you likely to infect me with anything else? Chicken pox? Had that jab? Hope so. People can just lie anyway! That’s what I’d do. Fully vaccinated people can still get covid and still pass it on. Omicron - for one.

Chickpea22 · 10/12/2021 10:32

I wouldn’t ask you or judge you but if you volunteered the information I would probably have a conversation with you about your reasons for declining. Not to try to persuade you but just out of interest. I am definitely getting booster. Had covid and it was horrific and will do as much as I can to avoid myself and others getting it but if you had evidence that showed me that the alternative was worse then I would be open to listening to that.

alexbury · 10/12/2021 10:35

@Neverfittedin85 - I would get the booster, not about people judging you, but just because from what I read you really need to have the booster to protect against Omicron. And that third jab makes a really big difference to how protected you will be against that variant - so for pragmatic health reasons for yourself, really.

megustalacerveza · 10/12/2021 10:36

@Suzi888

“Of course it's people's business if you're much more likely to be infected than an unvaccinated person! I ask people whether they're vaccinated before meeting up with them. I have no interest in taking a bigger risk than I need to because someone has chosen not to protect themselves and others. Simple as that. People who are unvaccinated need to own their choices and accept that others might not want to be around them.”

It’s really not your business actually. Are you likely to infect me with anything else? Chicken pox? Had that jab? Hope so. People can just lie anyway! That’s what I’d do. Fully vaccinated people can still get covid and still pass it on. Omicron - for one.

The fact you'd lie tells me everything about what sort of person you are, and it fits in perfectly with the type of person I imagine doesn't get vaccinated. Thankfully the chances of someone like you being in my friend circle are very low.

We all know fully vaccinated people can still get covid but the.chances.are.lower. It isn't about eliminating risk, it's about lowering it so that we can all go about our lives again.

thewhatsit · 10/12/2021 10:40

No I wouldn’t judge you. You aren’t even eligible yet are you? There is the intention to offer below 40 and 3 months + vaccination but it’s still clearly 40+ on the NHS website. As far as I’m concerned there is nothing to judge you on as you can’t yet get jabbed but even if you could, it’s up to you.

DappledThings · 10/12/2021 11:41

I wouldn't judge you. But since I currently have Covid which is quite miserable (I'm on day 4 of fluey headaches and tiredness) and facing many further days of isolation - I'm not quite sure why people wouldn't take the option to help avoid or ameliorate their symptoms.

This. I'm on day 4 too. Have had to cancel my daughter's birthday party. I tested positive the day after I got my booster so it hadn't had a chance to kick in. DH was positive a day after me but he had his booster weeks ago and he is a little coldy but otherwise fine.

towers14 · 10/12/2021 11:44

No I wouldn't judge you, I'd judge those that would. I've not had my booster, I'm too fuckin' busy to deal with any side effects and more importantly I don't want it!

singswithitsfingers · 10/12/2021 12:19

I wouldn't judge you at all. And the fact that issues with periods are not being examined is scandalous. But not surprising, as only women are affected. I'm post menopausal and still had weird things going on. If I were younger and hoping to have children I would definitely be wary.

RedRobin100 · 10/12/2021 12:23

No I wouldn’t judge you
Your medical records is no ones business but yours.
People should be free to take whatever steps they feel necessary to protect themselves.
But I’m sorry if that means your family exclude you..

SoSoTiredToday · 10/12/2021 12:35

No, I wouldn't judge.

I'm a sitting at home off work today, suffering horrible side effects from the booster I had yesterday. I am regretting having it

I've now had covid and 3 vaccines. I do wonder how much more my body can take.

I feel awful. Been up all night with chills, vomitting, aches and pains, headache :(

Naimee87 · 10/12/2021 12:57

Absolutely do what you feel is right for you!

Nowayoutonlydown · 10/12/2021 15:55

@Neverfittedin85

Hello 👋 I'm a 36, almost 37 year old female who is double vaccinated with pfizer. 2nd dose was mid August, so able to have a booster.

HOWEVER... I am wanting to hold off from the booster....I believe its messed with my periods a little also. Cannot get a Dr's appointment to discuss this.
I'd also like to wait and see how the next couple of weeks to months play out. I'm not an anti vaxxer, I'm not saying I won't eventually have it.

I am careful, masks, cancelled events in the run up to Christmas. Careful with my 7 year old. We all as a household do lft regularly. Social distance where possible.

SO WOULD YOU JUDGE ME?
would you say I should feel awkward sat in a room of say 5 people who have had 3 jabs knowing I've only had 2? Would you exclude me from family things?

Thanks, I understand this could get heated just wondering people thoughts

I wouldn't exclude you, I wouldn't be horrible, but I would be concerned about you. I'd wonder what protection you had if you caught covid, and how Ill you might get, but your choice entirely and I'd respect it.
Mybalconyiscracking · 10/12/2021 17:46

Just back to say that I am still judging you. Have the bloody jab!

SivvyPlath · 10/12/2021 18:01

@Mybalconyiscracking

Just back to say that I am still judging you. Have the bloody jab!
Nobody cares.
Remmy123 · 10/12/2021 18:06

Why are you worrying about what people think? Everyone is so bloody judgement we have lost sight of what we really feel is best for us.