I just need to vent - elderly relative has Covid due to selfishness of others

[Rinoachicken]

So my elderly grandfather who is 97 and lives alone has been rushed to hospital with Covid and is now on oxygen.

Where did he get it from?

From my aunt and uncle, who provide some of his care along with my parents, and who couldn’t bear to not go on their annual Christmas holiday abroad because they are ‘special’ don’t you know and NEEDED to go. So having spent hours in germy airports and breathing recycled air on planes, they then couldnt be bothered to quarantine when they got home and instead went to visit my grandfather.

And then promptly came down with Covid.

No longer able to provide their share of care my parents did it all. No grandfather is in hospital fighting for his life and we have to wait and see if my parents have caught it from providing his care.

All because my fucking aunt and uncle thought they were more important than everyone else and that the rules didn’t apply to them. Goodness knows how many other people they have infected swanning about the community when they should have been quarantining.

Apparently they feel ‘really guilty’ now.

All they had to do to protect him was STAY AWAY. Just for 10 days would have been sufficient. They would have got the symptoms, tested positive, isolated etc but he would have been safe.

FFS

Well this is it, all over the country it makes my blood boil. What an awful thing to happen to an elderly man. Sickening.
Nobody is following the rules right now, my town was like the Glastonbury festival at the weekend. Roads normal traffic. Nothing like the first lockdown.
This needs to be stamped on fast.

So selfish.
We wanted to see my widowed 95 year old MIL over Christmas so we cut down ALL contact with others for 2 weeks before apart from a carefully managed food shop once a week.

I'm so sorry OP.
Sadly some people are idiots.

Similar selfishness from extended family regarding my Grandad. It’s only because of luck that he hasn’t caught it from them. It’s really changed my opinion of them to be honest.

Hope your Grandad recovers

Fuckers.

I’d be done with them. I’d cut all contact.

I am so sorry you are going through this. 💐

I am so sorry.
Vent on here.
But think carefully before giving your true and full opinion to your aunt and uncle (who were very selfish and silly).
Avoid them if you have to, it's a stressful horrible time for the whole family but beware the heat of the moment!

I’m so sorry to read this and it’s people like your Aunt and Uncle who have made the situation for humanity so much worse.

Thanks everyone. I live other end of the country so don’t have to see or contact them right now. Just in contact with my parents, who are furious obviously.

My mum is clinically vulnerable herself so I’m really worried in case she has caught it as well.

I am so sorry OP. I hope your grandad recovers. and hope your parents escape contracting it. It must be very worrying for you.

I understand your anger and would feel the same as you do. Maybe 'reading them the riot act' or at least calmly telling them how angry you feel might help?

There are regular threads on here with people desperate to go on holiday, as if it’s an essential human right. I wonder how many of them bother to do the full quarantine period. So your aunt and uncle have a lot of company.

I would be raging too OP and telling the selfish stupid relatives exactly what I thought of them. It's twats like them who are making this whole pandemic worse. I hope they can't sleep at night.

I wish your grandfather all the best and hope he recovers fully.
As for your aunt and uncle, words fail me , why do so many people take risks and think they are like Teflon and this virus just won’t touch them.

Don’t they watch the news or do they live in LaLaLand? Or not care enough to consider others?
I am not surprised you are furious.
Lots of people doing inconsiderate things and some don’t even feel remorse.

I think you have every right to tell them what they’ve done wrong and tell them they should feel guilty because they are responsible! If they are comforted they won’t recognise it is all their own doing and will revert back to doing whatever they want

How do you know they caught the virus on holiday?

I'm so sorry OP. How awful. I hope he pulls through. Some people are so selfish. I hear all the time I have to go see him/her for her mental health etc when really they could just phone every day for 10 days or stay in the garden, it's cold yes but will save their life! I think some of my family will kill my Grandad too.

How do you know they caught the virus on holiday?

Regardless of where they caught it, at that time period they should have been in quarantine which would have protected the rest of the family.

Good god - really sorry op. Why on Earth can’t some people just do what we’ve been told to do.

Utter selfishness.
Support. Hope your dgf pulls through.

I wouldn’t be able to forgive that ever.

That’s awful I’m sorry. What a a pair of total bastards.

Absolute selfish fuckers. I hope you cut them off, OP.

Makes my blood boil too. I’m so sorry OP.

The selfishness of so many has been exposed by this virus. The simple concept of us all doing our bit is beyond these complete arseholes.

God I'm sorry @Rinoachicken - that's beyond shit. I don't think I'd be able to look Aunt and Uncle in the face again.

The thought of potentially infecting anyone, let alone a vulnerable, elderly relative, should be enough to stop people acting like them, but my god this pandemic has brought out the worst in some people. I've never known selfishness like it.

I hope your DGF pulls through this OP. Presumably he's in line for the vaccine about now too? Just unthinkable that someone could do this to their own parent.

He had the vaccine a couple of weeks earlier, but the vaccine doesn’t prevent you catching it, just lessens the severity.

Hoping it does make a difference for him.

Op I'm so sorry.

I had a thread deleted the other day on a kind of similar theme regarding a certain age group being so flippant about it and I got ripped apart for it.

This thread is exactly why it gives me the rage at how selfish some can be regarding the enormity of how it can go so wrong.

I hope your grandad stays stable and recovers op.

And if I was you I would also be so angry