Anyone else just stopped bothering to go out at all?

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I was going for a 2 mile walk across the fields with my two dc every day but the last few days I can’t see the point. We’ve just sat in the house.
It seems futile. We aren’t even going in the garden. None of us even want to go out anymore, it’s frightening out there. We are just staying in the house, not getting dressed, not bothering to do anything. It’s crazy that a month ago we were out every day and now it feels as likely as going to the moon.

Thank you.

I’m the same. I go to the garden but I find going out to the shops etc awful and scary. I’m nit scared of the virus but people seem to have forgotten how to smile or say hello. Everyone looks at you like they hate you. Shop staff are the worst. I find them quite intimidating!

OP, it sounds like you are incredibly unhappy in your relationship.

You owe it to yourself and your daughter to seek the help you deserve and very much need.

Otherwise your daughter may very well follow in your footsteps and end up thinking this awful way of living is normal. She deserves better, and you deserve to be happy.

There is a lot of support out there if you want things to change, such as Women's Aid.

OP, as soon as lockdown relaxes (and it will - Rishi Sunak and the survival of the entire economy will win that battle), you need to get in contact with the National Domestic Abuse Helpline. Please start thinking about making plans to leave your coercively controlling husband. Coercive control is a crime and you have a right to live free of it. You have a future OP. That future is your own. That future is free.

Use the daily walks that bastard will only allow you to take accompanied to plan and think in the privacy of your own head how you will leave him.

He may monitor and watch you, but the inside of your own head still belongs to you. He might hang his nasty and critical posters there, lovely, but it's still your space. Quietly make plans. 🤗

OP this is awful but you absolutely must seek help, your children will be seriously and irreparably harmed if you don’t.

I can feel myself slipping occasionally but I'm determined to stay OK for my Dd who has struggled at times.
I get up and dressed each day and mostly do my hair and a bit of make up.
I work from home 3 days and actually quite enjoy the challenge of keeping Dd busy and happy. I use a lot of face book resources and play games etc. We have a little puppy which is fun and a reason to go out.
I have dug out all the old games and toys which were shoved in the cupboard and ordered plasticine online to play with.
I have a drink most nights which I'm trying to stop but I am so determined for my Dd to be OK that it's keeping me from sliding into a hole I may never get out of.

www.laurarichards.co.uk/coercive-control/

This may seem an odd suggestion but try doing workouts via You Tube...some of them are only 7 or 10 mins long. I've been doing them for a week now, totalling @ 40 minutes per day & undoubtedly they are great for getting heart rate up & giving a feeling of accomplishment, plus aching muscles make you feel alive albeit in pain. The kids can either join in or laugh at you.
I have to FORCE myself to do it EVERY SINGLE DAY but feel massively improved mentally & consequently eat & sleep much better.

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius I am same as you, I have limited mobility so can’t queue to go shopping. I would happily be a hermit if I could get some basic groceries delivered! But can’t get any thing delivered now even though I’ve had my shopping delivered for the past 10+ years due to my disability!!!!