May wedding - caronavirus

[Dramalamaindeed]

Anyone else worried?

I have about 10 guests flying from various parts of the world - none of which are the high risk areas but who knows what 2 months will bring?

Then I’m worried we can’t have the wedding as no mass gatherings could be banned/ we could be sick.

I haven’t taken out insurance but thinking of doing it now but will they even cover it?

Looks like my wedding (end of April) is definitely off 😢 parents both over 70 so will have to be in self-isolation

SweetMarmalade I'd lost nearly a stone and was doing circuits and swimming.
Last night I just ate and ate.
Need to get back into a routine regardless of the awful situation x

@Yukaplantpot yes you’re right.

Well done on your stone loss agree need to keep the routine going, good for the mind.

@pinkpanther84 I’m so sorry

We've just had to cancel our wedding at the start of April. Luckily the venue were able to reschedule to later this year and we've managed to move almost all of our suppliers over to the new date. Feeling a bit relieved now... Just hoping everything has calmed down by then.

@SweetMarmalade thank you 😢 I appreciate it

Hi Ladies,
Hope you're all ok(ish) today. It's day 4 of not getting any sleep and I feel emotionally exhausted. I cannot face anything wedding related at the moment. I am so sad that i won't be able to wear my dress, now just sitting in the wardrobe....and i've just eaten a whole pizza!

I have a question!

I emailed our venue on Friday but haven't heard back. To put in context it's a beautiful church that also holds parties/weddings and does a lot of work in the community.
It has followed the CoE guidelines published this statement on it's website

In response to guidance from the Church of England over the Covid-19 pandemic, we are postponing all hospitality meals until further notice. These include Monday's Simple Supper as well as Thursday & Friday Lunch Clubs

If this was your venue would you assume this means wedding are out of the question?
I have taken it as confirmation the venue will cancel our wedding (2nd of May).
I now just want to have a definitive answer so we can get on and be practical and start to attempt to think of when we could rearrange the wedding.

If over 70s are now being asked to self-isolated i don't think I'm alone when our parents will not be allowed to attend anything until Aug, at the earliest.

SweetMarmalade thank you...i've just downed a pizza!

I’m a vicar and I’ve got 4 weddings booked in the next 8 weeks. I’m sad for the couples as they are really worried. Church services are going ahead at the moment (as per CofE guidelines) but the bigger issue are the reception venues. Also if church guidelines change we may not be able to even do the service. I spoke to a very stressed bride yesterday

Thanks Frogsandsheep it's heartbreaking. I really need our venue to get back in touch because I'm going crazy.
I'm not sure about the age of our vicar but she might possibly be over 70.

Personally I think In the next week or so it'll change and we'll be on lock down.
Beyond our wedding I feel for those who are vulnerable and elderly.
Like the homeless who have no access to clean water and soap.

Hugs to everyone on this thread, especially @Frazzlerock

My wedding is supposed to be in July, honeymoon Italy (!!)) in August :-(
My main concern is if the government ask all over 70’s to isolate for 4 months, none of our parents will be able to come.

Like others on the thread, I’m so frustrated by people/friends saying ‘oh it’ll be fine, it’ll all have blown over by then/think positively’ etc
It is def the not knowing as to whether any of us should/can go ahead with all our plans or not...
I’ve emailed my venue today to ask what would happen, eg could we get our money back or postpone to another date sometime in the future.

Another one here who has had several sleepless nights. I just feel sick thinking about the wedding and I have two hen dos. One is next week and I think that will be ok, but the one after is for the under 18's and older relatives and I cannot see it going ahead.
We've seen our reverend this morning and he's business as usual. He's under 70 but high risk. I've emailed the reception venue and I'm sure they will be happy to rearrange, but our evening venue is the one we've paid a considerable deposit for and so I'm most worried about. I'm thinking our wedding is not going to go ahead in May and I'm devastated. It was so hard arranging it all. I'll be contacting all suppliers tomorrow. They're all one man bands and if they get ill they won't be able to fulfill. Not that they know anymore than the rest of us, but at least I'll feel like I'm doing something.

We have had message after message in the last two days with people dropping out. It's to be expected and I don't blame them but it's also very sad. We are going to have empty tables. My heart doesn't feel in it anymore. I just feel frightened that the people coming will catch it. It's a disaster for the whole world and so sad.

I'm worrying about the announcement of potential self isolation for 4 months. It is just elderly people it is vulnerable people as well, and I am diabetic with a wedding in 3 months. The insurance doesn't cover government acts (wedinsure) so we'd be £20k lost and no wedding 😫 I would be covered if the venue cancels or one of us get ill but not for trying to bloody avoid it

*isnt just elderly people

We’ve just had fiancé’s parents over in tears, worrying about what will happen if they have to self isolate. They thought our insurance might pay out under close family but it won’t, as it’s related to a government order. I don’t think his mum would cope with coming against advice, she’s already quite anxious. His dad seems alright...

Eurgh. We’re supposed to be at our venue tomorrow to do the final run throughs and do our menu tasting... I have no idea whether to go.

Dramalamaindeed
Can you do what this person has done? It sounds good:

Maddzey Sat 14-Mar-20 17:57:53
We met with the hotel today, they have moved everything to the 27th of October, guest bookings included. They couldn’t have been more understanding or helpful. It’s such a relief. With 90% of our guests travelling from Ireland it was the right decision I think.

Flixsfoilball have you spoken to your insurance company? Last week our insurance changed to included if gov shut down in the event of something like a pandemic.

I doubt any venue in the next week will be staying open so if they cancel you will get your money back.
I think most venues will rearrange the date

@yukaplantpot, haven't spoken to them (couldn't get through) so have emailed. Although their website is still saying:

Under our wedding insurance policy we cover the cancellation and rearrangement of the wedding due to the following reasons that may relate to the Coronavirus:
1 the booked venue for the wedding or wedding reception being unable to hold your wedding and/or wedding reception due to an outbreak of infectious disease (e.g. Coronavirus) or its closure by a relevant authority.
2 We also cover the unavoidable cancellation of the wedding due to the death or illness of the wedding participants or their close relative, which would make having or continuing with the wedding and/or wedding reception impossible. For example, if one of the wedding participants or a close relative contracted the Coronavirus shortly before the wedding and were unable to attend due to ill health, death then that would also be covered.
The policy does not cover cancellation or rearrangement due to any claim resulting from issues relating to travel bans, flight cancellations or government acts, regulations such as a ban on public or social gatherings or any form of travel restrictions. This is general guidance only and must be understood in the context of the term and conditions of the policy. For example, if you were to buy the policy having already contracted Coronavirus then that would not be covered. Or if you buy the policy knowing that there is a existing circumstance that makes a claim inevitable then that would also not be covered.

It's Government act or regulation which may screw us

Ok I see. Debenhams reassured me that their policy had now changed to cover the gov banning gatherings
I have a feeling that might be the same for all insurance companies so just hang in there. It keeps changing.
I really think your venue and suppliers will have no choice but to rearrange the date. Remember they cannot guarantee their health on the day or that they can carry out what you have paid for. More so the venue will no way stay open the way things are going.

I think we will have to cancel the date 😔. Both Mums are over 70 so we mustn't put them in the situation of feeling that they have to attend. It's a small event so do we go ahead with the ceremony as our two witnesses actually work at the venue then rearrange the reception lunch for another time ? Or just postpone the whole thing ? It's a dilemma.

I posted in another thread but I get married on Friday and am sick with the worry of it all. We don't have insurance and all the venue and suppliers are saying they are going ahead and most of our guests are coming. I wanted to postpone but it's too late and partner and parents were against it. I feel ill with worry but have sort of accepted what will be will be.

@Yukaplantpot bet that pizza was worth it! we can’t be all the time, especially not now!

I think if you postpone too long a lot of companies will be out of business.