May wedding - caronavirus

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Anyone else worried?

I have about 10 guests flying from various parts of the world - none of which are the high risk areas but who knows what 2 months will bring?

Then I’m worried we can’t have the wedding as no mass gatherings could be banned/ we could be sick.

I haven’t taken out insurance but thinking of doing it now but will they even cover it?

We're contacting our venues today. DP is determined to go ahead with the wedding as long as they are allowed to do it. I'll be happy for it to be just the two of us, our witnesses and kiss goodbye to the reception. I can't risk my DM or his DPs all over 70 and having other health issues.

It's so difficult to judge as we have a mixture of guests who are very much let's soldier on type people and those who are ready to go into lockdown. Some of our guests have booked hotels and train travel so I don't know what to do about that.

I'll just have to wait and see what the venues say and go from there I guess.

I'll just go ahead with mine (end of May) unless the registrars are not working. Tbh, I suspect that loads of local people would be desperate for a chance to get out of the bloody house and do something of there's any kind of prolonged shut down. So we'd get some guests regardless. If worst comes to worst, it can be us and witnesses and no one else.

Ireland's lock down arrangements limit weddings to 100 guests. I can't imagine the UK government being more stringent in their requirements. Mine was never going to be that big anyway.

I'm going to get married whatever happens. It's the party that's likely to be affected, rather than the getting married bit.

We called John Lewis and there is an incredibly small loophole for them that says any ‘notifiable disease’ is not covered. So if we are cancelled we are fucked. £30k gone. Luckily our suppliers and venue are more on the line of rescheduling but Jesus Christ this is horrendous

I'm going to try and reschedule our April wedding, depending on availability, due to my over 70s parents likely being in isolation in April. I've no idea when is best to reschedule it for! I was thinking autumn depending on what the venue have available but it's impossible to know when things will be back to normal

I’m going out of my mind - please someone let me know what you think. I’m due to get married June - have a lot of elderly coming a long (my parents & partners parents). I have my hen do 5th June to Spain. Should I re-arrange the whole wedding ? I’m due to pay a lump sum off the venue this month and I have no insurance. What would you do?

I have a friend who makes wedding cakes for a living and her phone is ringing everyday with brides in tears. She's telling them all she'll reschedule and if not then refund. It's going to be a nightmare for her business.

This morning we have managed to move the registrar, photographer and DJ to our new date. All without any hassle. We had a mini honeymoon booked in London that was non-refundable or changeable but they have also rescheduled in light of the current situation. A family meme ver was doing our cake so no issue there and I had handmade all the flowers so I’ve just boxed them away for safe keeping. Vendors we have found are really trying to accommodate their clients. It’s so difficult for them too. Waiting to hear back from hair and make-up and the lighting/decor company we had hired but even if we lose the deposits on those it’s minimal against what we potentially could have lost.

Maddzley when were you due to get married ?!

We were due to get married the 14th April, but 60 of our 70
Guests were travelling from Ireland. Now moved to 27th October

Ours is early May and is just 15 people including two Mums over 70). I really don't know if me and DP and the two witnesses go ahead with the wedding part (assuming that the registrar will come out to the venue). Then have the celebration part in a few months time. Or try and move the whole event. I'm waiting to hear from the venue to see what their policy is on all of this. Any advice anyone ?

Let me know what they say - I’m waiting for a call back from my venue at 3. Do you think this will all blow over by June?

WhatNext I'm not sure it will be that quick. If govt are suggesting that in a couple of weeks they will advise the over 70's to stay home for a long time, poss 4 months. Even assuming that this course of action works this takes us to late summer. Nobody really knows.

@Metagoth I'm getting married Friday too! I'm feeling exactly the same as you. We have had 8 day guests drop out and 25 evening guests! Luckily been able to get a refund for them but if anymore drop out between now and Friday we won't get any money back. What a nightmare! I hope you have a lovely day, will be thinking of you!

I get married end of June - would you love the date or wait? How long do I wait for ?! Do you think C OF E will cancel weddings ?

How is everyone? I've just seen the new advice from the government about avoiding non-essential social contact and to avoid pubs and restaurants. Our venue are now going ahead with the wedding and won't postpone. I feel absolutely sick.

My venue said they won’t postpone either unless the government can’t go ahead. I’m kind of hoping C OF E will cancel then I won’t be going ahead with it. I’m unsure

Think the issue is the government aren’t closing pubs, clubs, theatres etc but advising not to attend, social distancing. So they are relying on us to stop going.

The issue with this is that venues haven’t been forced to close and until they do they will carry on won’t they.

I can imagine this time next week there might be another announcement forcing these venues to close, just have a feeling.

I’ve no idea if my wedding can go ahead. I’ll ring tomorrow. I listened to the announcement on the radio driving home and had to pull over to have a small weep.

My venue is deciding tomorrow morning whether they will cancel all events, including my wedding on Saturday. I just wish they’d get it over and done with so I can have a good cry and then not worry about it anymore.

Best of luck @seasonally... I hope it goes however you want it too.

I’m at my venue now. They won’t cancel anything. We’d have to chose it, and lose all our money.

Right now I’d prefer them just to cancel it and book us back in later in the year. I feel like it’s going to be a tense, overshadowed day if it goes ahead.

I hate that the onus is being out on individuals and individual companies who can’t afford to take the hit.

I've just cancelled my hen parties (was having a day one and an evening one). I'm absolutely devastated. Our first Banns were read at church yesterday and have to be read for the next two consecutive Sundays to allow us to marry, so awaiting a statement from the Church of England about how they are proceeding.

Can I just shout (in a terribly non British way)

FUCK IT!!

I’m so devastated I really am. I’ve tried to keep the ‘stiff upper lip’ but nope! I’m fucking entitled to weep a little, to swear a lot and to let it all fucking out!!

to everyone on this thread

I've been in tears to my venue this evening as well. All is still going ahead on Friday, the only way they would cancel is if the government force them to. The trouble is we can't claim on our insurance and they can't claim on theirs until the government have closed them down. What a shit show. I'm devastated but at the same time sat here with a gin thinking the same as @SweetMarmalade FUCK IT!!!!!!

@rumandbiscuits I’m drinking gin too! I’m so sorry for you and your stinking venue and the government

You’re right, they’re dithering and I’m sure given a week they will shut venues down, I could be wrong but I’m thinking they’ll try this approach first.

I’m so sorry for you too.

Fuck it BIG TIME!!

and lots of it required!