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Turning off ventilator

186 replies

jinglybell · 06/02/2021 06:31

Partners brother has been ventilated for 3 weeks now.

A little improvement but he got an infection a couple of days ago and everything has gone down hill.

They are removing the vent shortly to let him pass.

Gutted.

OP posts:
pannikin · 06/02/2021 06:34

I'm really sorry to read this. It's such a cruel way to go. Sending you love x

Coldwinterahead1 · 06/02/2021 06:34

Gosh I'm so sorry x

Original poster
jinglybell · 06/02/2021 06:38

Thank you.

He got covid just before new year. He's so young. He was healthy.

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Bornlazy · 06/02/2021 07:03

I'm so sorry OP what a terrible time for you all. Will his family be allowed to visit him?

TabletHelpPlease · 06/02/2021 07:05

Oh no, how awful. I am so sorry for you all Flowers

TheCatThatGotTheCream · 06/02/2021 07:10

I'm so sorry. Thoughts are with you and the family.

Lovelydovey · 06/02/2021 07:10

Thinking of you all. Covid is such a cruel disease.

Would he be allowed a visitor? We were allowed 10 mins in full PPE each with my DF before he passed away (covid critical care unit, though not ventilated).

Prepare yourself also for what comes next and it being very different to pre-covid times. We were only allowed to bring home sentimental belongings from hospital (clothes were burnt etc) and everything else has been very slow and done by phone etc. Might be worth a separate thread on that as I am sure many of us have experienced this - especially if you will play a role in sorting those practicalities or supporting your partner in doing so.

Take care of yourself.

HotCupOfNo · 06/02/2021 07:16

I'm so sorry op

Original poster
jinglybell · 06/02/2021 07:22

The hospital are allowing 4 people to be with him so his wife and 2 children will be there as well as my partner.
My heart is breaking for them. I donymt know how involved I'll be in what comes next but I'll do all I can to support them all.
My partner is very calm, not showing any emotion while I'm sitting here in bits.

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Blessex · 06/02/2021 07:24

@jinglybell oh gosh how awful. Sending Flowers

LawnFever · 06/02/2021 07:26

I’m so sorry for you and your family.

Your partner is likely in shock and not able to take this all in yet, he’s lucky to have you there to support him. I’m glad the hospital are allowing them to visit, as devastating as that will be it’s incredibly important.

Take care of yourselves xx

sandyso · 06/02/2021 07:30

This is awful. I'm so sorry op Thanks

Original poster
jinglybell · 06/02/2021 11:32

Thanks all.

They are with him now, just waiting for him to pass 😔

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Blessex · 06/02/2021 11:35

Did he have any underlying conditions OP - or as you said - he is young and healthy? Just so awful.

Original poster
jinglybell · 06/02/2021 11:39

@Blessex no underlying conditions whatsoever. Nothing.

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VetTraineee · 06/02/2021 11:42

Gosh this is just awful. Thanks to you all x

LongPauseNoAnswer · 06/02/2021 11:46

So sorry to hear this. It is amazing how seemingly healthy young people are dying and 90 year olds are recovering. It’s har to make sense of it.

trevthecat · 06/02/2021 11:47

I'm so sorry. Thinking of you

Blessex · 06/02/2021 11:52

Sad yes this virus is so cruel.

scentedgeranium · 06/02/2021 11:57

Oh goodness. I'm so sorry for you all. It sounds like he is no great age either. Xx

Makingnumber2 · 06/02/2021 12:13

Flowers so sorry OP for you and your partner and the rest of the family. What a cruel, awful thing.

Chapellass · 06/02/2021 12:19

So sorry OP thinking of you all, heartbreaking

lljkk · 06/02/2021 12:21

How old was he ("so young") ?
I'm surprised they think it best to turn off ventilator for a young guy, curious how the decision happens, why some survive after weeks & others can't.

You hear so many stories about people being on ventilators for like 4 weeks or more before recovery or death (thinking of Nick Cordero, or random anonymous people ). I know with NC it was a huge sequential shutdown of everything that led to his demise. That was after months in intensive care.

Wakemeuuuup · 06/02/2021 13:34

I'm so sorry Flowers

Abraxan · 06/02/2021 13:46

I'm surprised they think it best to turn off ventilator for a young guy, curious how the decision happens, why some survive after weeks & others can't.

I guess the medics will know what is current condition is. Ventilation can only do so much. It can't save everyone nor can it just keep people going indefinitely surely.

I doubt they're turning it off if they thought there'd be a chance for him.

I'm so sorry OP. I suspect your partner is in shock. He may well need time to process it after today. Thoughts with you all.