This is all about “don’t you dare clog up the nhs” - it’s not some humanitarian urge to protect certain groups of people
This. I'm sick of hearing 'the NHS is coping' - it isn't. The Coronavirus service is coping and that's all we've got now.
@alloutoffucks I agree with LilacTree on this and don't see that it makes us suicidal. DH is high risk - if he ever gets the appointment that was cancelled, he will almost certainly be put in the shielded group. I'm my mum's carer - she's 88, has hypertension and asthma. I'm 55, no high risk health issues. I've already sat them both down and talked about this. I've made it very clear that if I only had myself to consider, I'd be getting my life back to normal at the first opportunity. DH agrees 100%, and shielding or not, he will do the same. My mum is adamant that my life should come before hers.
You say 'lockdown isn't killing people'. Yes it is Last year was the worst year of our lives - I'm not going into details. DH and I were both diagnosed with multiple-trauma PTSD, depression and severe anxiety. We worked fucking hard, picked ourselves up and kept going. Somehow, our marriage survived it. Through it all, I can say in all honesty I never once felt suicidal. DH did at the worst point. Now I'm starting to feel that way. And there will be hell of a lot of people feeling the same way. I'm not asking you to have the answers to these problems but don't insult people by pretending they just don't exist.