The rise in the hero complex

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There has been a certain rise in people claiming they are or thinking they are heroes. "We are saving lives".

That basically involves an avid desire to report anyone that dares to leave the house, police everyone else, dismiss the worries and concerns of others, ridiculing, attacking,bullying and emotionally blackmailing anyone who struggles, some kind of irrational fear/hate of children and gleeful virtue signaling about how much better they are at staying home. Abusing key workers that in their eyes are not doing their job,for doing their job, following guidelines(made up or official) ,not following guidelines,in the wrong clothes etc.

There are people who are seriously struggling right now, emotionally,financially,mentally,physically etc. People that are becoming more and more vulnerable as more restrictions and public policing come in. People that have killed themselves due to the situation we are in.

They are not heroes,they are not saving lives.

Or people could be realistic and do there research. On the numbers from China Italy Spain etc. Approximately 3-5% of the countries population will suffer from Covid 19 of those 3-5% 5% will need hospitalised. A lot of people will have a friend or a relative affected. Having a “wobble” or panic about catching it MAKES YOU HUMAN. Trust me I researched the figures and watched the news etc and panicked too which is when I found a YouTube who broke down the figures. Loosing some “unnecessary freedoms” in the short term is fine to protect people. I’ve many relatives on at least a 12 stay at home shield. Putting it in to perspective with the figures rather just the media permanently blast out makes me feel rather a lot calmer. Not sure that I’m a fan of the hinted at exit strategy though, over zealous policing in the long run.........

Well I am losing my mind.

Morning routine is let the dogs out. While they are out, make their breakfast and a coffee. When they come in in out their food down. Then go sit with my coffee. So that's what I did.

Unusually they both followed me into the room and sat staring at me. Both giving me the 'what the fuck are you doing!'look. I got up to see why they weren't eating their breakfast. I hadnt put their food down. I had instead put an unopened tin of dog food down instead.

Poor doggos. So close to the food but yet so far!

I lost my mind weeks ago......
Hence the addiction to google

I actually rarely drink. Maybe 2/3 times in the last 6 months, nothing at all for the previous three years. Did dry January in 2016, and never started again. I did enjoy the gin pilfered from my DD last night though. I got about 4 hours sleep, that’s better than most nights just now. I’m fortunate, dd is home with us, and understands when she made that decision it would need to be for as long as it takes. She’s not shielded, but IS considered vulnerable apparently, so we are very much rule followers. The actual rules, not the made-up ones. I’ve had a better few days, early last week I felt terrible, but at the moment I’ve reached at least some degree of stability. I think the increasingly hysterical made-up rules were making me feel I could never do lockdown well enough, but now I’ve decided that I’m not going to buy into that any more I do feel a bit better.

Well while we are all admitting it. I rarely drink too.

I dont drink sat at home. Even when I go out I cant drink alot.

I think the increasingly hysterical made-up rules were making me feel I could never do lockdown well enough, but now I’ve decided that I’m not going to buy into that any more I do feel a bit better

For the people who are making up the hysterical rules, no one will be good enough. They will continue to make them up, even if a stricter lock down can. They would still have issue with what people are doing.

Sometimes deciding we arent buying in, is the beat thing we can do.

Best

Sorry, I posted too soon. Our mental health often is better when stop trying to live by everyone elses made up standards

You are so right, shits. I felt like I was playing whack-a-mole. I’d follow the actual rules carefully, then I would read another one on here, so Si would try and incorporate that, then I’d just get settled, and another one would pop up. So I would add yet another restriction, exhale, and bloody hell, there would be another way I was failing. Reading this thread really helped me give my head a wobble, go back to the actual guidance, and just start doing what was required. Not looping for loopholes, but also not putting more restrictions on myself than I was required to.

I’m tired of inspirational front line staff
I’m tired of “stay the fuck home boneheads”
I’m tired of “we stay here for you so you stay home for us”
I’m tired of “Clap for the NHS/our kids/our frontline gerbils”
I’m tired of public health ads everywhere
I’m tired of seeing pics of bruise faced PPE-starved healthcare staff on my insta feed
I’m tired of my daughter asking where everyone has gone
I’m tired of trying and failing to avoid the constant battery of info
I’m tired of rainbows in the windows, postie noughts and crosses on the doors and “stay safe” as an email sign off
I’m tired and fed up and struggling not to go full “Michael Douglas in Falling Down”
I am tired and fucking fed up (but I accept it is what it is)

Oh man I drank far too much last night. I now have a hangover and cant go to McDonalds for food to fix it. In fact cant go anywhere for fast food.
My usual takeaway place is shut. I think because they were hounded into shutting.
I've drunk all the wine so none left until my next venture "outside" which officially should be uh May or sometime. but will in fact be today if I decide it
Looking glorious outside this morning, if it stays sunny, I'm getting the sunlounger chairs out.
Morning everyone, can some one please organise new thread soon and link to it, just this ones filling up.
And then I'm next for the swedish firefighters, Spanish mercenaries and police yeah?

shits I think you need to sit the dogs down and tell them that they can use this time wisely and learn how to use a tin opener.

TheGreatWave I have been trying to get the older one to feed themsleves for 3.5 years. They are not using this time for self improvement, nor are they savings lives. Ladies job is safe.

I have sat and quietly mused wether I could train them to use the downstairs toilet so I dont have to pick up their shit anymore. Might be worth spending some time on that

Morning everyone, I've got the title for the new thread, undecided what topic to put it under.

There will be a new one, looks like we need it. Woke up in a much better mood today.

As you have said 1.it is what it is and 2.we are following the (real) guidelines.

Plus I've actually made progress on my impossible,evil, bastard,half of the pieces look the same puzzle. It's the little things.

Shits I actually had an argument with the cat a few days ago because he wouldn't pass me the remote next to him. Took me two full minutes to realise why he wouldn't.

The best thing is that even if the cat could pass you the remote control it would still refuse to do it.

Hey

Must stop arguing with people on here fed up of the special kind of outside that won't infect anyone .

And I'm sick of knowing that we are all doing this despite knowing the virus is going nowhere and we will be back to square one as soon as so as everyone gets back out there.

I'm sick of people taking about lifting restrictions like it's all done optional bonus we are allowed out. Its not. Its jobs its education its family its walking dogs ffs. Its basic life we are being stopped from living. Stop talking about it like we are teenagers being told no we cant go to a party.

On the plus side everyone's still alive here . Just. I'm.eyeing up a pillow right now

I fall out with the dogs all the time.

The puppy is that strange where she gets so excited when I come down on a morning she pees herself a bit. Then when dp. gets up. As soon as I come into the living room its 'nope dont pee.....I told you before dont pee.....no no wait I have the keys..I AM OPENING THE DOOR RIGHT NOW!'

I also spend alot of time asking why they have done stupid stuff. 'Why did you throw the ball behind the sofa? That wasnt sensible was it? Why do you do it, it only upsets you!'

I had left an unopened tin of dog food on the floor next to their bowls

I wonder how long before one of the dogs would have cracked and started rummaging through the cutlery drawer.

Dh is acting strangely today. He got up, washed the downstairs widows and is now reorganizing the shed.
This is so far removed from his Sunday lying on the sofa in pants ritual. The only explanation is that his body was taken over by aliens in the night.

Cats are renown for hogging the remote control and looking at you with faux innocence when challenged on the matter.

I've had to finally admit that the reason shit wasn't done around the house wasn't because we didn't have time, it's because we're lazy bastards. I'm learning to live with it.

Before there wasnt time.

Now everyone's in the way

I need to do the garden today. It's a shit tip. I am only doing as then DS can be relegated to the garden when I am on work calls with his bloody noisy light saber. It is not because I am proactive.

Ha ha yes I'm now humbly eating the words "Well we'd all have houses like Mrs. Hinch if we had the bloody time and didn't have to go to work everyday"

*this excludes Dh who is on a cleaning and tidying extravaganza today due to alien invasion.

Now everyone's in the way

Ohh I like the way you think. Especially since it's a small one bedroom flat and there's 3 of us and the cat. I'll blame the cat .

Oh I was away a while ago, before this thing and I saw a beautiful throw in the cottage. Looked all over tinternet for one similar. Cant find at less than 300quid. Thought sod it I'm stuck inside. Buy material and DIY the edges....by hand no less, cos dont own sewing machine. Searched tinternet again. Many missteps including realising I need extra wide material or it'll look shit on my large bed and very large sofa. Finally holy grail of material found at a reasonable £28.50 a metre, try to order but the sodding shop is shut even the online bit. Sigh I could have killed actual hours hemming the mahoosive chunk of material. And now I've typed material too often and it looks wrong.