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Anyone else's Parents swanning about as if they are immortal?

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Namechange2020onceagain · 17/03/2020 20:45

Just had a chat with my Mum, she then asked if I want anything from B&Q as they are popping in there tomorrow! This is after they went shopping to Sainsburys this morning and then said they are going again on Friday.

I have said I will get any shopping they need, but they keep going out.

FFS they are both over 70 and my Dad will die if he gets the virus. They are not taking it seriously at all.

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Bilingualspingual · 17/03/2020 20:45

Yep. Parkinson’s but off to the hairdresser’s.

Namechange2020onceagain · 17/03/2020 20:48

They do not have any memory issues to excuse them.

Sorry your parent has parkinsons. Sad

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Reginabambina · 17/03/2020 20:49

Mine said today that he’s probably got a super human immune system because he hasn’t been ill for years. This is the same man who ignored a heart attack for so long that it just stopped of it’s own accord not more a year ago. On the other end of the spectrum I have my DH who keeps announcing he ‘must have corona’ after feeling slightly tired after waking up at 5 am and writing half a novel because he felt like it. I don’t know who would be worse to go into lockdown with. Seriously considering sending DH to stay in DFs house while I get the entire house to myself.

Mamato2gorgeousboys · 17/03/2020 20:50

Yes, my in-laws. My mil has bad asthma but went to the pub quiz last night. My dh is so annoyed at them but they just don’t get it. Today they popped to the bank 🤦‍♀️

pinkazing · 17/03/2020 20:51

Omg, mine are exactly same he has Parkinson’s and she went out to get her hair cut and then shopping as she needs it. chemist then Coffee shop today argh

Namechange2020onceagain · 17/03/2020 20:51

What is wrong with them? My Dh parents are no better, it's business as usual.

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Pinetreesfall · 17/03/2020 20:51

Yes both immuno compromised and still managed John Lewis, about three food shops, a range of other completely non-essential fancy shops. My dad has had heart attacks and has a reduced lung and my mum takes methotrexate. I honestly despair. No amount of telling them is doing anything. I am somewhere between really cross and really sad. They have 4 grandchildren (mine and my sisters children) and the fact they may not see them grow up if they catch this doesn't seem to have crossed their minds! Argh!

Namechange2020onceagain · 17/03/2020 20:54

I just had to read my mum the riot act about need and not want. She has said they are not going now, but I'm not sure I believe it.

They also had friends come over today for a cup of tea.

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TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 17/03/2020 20:54

Not mine, but my in-laws are just carrying on as normal, both have health conditions, but there's no talking sense into them. It makes me a little peeved that DH and I are effectively pausing our lives for the better of the elderly population but that they have no concerns at all.

NB I know it's not that simple, I'm just having a moan!

CrunchyCarrot · 17/03/2020 20:54

Yep, has just told DP not to visit for mother's day but she's out and about, on the buses and into the supermarket! In her mid 70s and healthy, perhaps she just doesn't think it's that bad? I really don't know.

TreacherousPissFlap · 17/03/2020 20:54

DM - she fully supports then isolating of the over 70's except her.

I'm sure she expects BJ to stand up and say "all over 70's should go into lockdown- oh except MrsTreacherousPissflap Snr, it doesn't count for her"

FiveGoMadInDorset · 17/03/2020 20:55

Yes, managed to get her to cancel the 40 people she was having to get house next week

BrokenBrit · 17/03/2020 20:55

It sounds harsh but the thing that cut through to my best friends parents was that if they go out willingly and get it they are taking hospital beds and resources away from their children and grandchildren..

GaraMedouar · 17/03/2020 20:56

Ah yes, my mum has said she’s not changing her behaviour - went on bus to town, had haircut, and tomorrow has dentist appointment . She refuses to self isolate in any way whatsoever.

Namechange2020onceagain · 17/03/2020 20:56

The sooner the enforced lockdown happens, the better. If only our ineffectual embarrassing government could get their act together.

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cat0281 · 17/03/2020 20:57

I think it's really selfish. When children are having operations cancelled (as reported on BBC News) to make space for future coronavirus patients, acting as though nothing is happening, ignoring government advice and putting yourself at risk is selfish in the extreme. We are putting our economy on the line mainly to protect the older members of the population. The least they can do is make an effort not to catch it by staying in.

Ronnie27 · 17/03/2020 20:59

Yes 69 year old mother in law who was hospitalised with pneumonia last year offered to pick the children up from school today and told me that she could look after them when schools close if I wasn’t able to wfh. Apparently everyone is overreacting. Just what. I don’t fancy having her death on my conscience because she’s insisted on doing the school run tbh. Shock

AnotherMurkyDay · 17/03/2020 20:59

Yes because they are not over 70 and have jobs to go to

Ragwort · 17/03/2020 20:59

Yes, mine! Have posted on here before about how 'fiesty' and 'independent' they are but they are really being irresponsible now. Aged 87 & 89 and behaving as if they are invincible. I visited them yesterday, asked if they needed any shopping, they assured me they were fine (I looked in fridge etc and they were very well stocked). I left and was parked in the local Tesco ........... and saw my mother walk in breezily without a care in the world. Angry

Absentwomen · 17/03/2020 21:01

Smiling here.

I'm one of those parents who's daughter is RAGING mad. Because her dad nipped to the supermarket last night. We really did need food and my SH hasn't been too good for three weeks so we have been home anyway and away from people.

From our perspective, we didn't want to trouble our daughter. She works full time,is a lone mother to our three grandchildren and is like a whirlwind. We figured that when she gets home at 10pm after being at work since 8am, that she deserves a friggin break. DH nipped out and ensured he followed all guidelines and the little Tescos near us, had very few people in there. It closes at 10pm.

I know and understand that the 'boomers' are being all staunch and carrying on, and we do understand that Toure all dead smart and love us, and we drive you mad. But honestly, sometimes, we can do this stuff and follow guidelines.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 17/03/2020 21:01

Yes mine. She sort of conceded when I reminded her that she looks both ways when she crosses the street so obviously wants to stay alive.

Delatron · 17/03/2020 21:02

Yep. Parents 68 and 69 asthmatic Dad. Both off to the gym today but Dad said he’ll avoid the sauna of someone’s in it!

And he’ll be going to the pubs for as long as they’re open... They need locking down!!

Namechange2020onceagain · 17/03/2020 21:04

Maybe it's because they have seen a lot of possible worldwide disasters over the years that have come to nothing.

I don't think they realise that this is different and it is going to affect every single persons way of life for the foreseeable.

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Canklesforankles · 17/03/2020 21:06

Spoke to my MIL who is in her 80s and has heart and lung problems last night. Said we can bring her anything she needs etc.

DH can’t get hold of her this morning. She’d gone to B&Q and Iceland (right in the middle of a town centre). Angry

We have avoided seeing both our mums for past couple of weeks but speaking to them most days, reassuring them that we will help them, care for them if they are ill but avoiding visiting.

What’s the point!!!!!

Noname9 · 17/03/2020 21:08

But it’s ok
Because they take vitamin C tablets and fish oils and they were sucking on a fishermen friend so it’s all fine apparently Hmm

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