The rise in the hero complex

[PrincessConsueIaBananaHammock]

There has been a certain rise in people claiming they are or thinking they are heroes. "We are saving lives".

That basically involves an avid desire to report anyone that dares to leave the house, police everyone else, dismiss the worries and concerns of others, ridiculing, attacking,bullying and emotionally blackmailing anyone who struggles, some kind of irrational fear/hate of children and gleeful virtue signaling about how much better they are at staying home. Abusing key workers that in their eyes are not doing their job,for doing their job, following guidelines(made up or official) ,not following guidelines,in the wrong clothes etc.

There are people who are seriously struggling right now, emotionally,financially,mentally,physically etc. People that are becoming more and more vulnerable as more restrictions and public policing come in. People that have killed themselves due to the situation we are in.

They are not heroes,they are not saving lives.

On a more serious note, I am normally an up with the lark sort of person. This morning, I lay in bed until 10am, which is unheard of. I woke up and thought 'what's the point of getting up? There is nowhere to go and nothing to do'. I don't think I feel depressed, I'm not weepy or easily upset or anything (I have suffered from depression in the past, so I know the signs) but this is just so out of character for me that it worried me a bit. Such strange times.

slopes off whistling innocently

Yeah I'm fine, bit of a stupid one really. Was on the "what will happen to the kids if both of you are really ill" thread and my brain just ran with it and got myself in a bit of a panic.

While I appreciate the seriousness of it, we haven't been excessive with measures(and kept things fairly normal for DD's sake as well) , bare minimum I guess some would call it, so it kinda took me by surprise. Not to mention the mum guilt and all that.

Still trying to figure it all out and get my head around it.

It’s not stupid at all, every now and then we all will have a moment of panic. I tell hubby I’m just having my weekly wobble when I cry for no apparent reason. My last one was watching a video of an orangutan with some otters. Have no idea why that upset me!!

Let’s face it, none of us have every lives through something like this so it’s scary as hell. Plus we’re either missing family/friends or stuck with family 24/7! There’s no rules here

At least I have a couple of threads, including this one to retreat to for a bit of stranger company and some giggles

Ever lived...

We all have wobbles. Our brains run away with us.

Dp is doing my box in. but I looked at him today and got afraid, I would lose him during this. I have done the same over the kids.

I had a big wobble this week and the people in this thread got me through.

We will do the same for you. Plus we have alcohol!

I'm better , mainly because I'm a (closeted) control freak so came up with plans B and C. I suppose I won't end up bleaching everything that comes in the house after all.

I also have a confession to make.. for all my bravado I don't actually really drink(which means my madness is all my own, not drunkness) sPlease don't abandon me.

@isabellerossignol it depends on the feeling really.

Was it a defeated/exasperated one or a "meh, there's no need to rush/get out of bed one" ?

Princess you're right actually, it was more of a 'meh' than despair. It's probably fine!

Princess Agree there is something comforting about having control over certain aspects of your life when this big thing is so out of our control.
Haven't explained that very well but I have weird strategies to cope too.

I haven't been drinking much either, a severe lack of funds has contributed to that!
Isabello I feel the same. I have a lack of motivation/purpose I suppose? I have teenagers so no children to drag me out of bed in the morning. I'm aiming to stick to a general routine and keep things a bit normal for the teens. Well sort of normal!

We are all in the same boat. Its something none of us have experienced before. A wobble or two is pretty natural i suspect.

I am a lightweight when it cones to drinking. A glass of wine (or two if i really feel the need) but that's it. I cant handle much wine and i cant afford spirits😂 although i have some xmas amaretto left if anyone wants a glass.😀
Teens are the main reason for my wobbles! I went on strike last pm and left to go for a walk. Was nice and peaceful, looked out to sea for a bit, only met one person, twice! We were going the opposite ways and met again.😀
No chance of them dragging me out of bed i need to do the dragging.

Haven't been feeling great, this bloody coronavirus really is the pits!
Sorry you've been feeling low too, @PrincessConsueIaBananaHammock.

My dd & oh have been busy using wasting flour though 😱 cheese and roasted garlic scones and sourdough sandwich bread.

Tasted lovely 😉

She made these as well: raisin cookies

I'm actually pleased she's interested in baking, etc, so won't be saying no anytime soon, even if that makes us wasteful because there not essential 😉

I'm more of a social drinker (night out kinda thing) and I can drink loads then and still be functional once home. I just never did the drink at home thing. I make a mean pork in red wine though.

The baking looks yummy.

Isobello i guess , just keep an eye on it. It's good you're so in tune with yourself.

I also really miss "my" kids and worry about them. I had to self isolate and then rotas changed and things so it'll be a while until I see any of them.

I actually want to go to work.. that's something I never thought I'd say.

That baking looks great Know
Dont be greedy pass the scones around 😀
I should be in bed its been a long tiring day but got sucked into watching 'Priest' again😄

Xpost Princess.
That must be tough. Mine are maybe a pia at times but they are here so i cant complain too much.

Oh wow look at that baking😍as good as a Spanish soldier

They're not actually mine, hence the quotation marks. I work in a school, but 'till the year ends they're "mine". Hell, some of them have left ages ago for secondary and they're still mine.

😄😄 Princess you big softy.

Shut up 🙈

The baking all looks amazing.

It's funny about work Princess. I have wanted to have the option to WFH for ages. Having it enforced and never going to the office, is shit.

I want to see people other than dp and the kids. Even if it's just my colleagues.

Though I would opted for my best friend as my first choice.

Princess normally I would say you could borrow my kids.....but ya know...social distancing.

I dunno. A good rule of thumb might be to ask yourself "did I really do my best?"

I have several at risk relatives, some friends of friends are currently struggling for their lives. If you're unaffected right now you should probably prepare yourself for some connection soon. Nobody is safe.

When the shit hits the fan, do you want peace of mind of doing your best or will it comfort you that you took a stand about some perceived over/zealous policing because you wanted unnecessary freedoms? Pick your fights.