So FUCKING angry!!! - SIL contacted by track and trace

[MrsWarleggan]

Long story.

Short version. SIL who thought it was too dangerous to let her YR 6 go to school, yet lets my niece go up to a packed fucking playground has been contacted this morning at 11am to advise that a boy, who although didn't have direct contact with my Niece, was mixing with the group she was in and has tested positive.

My BIL turned up this morning at 8am and was standing at the front door, I had to pop to the kitchen and when I came back in he was holding DD2 kneeling on the floor whilst kissing DD1. I went mad. He left.

TBF he didn't know that this boy had tested positive but I'm now in fucking pieces. WTF do I do?? I'm a key worker so DD1 is currently at fucking school!!

Am I over reacting thinking that we've now got it, that I need to rush down the school and grab DD1 and order tests??

Sorry for all the swearing but I'm soooo pissed off at the lack of common sense that side of the family fucking have!! 🤬🤬🤬🤬

Duh ignore my previous post, I've just looked at the title of the thread!

SIL said Track and Trace called, but the boys mum did a big group text too.

I think the jolt is the realisation that your family’s health and welfare is no longer up to you. IYSWIM

You are dependant on other people and how diligent and trustworthy they are,

And it’s quite an unsettling thought

So the father of your niece who has yet to be tested and only had the slightest contact in open air visited and had contact with one of your dc, yet you now think all of you have caught it ... He did not even know at the time. Unless you are isolating yourselves it is no more risky than your dc being at school or you at work.

@iVampire

It is exactly that!

@AldiAisleofCrap

You shouldn’t be angry for a system that is working. You do need to remove your dd from school and have her tested. It’s incredibly selfish not to, you don’t know if there are vulnerable staff/children.

No, you don’t need to get your DD tested. That’s the wrong advice. Your niece needs to self isolate but nobody else in the family does. You only test if you have symptoms.

How many children in the UK have had it? How many of those died from it? How many children have had chicken pox or flu and died from those in say the last 2 years? How many parents fret so much about their kids catching those?

@Straycatstrut

How many children in the UK have had it? How many of those died from it? How many children have had chicken pox or flu and died from those in say the last 2 years? How many parents fret so much about their kids catching those?

Well,no one knows. That's the problem.

And given the organ damage to those who had 'mild' covid, I do worry a bit about being too confident all is fine.

We just have no answer other than 'don't know' to too many questions.

If your BIL Didn’t know the boy had tested positive then I think you are being unreasonable.

Although we are seeing family and some inside we aren’t kissing each other hello anyway at the moment!

Chill out, you probably walked past someone in Asda with it yesterday.

While I agree with "chill out", given that the community infection rates are now estimated at 1 in 4000 you are really, really unlikely to have walked past someone in Asda who has it.

Well they are all being tested at 7.30 tonight. Little girl at my DD1s school tested negative.

Spoke to SIL again a bit earlier. Apparently it wasn't a one off thing she's been hanging out with this lad for the past two weeks and she HAS been in his house 🙄

So what if she has been in contact with the boy? You make it sound as if they have done something wrong.

@Nicknacky

Yup, and I'm sure a group of 10 year olds have been rigorously implementing their social distancing skills.

Firstly, how did track and trace get your dil's details? Secondly you sah a child had covid? Surely not. Everyone on mn knows children have more chance of being run over than get covid!!
I'm being sarcastic in case you havent read the school threads.

MrsWarleggan Seriously, get a grip. Do you expect kids not see their friends for months and months?

@Nicknacky

Ermmmm.....so what was lockdown?? Pretty sure I didn't see family and friends for a number of weeks, neither did my DD unless it was through video calling.

I'm not suggesting that they can NEVER see their friends again. Jesus!

Yes, and now the kids ARE allowed to see each other so they are doing nothing wrong and it’s healthy for them to see their mates again. I’ve had to force my daughter to go see hers.

You said you had been laid back during this. I find that hard to believe.

@Nicknacky

Agreed they can meet friends..... But there is still some guidance around it. Its not a free for all!!

But there is nothing you can do about what other people’s children do so no point getting upset about it.

And god, I’ve had family cuddle my kids.

Nicknacky Why would your force your daughter?

Also, it’s not about forcing other people’s kids to do things but when you’ve had no contact for a while due to distancing, then her BIL just comes in and starts planting kisses on the kids and giving them cuddles then yes, it becomes your concern.

Quietlyloud Force was the wrong word, I had to seriously encourage her. She was just afraid of being out and about again, scared of doing something wrong and also of adults speaking to her if she inadvertently walked too close to a friend.

She was sitting on a neighbours wall during the height of lockdown and an adult chastised her as it mean he had to walk past her (rather than him stepping to the side of the wide pavement)

Maybe the kids approached him for a kiss and cuddle?

They are all being tested at 7.30 tonight (in laws after being contacted by track and trace.)

One point to remember is that if track and trace have identified a person as being in contact with cv then they isolate for 14 days.

If they receive a negative test, the advice is to continue isolating for 14 days as symptoms can take up to 14 days to appear.

If you're contacted by track and trace and get tested that day, it doesn't mean you can go out and about as normal because it was negative.
So your niece should avoid contact with her friends for two weeks unfortunately. The rest of the family do not have to isolate.

I don't get it. Your bil was holding your DC before your sil got the call and you were in pieces?