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So FUCKING angry!!! - SIL contacted by track and trace

206 replies

MrsWarleggan · 16/07/2020 12:36

Long story.

Short version. SIL who thought it was too dangerous to let her YR 6 go to school, yet lets my niece go up to a packed fucking playground has been contacted this morning at 11am to advise that a boy, who although didn't have direct contact with my Niece, was mixing with the group she was in and has tested positive.

My BIL turned up this morning at 8am and was standing at the front door, I had to pop to the kitchen and when I came back in he was holding DD2 kneeling on the floor whilst kissing DD1. I went mad. He left.

TBF he didn't know that this boy had tested positive but I'm now in fucking pieces. WTF do I do?? I'm a key worker so DD1 is currently at fucking school!!

Am I over reacting thinking that we've now got it, that I need to rush down the school and grab DD1 and order tests??

Sorry for all the swearing but I'm soooo pissed off at the lack of common sense that side of the family fucking have!! 🤬🤬🤬🤬

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SmileyClare · 16/07/2020 15:41

Agree Medwaymum Sad

Standardy · 16/07/2020 15:43

Okay in fairness didn't read the bit about him bring her to your house, he should have just phoned. I think it's unreasonable to judge them sending her to school or taking her to the park, but also unreasonable for them to bring her to your house knowing she has been exposed, seems odd.

MedwaymumofMany · 16/07/2020 15:45

@MyTearsAreOnFire

Wow this is the 3rd time I’ve seen / read about someone reacting like this thanks to track and trace.

I’m more scared about testing positive and people reacting like this than coronavirus itself.

Calm the fuck down and set an example to your kids Smile

Would this reaction put you off telling track and trace that you met a relative who had been known to over react and hold a grudge?

If so would you have to exclude all the common friends and family with them you had also been in recent contact with?

Because to honest, if someone was likely to start a witch hunt on me I am not sure I would.

SmilesAreFree2020 · 16/07/2020 15:48

Calm down.

Get tested and results are really quick.

TimeWastingButFun · 16/07/2020 15:53

He said he didn't know that his boy had tested positive though? So he didn't deliberately do anything wrong. I'd be more concerned about your outburst on your daughters' MH as it would have been quite a shock for you to 'go mad' at their uncle hugging them.

Evelefteden · 16/07/2020 15:55

So basically your SIL got on with life and your fuming.

Iwonder08 · 16/07/2020 16:09

OP, you need to calm down.. Maybe apologise to your BIL for the unreasonable outburst

back2good · 16/07/2020 16:09

I get it OP. I know a family that immediately pulled their children out of school in March, before schools closed to non keyworker families, because it was too risky for them for various reasons. Made a big deal of not going to the shop for groceries, ordering everything online, saying people shouldn't be out without masks, etc. Said they wouldn't be sending their children back to school, although one was eligible to go back when they re opened to some classes in June. Fair enough.

But of course as soon as Spain opened up, they were off on a plane to Spain for a month. makes you wonder.

Original poster
MrsWarleggan · 16/07/2020 16:12

@Evelefteden

Hardly getting on with life since she refuses to send DD back to school because "its not safe"

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Original poster
MrsWarleggan · 16/07/2020 16:16

To all advising me to calm down. Thankyou, I have done. I think I have also previously acknowledged an overreaction. Heat of the moment post and have been told so accordingly. Also taken all your comments on board Smile

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Jqui · 16/07/2020 16:17

GOodness me, I have just subscribed, hoping to get a bit of knowledge and support and the first thing I am confronted with is the F word in capitals. Great.

SirSamuelVimesBlackboardMonito · 16/07/2020 16:21

@Jqui you might be in for a shock. Swearing is par for the course on Mumsnet! Also, best stay away AIBU for a bit...

StressedMom4 · 16/07/2020 16:23

@MrsWarleggan I totally get your frustration with SILs hypocrisy.

Morecheesywotsits · 16/07/2020 16:30

After months of "stay the fuck home" and expletives to be found on most threads I'm surprised pps are choosing this one to comment on it

Although I think OP's comments about SIL have diverted from the point really, BIL was wrong in kissing and cuddling the kids when OP had told him not to. So ultimately she is NBU

It's irrelevant that the children are more at risk at schools/nursery or OP when at work as a key worker as those things are essential. The point of social distancing is to minimise additional infection risk - so OP has asked family not to kiss/cuddle the kids. Simple!

Morecheesywotsits · 16/07/2020 16:32

I can see elements of SIL's hypocrisy though when it comes to parties during earlier stages of lockdown etc

DianaT1969 · 16/07/2020 16:45

You sound strange. Like a troll on steroids. I've only read the OP, so not sure if you're now in Normal Land. Over-reacting.

RedOasis · 16/07/2020 16:46

You’re overreacting. Track and trace is if you have been in someone’s company for more than 15 minutes. Given that your bil was there for five mins you’re all probably fine. You haven’t been in direct contact with your niece since? Then I think you’re ok. Unless you have symptoms I reckon you’ll be alright.

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MrsWarleggan · 16/07/2020 16:53

@DianaT1969

I can assure you I'm not a troll on steroids and I am very much in normal land!

It's my first proper Covid slip up and am now very much over it.

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alreadytaken · 16/07/2020 16:58

Not enough magnesium in your diet - take two squares of dark chocolate. When you can get epsom salts and bath in them regularly, your anxiety will improve.

BIL should have been told off but you sound like that Dad's Army person running around shouting dont panic.

kateandme · 16/07/2020 17:03

TimeWastingButFun that doesnt actually matter unless in a bubble he shouldn't be hugging her kids.we are all supposed to be social distancing

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MrsWarleggan · 16/07/2020 17:04

@alreadytaken

This made me proper laugh 😂😂 Permission to speak... but without profanities of course!

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Enough4me · 16/07/2020 17:15

OP your BIL sounds like a right PITA, but I bet your DC love him and think he's great and that you are too strict. I often have to be the normalstrict one and it's really tiring when others get to be flaky 'fun'.

Try not to get too caught up in the minutia of their lives and find things that you like and enjoy. It is too easy to get caught up in seeing people make poor choices and it's better to direct the time at your own life.

Mayvis · 16/07/2020 17:20

I didn’t think track and trace were telling people who had tested positive when they call to inform you of a possible contamination.

Did they actually call and say that ‘Mr Boy At Park’ has tested positive and passed along your niece’s contact details to be contacted?

IsItGinOclock1 · 16/07/2020 17:32

Chill out, you probably walked past someone in Asda with it yesterday. He doesn’t have a confirmed case of the virus and nor does his daughter for that matter. Unless you are shielding, which you clearly aren’t if you are going out to work I can’t understand your panic?!

SmileyClare · 16/07/2020 17:32

Good point about track and trace being "anonymous" to an extent.

With younger children, it might be a case of a local boy having a positive test and his parents letting other parents know (who have dc playing at local park).
So not using the app, but being responsible nonetheless.