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May wedding - caronavirus

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Dramalamaindeed · 05/03/2020 19:57

Anyone else worried?

I have about 10 guests flying from various parts of the world - none of which are the high risk areas but who knows what 2 months will bring?

Then I’m worried we can’t have the wedding as no mass gatherings could be banned/ we could be sick.

I haven’t taken out insurance but thinking of doing it now but will they even cover it?

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Dramalamaindeed · 20/03/2020 08:05

I can’t handle the thought of rescheduling to say September then the day being cancelled again plus the pressure I put on myself for this day. I’ve been in the gym for the past 2 years. I was looking so forward to the day but also the pressure being off once the day was over. Now it’s going to be prolonged for another 6 months.

I’m thinking if we can cancel the day we’ll arrange a holiday for next summer, get married there and party at home but I don’t think it’s going to be possible.

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Yukaplantpot · 20/03/2020 09:13

It's so awful.

Just bear in mind that of you cancel and start from scratch that you may be unable to get new wedding insurance. Hadn't even thought of this until my h2b mentioned it.
It might be 12 months until you can start planning a new wedding.

Just an update on my make up artist. She sent me some horrible messages and then had the cheek to say I was 'blunt' and called me up to call me 'stubborn' ...I was being to the point but after her horrible, unprofessional approach I was trying to keep calm and tbh I'm a customer who screwed over.
So she not only has been horrible but now personal.
I explained the circumstances ie pandemic and she just kept repeating you've lost your deposit....I've never disputed the deposit.
She has such a nerve and it's absolutely upset me individuals like this exist x

ShellsAndSunrises · 20/03/2020 12:57

I’m still waiting for the registrar to send us an email confirming that it’s now limited to 6 people including us and the registrar. They confirmed it by phone but my venue have said they’ve heard nothing and are therefore open for business. They also reiterated that they’d be charging us for their minimum attendance (50 people) even if we can’t have that many or they don’t show up.

Insurance sent us about the same as Drama, but the man on the phone said no U.K. insurance covers government act, and any claims for self isolation or lock down would be rejected because they are the result of government advice. He was friendly but not the most helpful...

Fiancé’s parents keep phoning in tears. A few friends have asked if it’s now cancelled. I feel so stressed.

I think we’ve decided to try and do the legal part on the day, and then postpone the reception. Our insurance will continue to cover us, so we just need to talk the venue into it. People will be upset but we can’t go ahead and neither of us are keen to wait what could easily be another year to get married... I wanted to elope and have a small thing anyway.

delilahbucket · 20/03/2020 13:10

I cannot believe how awful some of these companies are being. I've nearly contacted every supplier for our wedding and they have all said they will happily carry over deposits if we reschedule, even if it is delaying by a year (which realistically is what will happen as I'm too busy with work in autumn and winter). Surely if they can do the new date it would make sense for them to carry over deposits and guarantee themselves some work. People are so daft.

SureTry · 20/03/2020 13:48

We've had an email from our Registras restricting the wedding to just us and 2 witnesses or postpone at no extra cost.

ShellsAndSunrises · 20/03/2020 13:51

Just called our venue again and our co-ordinator, who we spent Monday and Tuesday with, is now off for two weeks "due to coronavirus".

Honestly, I don't know how much more I can take this week.

Daffodil101 · 20/03/2020 13:52

Check your policies. My daughters school trip was cancelled with no refund from the insurers (£1500) as it doesn’t cover ‘force majeur’

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Dramalamaindeed · 20/03/2020 15:22

My venue has now closed temporarily. Do you think I could claim my insurance now?

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Charlottejade89 · 20/03/2020 15:38

Hello, o my just found this thread but I'm due to get married end of june. The venue have emailed twice keeping us updated and so far have said that they will be going ahead with all weddings unless they are forced to shit down by the government. If that were to happen we would be offered a new date subject to availability and free of charge. If we were to cancel of our own accord we would be liable to pay the total cost due to it being so close but we can also postpone for a small fee. At the moment we are just carrying on as if it's still going ahead but I think this weekend we will have a conversation about possibly postponing til september or October. Honeymoon booked for 2 days after the wedding so just going to see whether the airline cancels it or not. We have insurance for the holiday but not sure we would be covered if we cancelled it

Charlottejade89 · 20/03/2020 15:39

*shut down not shit haha Grin

ShellsAndSunrises · 20/03/2020 16:42

My venue has now closed temporarily. Do you think I could claim my insurance now?

Maybe - it depends what they are reporting the cause of the closure as, apparently. I'll cross my fingers for you!

My venue has just reiterated by email that they are open for business unless the Government closes them down, and although they are now aware of the new registry requirements, they are completing their side of the contract by being available for us to get married in. Eurgh.

I feel so stressed. I'm worried about work, about money, about the wedding, about fiancé's parents... Being in the house isn't helping, but my town is rammed, everyone is still out and about so it doesn't feel that responsible to go for a walk...

Yukaplantpot · 20/03/2020 17:55

Big hug to all those with shitty venues Flowers no one needs this stress that's so awful. How unreasonable.

If you've managed to see the news it looks so unlikely that venues can stay open. They may have to close under a moral cloud as opposed to the government. The government are so crap they don't want to do it by law because then they know they'll be liable for insurance from pubs, clubs, hotels

rumandbiscuits · 21/03/2020 09:22

How is everyone doing today? I should have been waking up as a Mrs today Sad
I have friends that travelled from California to see us get married they are going back today and spent most of their time here in a hotel room! I feel so awful about it but then I have to remind myself it was their choice to come and we did try to persuade them not to come. Still feel terrible though, especially if they end up catching it!
I wake up everyday thinking 'this must be a dream?!' It's madness and hard to get my head around. Last week was the longest week of my life trying to get to Friday but I think this is going to be a long year for the whole world. At least we all have each other for support Thanks

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Dramalamaindeed · 21/03/2020 10:00

Ahh rum that’s sad Sad. Even though I now know my wedding isn’t happening, I know that when I wake up on May 8th I’ll be devastated thinking of what should have been. Then every day after that knowing I should be married but I’m not.

We’ve still to decide what to do. Our venue is letting us change the date but I want to speak to our insurance and see what we can claim if anything as I think a small thing as soon as possible would suit me better rather than potentially waiting a year for the big thing.

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tigerbear · 21/03/2020 10:43

Sending more hugs to everyone on this thread.
It’s all so surreal.
Like others on this thread, I’m worried about finances (both DP and I are self employed) and all our savings have already gone towards the wedding.
We’ve already paid our venue about £7k, with approx another 7k still to pay.
How do any of us plan to reschedule, when no one knows when this will be over???
Or if the venues will be still be open in 6 months, a year, 18 months?

DP and I need to make a decision in the next week, as my bridesmaid is supposed to be flying in from HK, and needs to pay for her flights by April 5th.

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Dramalamaindeed · 21/03/2020 12:39

My venue is offering us Friday 4th September.

I’m not sure what to do as it seems still 50/50 it could go ahead x

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ShellsAndSunrises · 21/03/2020 12:50

I don’t know if this helps anyone, but Which have done a guide saying what’s covered and what isn’t for different policies... although it looks generally like this stitches everyone up.

www.which.co.uk/news/2020/03/what-does-coronavirus-mean-for-your-wedding-insurance/

My venue have sent no updates but did update Facebook last night to say that they can no longer open the restaurant, bar, spa or gym. I’m torn about what to do... we have to postpone the reception at least but I think both of us want to try and get legally married still.

ShellsAndSunrises · 21/03/2020 12:52

(Should have said that so far, the venue are saying us postponing at all would be a cancellation as they are open, so even that seems hard, but we can’t ask our guests to come and risk their families)

FriendofDorothy · 21/03/2020 12:59

Ny cousin was due to get married on 23 May - they contacted the registry office and were told that they were pretty sure that it wouldn't go ahead in May and they were not rebooking for the whole of this year.

So, they got married yesterday with 5 close family members there and then sent out a FB message to everyone saying that they will reschedule the party when all is safe to do so.

I think they have been very sensible in the circumstances.

rumandbiscuits · 21/03/2020 15:14

My new wedding date is set for 13th September and I'm really worried this isn't going to be over by then Sad
If I hadn't already paid for it all I would be saying screw it and get married with two guests or just not get married at all!

ShellsAndSunrises · 21/03/2020 15:26

It probably won't be completely gone, but I hope we'll be back to some form of normality by then, @rumandbiscuits... They think our peak will be May/June. We've paid for everything too... I'm in two minds about what to do. Our date was really meaningful to us, but we want to be legally married... I have no idea whether to bring the legal bit forward, or try and keep it mid-May and just postpone the reception.

@FriendofDorothy Do you know what county was dealing with them? That sounds efficient! Our registry office haven't been so helpful. There's now a notice on the website that it's limited to 5 people but no direct contact yet, they've closed the phonelines and no reply to my email from Tuesday.

macaroniandpizza · 21/03/2020 17:26

I have a may holiday booked to florida and I've resigned myself to the fact that ds and I wont be going :( I'm gutted but the health and safety of everyone is paramount

FriendofDorothy · 21/03/2020 20:23

@ShellsAndSunrises it was in Guernsey.

WhatNext277 · 23/03/2020 19:36

Hi everyone I am just seeing how you all are? I am unsure whether to postpone or not. If my hen & wedding are cancelled then I have no idea when to reschedule for

MoreGinPlease2020 · 23/03/2020 19:45

I think mine's just been cancelled. The venue haven't said anything yet but they're now closed until July. We don't know what to do. I'm pregnant and due in November, so if we reschedule to later in summer / autumn, I won't fit into my dress. If we wait then it'll be 2021 which is too depressing for me to begin thinking about. If we try to get a registry office wedding instead, we'll likely be limited to so few guests we won't be able to have our parents. I'm so confused and upset.

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