Anyone else's Parents swanning about as if they are immortal?

Alsohuman - it was a couple of weeks ago when I suggested doing a trial internet shop, you are right no slots now! They probably only have enough food for a few days and we are 3-4 hours drive away...

Perhaps now my ignorant and selfish mother will be forced to behave more responsibly. As I feel at the moment I would be happy for her to be kept in prison for the next 3 weeks. Her friends and her brother are just as bad.

My next door neighbour has just come back from popping to the co-op to get his usual daily mail selfish idiot, parents are still on holiday in Cornwall they ‘might come back to London on Thursday because stepmums pills are about to run out! ‘Parents are still in complete denial I hoped they might have taken what was said last night on board But it looks like they are going to continue to be selfish. I’m so disappointed in them really.

I just phoned my mum ( many health issues)
Sdad has gone to Boots for a hearing test and because he “fancied a walk”.
I explained he wouldn’t be having a hearing test but apparently he was because they had had a letter about it a few weeks ago and if it had been cancelled they would have phoned. Also he needed to pick some things up for her (non essentials) and I couldn’t expect them to just stay in the house
I asked if she understood the concept of a lockdown and they do but it’s ok to go to the shops.
Sdad has impaired lungs

Just had an email from MIL. She's 74, has a pacemaker and an as yet undiagnosed chest issue that gives her pain and shortness of breath. She's been out to post a few things for the kids. The first time she went the post office was shut, so she went home and went back out later. I've just emailed her and asked her if she missed the PM's address last night. I also pointed out that they are unlikely to be creating a 4000-bed emergency hospital just for shits and giggles. I despair, I really do. What will it take???

Mine have already passed away decades ago but before the shops where shut down it was mostly elderly people wandering around the shops.

Mum was ill in bed all of last week with flu symptoms - I've phoned every day and she sounded terrible. I rang friday and was greeted with a chirpy "I'm so much better. We've been to tesco, had lunch in the cafe..."

Sounds a lot like my mum! Both my parents are recovering from what is almost certainly CV - textbook symptoms, but fortunately only mild. I phoned my mum on day 4 and was talking about how hard it is to buy certain items at the moment.

"Oh dear, well I can have a look for you when I pop out."

"Pop out?! You can't 'pop out'!"

"But I'm feeling so much better!"



I did eventually convince her that she needs to stay in but she clearly thinks I'm over-reacting.

I’m actually really cross now, she’s replied saying she is being careful, she’s gutted that her partner can’t get the train to visit her just now so she’s going to drive into London to collect him so he can come for Easter. I sent back a bit of a rant. So bloody selfish 😡

I'd thought that my dad was taking it seriously, but in fact, he's just been using it as an excuse not to do any of the things he doesn't want to do while still doing all the things he does want to. He's been told off by both my brothers and me, and is now sulking and behaving like a spoilt brat. I'm going to do their shopping for them tomorrow, but don't really know why I'm bothering when he keeps popping to the news agents and to his friend's house for the very crucial task of "having a fire" in the garden. Ffs. I'm really annoyed.

So incredibly frustrating. Mine were still going to go out to "check if a few (non-urgent) appointments were going ahead, as they are not answering the phone we will just drive round and check". "Then I'm just going to pop out and get flowers and a card to take to my sick friend". I told them they were not allowed to do any of this and my mum got upset saying I couldn't stop her from seeing her sick friend. I told her it was the Prime Minister. They do not get it at all. They will be the first in line crying for healthcare if they get sick. I'm so mad, if there was a 'Do not ventilate because I selfishly went out multiple times and I don't deserve it' sign I'd make them wear it. Isn't that awful.

MIL, so far this week, she has attended a non-urgent hospital appointment and picked up her prescription that we said must be delivered to her, she is late 80’s. Won’t listen to a word we say.

To be fair, the hospital should have cancelled the non urgent appointment!

if there was a 'Do not ventilate because I selfishly went out multiple times and I don't deserve it' sign I'd make them wear it

They wouldn’t get ventilated anyway, none of us over 60 would.

There is no more ‘popping’ or ‘driving round’. By government INSTRUCTION. Reinforced by police presence - and stronger measures if we don’t comply.

Really, by now, there is no excuse for all this :(

I've had to point out to my Mum this morning, after she was telling me that her gardener is still coming, that nobody ever died from not having their lawn mowed.

My DM has multiple, major health issues and recently spent almost three months in hospital and a rehabilitation unit due to major problems with out of control diabetes. She is still going out on her mobility scooter twice a day and insists she isn't getting up close to anyone. I have told her numerous times to stay in as she is still at risk outside.
She has a fantastic garden that she should and could use for her fresh air.
I've given up.

These people, words fail me! Seems to often be older people who think they know better. If they are on ventilators and are passing away the family won’t be around. They will die alone surrounded by nurses who might or might not be able to pass on messages from the family.

It’s so, so selfish. My DS did a shift today at supermarket. Still couples out together, still families taking up multiple slots because only 40 at one time are allowed in. Utterly utterly selfish stupid behaviour.

STOP IT NOW - PLEASE

If they are on ventilators and are passing away the family won’t be around

They won’t get anywhere near a ventilator, nobody over 60 will.

My mum is 70 and had a letter advising her to self-isolate for 12 weeks as she is considered vulnerable. She said there is no way she is doing that (she is still doing 9-mile walks and would be doing dancing if it was still on). Then she said she didn't survive having an emergency operation for ovarian cancer and an ileostomy bag last summer just so she could sit at home on her own and not see anyone. I think getting her shopping delivered might be her only concession.

My 86 yo mother caught the bus and went to Morrisons today- it was a huge adventure to her.

To some extent my father has now accepted that this is serious but keeps saying, oh it's not in my area yet but admits he doesn't know that of course. He has done his weekly shop and understands he shouldn't go out now for a few weeks BUT he still insists on going to his local garage to get this daily newspaper, despite me telling him that they probably have a lot of passing customers and to take precautions, or not go at all. Nope, he's adamant he's still going to go. He was also talking about finding a mobile hairdresser to go to his house and cut his hair! What I cannot understand is how a highly intelligent man, albeit 77, seems to think that he is 'safe'! I despair.

Mine went to M&S today, bought some food and flowers, but was disappointed she couldn’t look at clothes while she was there!!

I am hopeful that some over 70s have been on some form of lockdown for weeks now, I know many who have. So maybe that will have some effect sooner than the wider lockdown. Although I think in my original home town there were several early cases that got a lot of attention as it was early on and so people there locked down earlier.

The early cases were over 70s back from trip to second home in Italy, swanning around the pubs saying they were fine.

They are a very selfish generation. I think that is why.