Anyone else's Parents swanning about as if they are immortal?

[Namechange2020onceagain]

Just had a chat with my Mum, she then asked if I want anything from B&Q as they are popping in there tomorrow! This is after they went shopping to Sainsburys this morning and then said they are going again on Friday.

I have said I will get any shopping they need, but they keep going out.

FFS they are both over 70 and my Dad will die if he gets the virus. They are not taking it seriously at all.

[Heihei]

My mother (72, numerous health problems) is infuriating me by cherry picking parts of the advice she’s happy with. So getting me and my sister to do her shopping is fine, but she’s massively sulking that I won’t take DS over to visit, she thinks it’s ok to go to a friend’s house for dinner, is sulking that we haven’t arranged an outing for Mother’s Day. hits head against wall

[Greenpop21]

Speak to your employer. I’m a key worker (school) and some of our staff have been able to stay home because of personal risks to their family.

[Greenpop21]

That was to @TamingToddler

[Greenpop21]

I’m s mum and couldn’t give a toss about Mother’s Day! Who are these stroppy mothers?

[Bridecilla]

I'm furious with mine.

Mum was ill in bed all of last week with flu symptoms - I've phoned every day and she sounded terrible. I rang friday and was greeted with a chirpy "I'm so much better. We've been to tesco, had lunch in the cafe..."

I called them out and said they were selfish but apparently I'm terrible for upsetting them and I should have been round every day making sure she was ok.

They think it's utterly ridiculous that I'm planning on dropping her mothers day present off to the doorstep.

She's also hurt to have been denied access to ds - he's phoned her every day. It's breaking her heart that I'm so selfish.

Dad is 70 and still working 3 days a week in a non essential job. I despair.

[daisypond]

Will supermarket cafes stay open? Surely they are closed now, alongside other restaurants.

[phivephatphish]

@TamingToddler

[phivephatphish]

@TamingToddler, sorry misread your post. Most HCPs I know are trying to remove themselves from the at risk person ie move out or get at risk person to move out. Some hospitals/ schools (like Eton) facilitating this.

[Rosehip10]

I'm glad that cafes have closed. My mum has been droning about "Costa is okay. I go early, the girls there are so friendly". Ffs costs seem to have an almost vice like hold on pensioners!

[Bridecilla]

@Daisypond they're closed now. This was Friday after she had been ill for a bloody week! Apparently she 'needed' a change of scenery!

[Canklesforankles]

FFS just spoke to MIL who is in 80s and has heart failure. She said her minister has opened the church for people who want to go in and prey.
“It’s fine as there will be nobody there, no more than 10 people and I will stay away from them.”

[Snorkelface]

My mother just openly lied to me on the phone. 'I've been out to walk the dogs once a day and that's it' So no stopping and chatting with people, or popping down to the high street. 'Ooooh no, can't remember the last time I went to the shops'. Ten minutes later into the call. 'So Sally (equally elderly neighbour) and I had a lovely time spending out Mother's Day tokens in Boots yesterday'. What? 'Don't worry, we didn't go in my car, Sally drove' What difference does that make? Does she think it's the flippin' Carowner Virus? And Boots is in the really busy retail park, not even the little high street. FFS. Apparently they're going to do the elderly early morning supermarket shop tomorrow (why?) and make a morning of it.

Are they going to physically stop them in the street now. Please let that be the case. Ideally dressed like Robocop.

[littlebitwooway]

I literally despair. Spoke to mine.

"I'm self isolating"

In the same conversation

"I went to Sainsbury's this morning and it was heaving, but the shelves were stocked"

and

"Your brother is here just having a bath and I am doing his washing"

Me: " What is the point of self isolating then"

Mum: "Well its giving me a chance to think about what to do for work"

Face palm.

[Haffdonga]

It's not only the elderly who aren't getting it.

One of my colleagues (I'll call her Jilly) cares for her very elderly mum who has multiple health issues. Someone in our office has tested positive to CV. . Our office manager has told everyone they must work from home except for an essential skeleton team.

Jilly: Well, the internet connection's not very good in my house so I'll just keep on coming in to the office.
Office Manager: No we don't actually want you coming in if at all possible.
Jilly: Oh ok then I'll work from my mum's house. Her internet is better.
OM: Isn't your mum self isolating then?
Jilly: Yes she is. But I go round every day and spend the evening with her. I'll just go in the morning instead.
OM: But she's self isolating! You're going in and out of the office where we've had the virus and then into her house every day!
Jilly: What? Are you saying I shouldn't go and visit her or lock myself in with her? She'd love that! Hahaha!

And this from a supposedly intelligent and knowledgeable person.

[BiarritzCrackers]

@phivephatphish

WRT that chart - Child 2 could still pick up the infection from the Dad's period of illness though? Child 2 could pick up the infection on day 19, and not show symptoms for days after that. They should be isolating, not releasing back into the community on day 14.

[allfurcoatnoknickers]

@rosehip10 My mum's idea of self isolating was carrying on as normal but not going to Costa. She behaved as if she was making a massive sacrifice.

She's still popping to Sainsbury's every other day for "bits"

[daisypond]

Child 2 could still pick up the infection from the Dad's period of illness though?
They’ve already been doubly exposed, through mum and child 1, and still not had any symptoms, so it’s deemed they are not going to be infected. I think

[Hoppinggreen]

Sdad was very disappointed today that the paper shop had sold out of The Daily Mail by the time he got there, despite the fact that they were “staying in”. When I queried it I was told that it was only up the road and surely the advice didn’t mean they couldn’t go out locally. They will also need to go to Sainsburys at some point, despite me dropping some stuff outside for them today and one of the neighbours dropping a note through their letter box offering to do their shopping
As long as they are “allowed” they will keep doing what they want because if it was THAT serious the government would have said they have to stay in rather then just advising them to
I just despair

[Kitten124]

Yep. Mine have a laptop and an internet connection but refuse to trial getting a supermarket shop. I think it’s cos they don’t watch much TV or look at news online, so they don’t realise how serious the situation is.

[Snog]

Mine has been swanning around getting her nails done and then inviting people round for lunch. Apparently this is ok because at the nail salon she asked to wash her hands on arrival and her visitors aren't just anyone they are people "clean" of the virus. Which includes people recently home from Spain.

I really lost my shit on my Mother's Day phonecall which was pointless as she thinks I am a weirdo extremist who should be ignored.

[Alsohuman]

have a laptop and an internet connection but refuse to trial getting a supermarket shop

There are no slots available until April so how do you think they’re supposed to do that?

[marriednotdead]

Despite everything, my brother took his wife and kids to see my mother this weekend, it was clearly preplanned and encouraged.

Her words when I called her were along the lines of you mustn’t be cross with him or me, I HAD to see someone. It’s ok because I’m fine, if I catch it I catch it, I’ve had my life.

Me and my married DD are currently almost certainly infected although we seem to be doing ok but my selfish mother has to have what SHE wants.

I genuinely never want to speak to her again.

[Dard]

My 76 year old mum is driving to her 2nd home in Norfolk she would not listen to me says she will self isolate there very selfish

[LovePoppy]

@marriednotdead I’m so sorry. I’d be livid too

[marriednotdead]

Thanks @LovePoppy.
Yesterday's rage has turned to cold indifference, she cares for nobody so I shan't waste any more of my mental energy.
Sorry for everyone else who has selfish idiots for relatives